Gentlemen exist in all societies. All kind and styles.

Do gentlewomen or gentleladies exist?
How they act? What is a gentlewoman?

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Its interesting that you raised this question jazzinc. Just today I was commenting in another thread that chivalry to me is basically acts of human kindness which shouldnt be confined to just men. Women can open doors, hold a bag for someone and give their seat up for an elderly person on the bus. Therefore to me, a gentle woman is someone who practices kindness and consideration to humanity on the whole

No.
That's why the term "ladies" exists.

Might as well ask "do gentlemen and gentlegentlemen exist?"


Consistently like "ladies."
There's no removing the facade/socialization/identity no matter what the circumstances.

There's never a day of "Ugh, I'm just going to the store for bread real quick so I'll just not bathe, wear these ol' yoga pants I've been wearing for a week, I don't care how I look."

There's no "I just don't GAF right now. I have a headache, been working all day, and you know what? I was kind and respectful yesterday, but right now I just don't feel like it, someone else can do it. I have the right to have a bad day and just be left alone."

There is behavior towards maintaining the equanimity and comfort of the social structure or group in which they find themselves, all while enforcing, abiding by or adhering to group rules and values.


A made up term ultimately stemming from the ravages of PC indoctrination to make all things equal and the same.

Kind and considerate women are many!

Yes, this! And it's rather infuriating, because we're NOT the same and not supposed to be either. We're supposed to complement each other, not become clones.
"Gentleman" basically equals "empowered man" and such a man wouldn't want his woman to be an empowered man. He'd want an empowered woman by his side.
I'm wondering if this hasn't more to do with needing respect. But if you want to be respected by a woman, you cannot disrespect her by demanding she behaves like a man.

It is about respect for the other sex. Men can be gentlemen and women can be a ladies.
Chivalry is not dead, in fact it is a highly desirable quality I look for

A man who is indeed gentle is whom I am intending to meet.

I agree with both Ladywind and Crystal.

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I don't know about others,
but I know that I personally AM A GENTLE man

Alternatively, I also agree what the poster says.

I have to say it is how the man starts or treats the women ...
if they are outlandish or loud ... then they have that style ...

ladies will go with it or not ... but still can be a gentleman ...

I am pretty flexible... so long as they don't get rude ...
and again as you say all kinds of styles ... I can be conversational & sometimes not ... just listen ... I know I used to get loud sometimes at dinner or out or eat ... and get told to lower my voice ... but it is something I am not really aware of ...unless someone tells me ... so i do not get insulted much ... I am nice and lady like when I feel that way ... and treated like a lady ...

agree ... Therefore to me, a gentle woman is someone who practices kindness and consideration to humanity on the whole...
and generally is something they just do and not even think about it ... same with men...

I also think a real gentleman and a real lady simply have a code to live by.... Their moral standard.

terms in today's gender equality
in your face, say what I want
how dare you get offended world...tend to get lost
archaic some say
you must be a throw back to the dinosaur days

all of which ..may be true
a gentlewoman
is not boastful
she is true to herself
she does not pretend to be something other than what she is
she is not defined by today's standards of what is popular or the 'in'thing
she is truthful especially to herself
she is kind when kindness is what is needed
she is patient or tries to be
she is not ashamed of the part of herself that is nurturing
she has a quiet strength that is not 'in your face'
though at times, she does get angry
at the injustices she sees in the world
she has no need to waste her time and energy
in trying to convince you that you are wrong
she leads by example
she takes care of her home, her children and herself

A gentlewoman..?..

Gets out of bed first after having hot monkey sex with you. And brings you a warm cloth to clean yourself up with.... and if she's really a gentlewoman she does it for you.....yup......lol