When changes happen, are you ready to face it?

There's no way to BE ready, when you are very young. Being "ready" requires experience that only comes from having to deal with it several times first.

The thing is, feelings like "When sparks are gone" don't have a single meaning. When you are just starting out, and think that real love means the energy and joy goes on forever, you might feel fear or anger when that energy falls off, even though you have no idea why it did.

Even later, for many people, "being prepared" is an illusion. They know what they went through on an earlier relationship that failed, but their "preparation" to deal with it next time, is based on the person they left behind, and not the one they are with now.

The main recommendation I have for this, what I tell my children, is to be prepared only to realize you will make mistakes, and don't spend too much time chastising yourself for them. DO put your energy in to learning not to make the same ones again.

Change is inevitable. Relationships take work and effort. But you need to face the fact that they peak and fall and sometimes they free fall so badly the best course is to let it go. Life's too short to be unhappy.

Yes

Depends on the change.

And most importantly it depends on communication.

The better the communication the less any change in a relationship is a "surprise."

Surprises tend to be the reason for bad reactions and decisions.

The less it is a "surprise" the less you have to be ready to "face" it, the more you can simply adapt to it.

there will always be changes, as we age,as we mature. when people get into

relationships most are running on auto with little or no self awareness or

awareness of the important differences between men and women...for example

''attraction is not a choice'' because its a emotional choice not a logical

choice......men and women take in info differently and the we process it

differently.....and a few needs thats are different....there is a lot more to

this you need to learn....do not feel bad because no one poo free, even all

mental health professionals have there ups and downs...only focus on what ''you

do want'' never focus on what you don't want.....good luck...

Sparks will always come and go.
Commitment lasts.

As Igor says, tis hard to understand this when young
as experience feeds it.

But the body simply cannot sustain peak periods of
'sparks'..it would overwhelm the system.

Better to understand, over a lifetime, that love
and attachment can ebb and flow...tis up to the
people involved to work through it.
Maintain it.
Build it daily.
Recognize when the spark is gone and fan the flames.

When sparks are gone...
You just have to rub harder, baby.

You're soooo sentimental.

this way or that way i can cope with it
i always did
no change, no separation, no anything bad kills you
what is the worst that can happen? will i die?
NO !

I WAS SO HAPPY FOR MY PARENTS WHEN THEY FOUND MATURE LOVE BEFORE THEY PASSED...

IT WAS BEAUTIFUL FRIENDSHIP.....WE CAN ALL HAVE IT IF WE TURN DOWN THE NOISE

IN OUR HEADS LONG ENOUGH TO LISTEN.....

YOu're beginning to sound like No1 ... not sure that is a good thing ...

Change doesn't necessarily mean the sparks have gone ...
Life is about change, change is growth.
When the sparks have permanently gone, I suppose it's time to move on.
But I doubt with the right partner, the right way of communicating, not taking each other for granted etc., the spark would die.

Sometimes the in-laws drive a wedge you can't overcome too .

In relationships after your first one it's usually kids that throw a spanner in the works. Either his or yours.
9 out of 10 couples in a 2nd, 3rd etc relationship break up over something to do with the kids. Different style of raising kids, kids being jealous of the new partner or a kid the same age from this new partner etc. etc.
That's why I steer clear from men who still have young kids, which I found odd at that age anyways (50 something).

Even if she says she still loves you and always will but she said she as given up but we both love each other still do I keep trying to get her back she is so wearth it but how I do wonder

No I still want her