Topic: New here and hopeful, but not delusional
Scotty1955's photo
Tue 11/01/16 06:22 PM
This the first time I have been on a dating site, don't know quite what to expect. I'm not naive, but hopeful. Any input from you long timers would be helpful

NotPay4Play's photo
Tue 11/01/16 06:27 PM

This the first time I have been on a dating site, don't know quite what to expect. I'm not naive, but hopeful. Any input from you long timers would be helpful



Welcome to the asylum known as mingle...

I wish you the best of luck....

Hmmm advice?? Well active users are in the forums mostly... Be careful how much info you give out to people.... Trust your gut.... And I usually do not pay attention to a woman's profile that has been inactive over a couple of weeks.... Grow a thick skin and don't take anything personal...

Ummmm. I'm sure I've missed some pointers but enjoy your self.

sybariticguy's photo
Tue 11/01/16 06:41 PM
Welcome glad you joined and wish you well. Its a good idea to be on more than one dating site and more importantly to be on one where you pay a fee as the clientele is differentiated by education and income which for many are desirable. People with no photo or one photo are not being honest as its a form of lying by omission just as the use of euphemisms often masks obesity... If you receive a response from a younger woman look at the top of women who are in her area and see if several are also quite young as these are likely fake and or scammers. People who offer an email in their introduction are likely dishonest and need avoidance/ Requests for emails are best discouraged until a conversation at length has occurred to create a basis for trust before continuing. Its also a good idea not to spend too much time in chats or emails as the issue of possible chemistry cannot be achieved until a face to face meeting. Be aware that many folks do not post accurate data nor honest photos and caution is advised. As for your contribution a well articulated narrative about yourself your interests, work, hobbies, and particular values for yourself and a significant other is also often helpful to potential partners. It is also not a good idea to simply date one person at a time as too much is invested and at the onset everyone is interchangeable and from this one can better determine a match than the slow process of dating a person requires great restraint for no reason as simply dating The process of deciding who is a great partner and allowing oneself to not be biased with expectations simply from a single person may help make your selection process more accurate and clearly defined. Hope you give these serious consideration as like most things important, many are called and few are chosen

purpleunicorn007's photo
Tue 11/01/16 07:46 PM
I'm sorry, but I don't agree with dating more than one person at a time. That's cheating in my book! If you are a true gentleman, you find one you are interested in and you let that one play out whatever the outcome may be. Did you date more than one person while dating your ex??? Just my personal thoughts! Good luck to you.

inni_dreamz's photo
Tue 11/01/16 07:56 PM
Welcome and good luck!

People with one photo are not necessarily "fake" as someone said - I am quite real, but it could indicate they have sort of given up on the idea of actually meeting someone here - and just enjoy the forums.

Sos's photo
Tue 11/01/16 08:02 PM
Welcome. As they say, when the deal is too good think twice. Beauty lies to the eyes of the beer holder.

NotPay4Play's photo
Tue 11/01/16 08:19 PM

Welcome and good luck!

People with one photo are not necessarily "fake" as someone said - I am quite real, but it could indicate they have sort of given up on the idea of actually meeting someone here - and just enjoy the forums.


I agree mostly. Or at least they are like me and that one picture is the only salvaged from the broken camera. Lol.

Scotty1955's photo
Tue 11/01/16 10:24 PM
Thank you all, very useful information

sybariticguy's photo
Wed 11/02/16 05:52 AM

I'm sorry, but I don't agree with dating more than one person at a time. That's cheating in my book! If you are a true gentleman, you find one you are interested in and you let that one play out whatever the outcome may be. Did you date more than one person while dating your ex??? Just my personal thoughts! Good luck to you.
You have described a person who sets their own limits to dating as you are free to date many people as there is no commitment and when the right one arrives it is easy to become more involved as for dating an ex she was one of five that's how I knew that the others were not for me nor me for her....