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Topic: I lost hope with the right woman..
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Thu 01/05/17 02:19 AM
Maybe the think or u look not serious

sybariticguy's photo
Sat 01/07/17 05:41 AM

I agree with you. You have to personalize the message. A generic message of "Hi" leads me to believe they did not take the time to read my profile and that there is not any real interest. I will especially not respond, if they do not have a picture in their profile or have taken the time to input anything into their profile.

Hope this helps :wink:
Yes no photos suggest lying by omission and single word greetings without any identification reflect a lack of etiquette and likely little imagination. A response or inquiry needs to include ones first name or nickname and some information pertinent to the profile that shares something with the person so they have information and then may choose to respond. If they do not respond then simply proceed with another not perseverate about what possible reasons you were not acknowledged...

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Sat 01/07/17 05:46 AM

Oh perfect! Especially respect their preference to redirect you to a porn, MILF, Or cheating Wives web site that want your credit card #. Absolutely respect their preference to act like a Gold Digging Hooker.
Ya know! It's a preference! Gotta respect that! Right?
Yes I responded to a woman and her photo ( she was wearing a very large Mexican sombrero and she then responded.) two responses later she admitted she was not interested but represented Its Just Lunch and she was soliciting my profile for her clients whom would pay her for an introduction to me. I reported this fraud as being pimped is insulting and unethical. I wonder if the clients at Its Just Lunch know she is soliciting men for them on dating sites? Sad how she can justify deception for her income and employment

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Sat 01/07/17 07:17 AM

Is it really difficult to have a little conversations here? I still don't know why most of women don't wanna text back when someone say "hi", i think its called a prejudgment right!??



And I don't understand why people don't fawn over me after I look at them, nod my head, and give a little smile. All that effort and nothing in return...

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Sun 01/08/17 07:20 PM


Asking questions keep the conversation going.

Good luck! happy



Here is something that I've noticed about the great majority of women on dating sites. They never seem to want to ask a man anything about himself. The man has to ask everything about the woman. If he doesn't, he's not showing enough interest. For anyone to have a conversation with another person, there has to be a give and take between them.

One cannot carry the whole conversation by themselves. It would absolutely thrill me for a woman to ask me about myself in conversation. But, in the past 11 years that I've been doing this online thing, I would say that 98% of women never ask me about myself. I find it odd that they go out with me, but never ask anything about me. I find it odd that if I didn't just come out and start telling about myself, they would never know about anything concerning me.

But, if I'm not constantly asking about every aspect of their lives, they think I'm not interested. Shouldn't it work both ways?




Wow! Finally someone to help reinforce what I always experience and none of those relationships worked out did they. 98% in 11 years. Complicatedly misguided.

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Sun 01/08/17 07:30 PM



Asking questions keep the conversation going.

Good luck! happy



Here is something that I've noticed about the great majority of women on dating sites. They never seem to want to ask a man anything about himself. The man has to ask everything about the woman. If he doesn't, he's not showing enough interest. For anyone to have a conversation with another person, there has to be a give and take between them.

One cannot carry the whole conversation by themselves. It would absolutely thrill me for a woman to ask me about myself in conversation. But, in the past 11 years that I've been doing this online thing, I would say that 98% of women never ask me about myself. I find it odd that they go out with me, but never ask anything about me. I find it odd that if I didn't just come out and start telling about myself, they would never know about anything concerning me.

But, if I'm not constantly asking about every aspect of their lives, they think I'm not interested. Shouldn't it work both ways?




Wow! Finally someone to help reinforce what I always experience and none of those relationships worked out did they. 98% in 11 years. Complicatedly misguided.



It's not really all that complicated. Many people only want to talk about themselves. There are basically two types of conversationalists. The type that actually listens and responds to what people say and the other type that wait for a pause so they can continue with whatever they were saying.

I do believe the latter category is much larger.

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Sun 01/08/17 10:02 PM


Asking questions keep the conversation going.

Good luck! happy



Here is something that I've noticed about the great majority of women on dating sites. They never seem to want to ask a man anything about himself. The man has to ask everything about the woman. If he doesn't, he's not showing enough interest. For anyone to have a conversation with another person, there has to be a give and take between them.

One cannot carry the whole conversation by themselves. It would absolutely thrill me for a woman to ask me about myself in conversation. But, in the past 11 years that I've been doing this online thing, I would say that 98% of women never ask me about myself. I find it odd that they go out with me, but never ask anything about me. I find it odd that if I didn't just come out and start telling about myself, they would never know about anything concerning me.

But, if I'm not constantly asking about every aspect of their lives, they think I'm not interested. Shouldn't it work both ways?

Ditto. I've experienced that as a woman.



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Sun 01/08/17 11:34 PM
Edited by Tom4Uhere on Sun 01/08/17 11:38 PM
Profile Pictures:

The pic catches my eye and causes me to read her stats and every single bit of information she has offered.

If I comment on her pictures, no matter what I write it seems to be wrong. If I say wow, you look great in that purple blouse! What were you doing that day because you look like you were having fun, No response. Then women in the forums tell me that they don't respond to the pervs who comment on their looks. ???

When she fills out her interests I look to see if any even remotely agree to mine. My interests are fairly generic because specifics isolates the relation. I am told if my interests are too generic she can't be sure...DUH, I want her to ask me.
I refer to her interests whenever possible, either from her posted list of keywords or what she says in her blurb. No response...

I ask about things she mentions that I don't understand her meaning. I also ask about conflicting data she posted. I look at the background of her images and try to ask something about it. If I see 3 bowls on the table I'll ask how old her kids are, things like that.

When I do get a response to "Hi, I would like to know more about you I think you are a great match from what you have posted. Is there anything you would like to know about me?" It is hi, hello, or some generic salutation. I write back and ask about the weather, how work is going lately or specific questions concerning possible dating and I get no further response or I get, Fine, ok, raining, snowing or some other one worded reply. Then there is no further communication.

If I continue to message her one more time I fear she might think I'm stalking her or something but all I am is interested in her.

I never mention sex unless she mentions it first - so, I have never mentioned sex in any of my messages. I am an adult and looking for an adult relationship with a woman. Eventually we would need to talk about sex. But not right away and not on a dating messenger. Preferably it would be in person.

What I get for first contact is 20-30 year old women that don't smoke and live in places like Los Angeles, New York. They send me email and phone numbers with little or nothing filled out in their profiles. I write back to their "You are handsome" messages with "Well, you didn't read my profile and you gave me your email without knowing me. You are a SCAMMER" I tell them I know they are scammers. Not one has messaged back to deny it.

I do have a few women I talk with in messages. Very nice people but they are not what I am looking for. Most live VERY FAR AWAY from me and we just message back and forth for conversation.

I get lots of views too but no messages, I do message those that view me if their profile fits what I seek. No responses. I look for more than one view from a woman, This indicates she may be on the fence about me. Just message me and ask about it ... sheesh.

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Tue 01/10/17 05:00 PM

I really hope it's not too late! Love is just a clap away!




Do you mean clap is just one love away?

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