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| Topic: Are you afraid of the "friend zone?" | |
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Friend zone is a great place. I cant skip over it, personally. IT takes the friendship FIRST, for me, to seriously consider anything MORE SERIOUS. but I do realize the term has been coined as a negative space that one gets 'stuck' in. And I think there are times when thats true, in which case, it sucks to be STUCK in the friend zone most likely, but just to BE in the friend zone, not so much. I agree, looking back, the relationship that lasted the longest was with someone who I was friends with first. We ended up getting married. I think you made a good point msharmony, being "stuck" in the friend zone is what sucks, not being in the friend zone. The "stuck" part happens when one of the two start wanting more than friendship and the other one doesn't want to move past being "just friends". That's where my greatest fear would come in... That I would start falling in love with him and he never reaches that point. But I believe that comes from projecting into the relationship rather than letting it transpire naturally and developing the way it's meant to. When I start imagining what it would be like in the future instead of staying in the moment, that's when the problems begin and the fear intensifies. Staying in the moment and enjoying his company puts me more in the place of appreciating his company and enjoying the time we're having together. I agree. There is another factor in getting stuck in the friend zone. When signals are given you best not let the opportunity slip away, because there will very likely never be another moment. Things tend to get awkward. Yes, I agree. The problem is my radar detector is broke, so unless he gets brave enough and says something, I would most likely be the one who let it slip away. And in my seasonal work and travel situation, that would be sad because I'd end up getting on a plane and going elsewhere. So yes, the chances of there being another moment are greatly reduced to probably never happening. |
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The friend zone is fine during the initial getting to know each other time. If I feel that the "friendship" is going nowhere else, then the friendship is going to be significantly reduced or even though you are a woman, you are going to be treated and expected to behave as any of my male friends would.
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The friend zone is fine during the initial getting to know each other time. If I feel that the "friendship" is going nowhere else, then the friendship is going to be significantly reduced or even though you are a woman, you are going to be treated and expected to behave as any of my male friends would. So, for you it's about what you want not who she is? |
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Edited by
Toodygirl5
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Wed 11/14/18 11:30 AM
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Problem with Many people they associate friends with benefits FWB
I associate friends, as Platonic dates, we have fun and enjoy each others 'company in Outings. Friendship does not involve sex. |
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Problem with Many people they associate friends with benefits FWB I associate friends as Platonic dates we have fun and enjoy each others 'company in Outings. Friendship does not involve sex. Of course friendship involves sex. I'm friends with Li. I'm still friends with my ex-wife. In fact, I've been friends with every woman I've ever had sex with (even if the friendship was as old as an unripened banana). The main problem with friend zone is that most see it as an easy way to avoid confessing they have little sexual desire for someone else. |
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The friend zone is fine during the initial getting to know each other time. If I feel that the "friendship" is going nowhere else, then the friendship is going to be significantly reduced or even though you are a woman, you are going to be treated and expected to behave as any of my male friends would. So, for you it's about what you want not who she is? Sadly the attitude of many males |
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The friend zone is fine during the initial getting to know each other time. If I feel that the "friendship" is going nowhere else, then the friendship is going to be significantly reduced or even though you are a woman, you are going to be treated and expected to behave as any of my male friends would. So, for you it's about what you want not who she is? Sadly the attitude of many males  Yep
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The friend zone is fine during the initial getting to know each other time. If I feel that the "friendship" is going nowhere else, then the friendship is going to be significantly reduced or even though you are a woman, you are going to be treated and expected to behave as any of my male friends would. So, for you it's about what you want not who she is? Sadly the attitude of many males It is true. Believe it or not though, there are some men that truly love WOMEN for who they are not what they represent. |
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The friend zone is fine during the initial getting to know each other time. If I feel that the "friendship" is going nowhere else, then the friendship is going to be significantly reduced or even though you are a woman, you are going to be treated and expected to behave as any of my male friends would. So, for you it's about what you want not who she is? Sadly the attitude of many males It is true. Believe it or not though, there are some men that truly love WOMEN for who they are not what they represent. I know... I do wish more thought like^^^^that. |
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The friend zone is fine during the initial getting to know each other time. If I feel that the "friendship" is going nowhere else, then the friendship is going to be significantly reduced or even though you are a woman, you are going to be treated and expected to behave as any of my male friends would. So, for you it's about what you want not who she is? Sadly the attitude of many males Sadly there is men who have that attitude. But for me, friendship means common ground, mutual support and a bit of craic. For me, this has nothing to do with gender. |
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The friend zone is fine during the initial getting to know each other time. If I feel that the "friendship" is going nowhere else, then the friendship is going to be significantly reduced or even though you are a woman, you are going to be treated and expected to behave as any of my male friends would. So, for you it's about what you want not who she is? Sadly the attitude of many males Sadly there is men who have that attitude. But for me, friendship means common ground, mutual support and a bit of craic. For me, this has nothing to do with gender. But it does have to do with gender. Women are amazing. Most men want women. They miss all the amazing things about them. Women are WAY MORE perceptive about men than vice versa. |
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For a partner I want someone that is my best friend. It takes time to know if a guy can be your best friend and if you're compatible for something long term. Although not every guy you develop a friendship with will turn into anything but friends. So where do you start to find that out? I'd think a friendship. |
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" In the words of famous turn of the century singer, How can we be lovers if we can't be friends?"
nice word. 1- To be just beloved without friends. 2- be both friends and lovers. This is the preferred status. As a result, people will make a choice. for me; Can I make the first option? I do not know this. but I don't think I can. Because I'm not very talented about it. the second option; I think it would be spontaneous without realizing it. so I'm guessing it would be without spending much effort. |
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Edited by
JOHNN111
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Wed 11/14/18 01:34 PM
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(Usual suspects modified movie quote)
I don't believe in friendzones but I'm afraid of them |
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The friend zone is fine during the initial getting to know each other time. If I feel that the "friendship" is going nowhere else, then the friendship is going to be significantly reduced or even though you are a woman, you are going to be treated and expected to behave as any of my male friends would. So, for you it's about what you want not who she is? Sadly the attitude of many males It is true. Believe it or not though, there are some men that truly love WOMEN for who they are not what they represent. I know... I do wish more thought like^^^^that. Sure there's lots like that on TV but if you want the real world scenario you have to get your head out of the clouds. Men will be men and there's no two things about .... haven't you heard about the scorpion and the frog story? |
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The friend zone is fine during the initial getting to know each other time. If I feel that the "friendship" is going nowhere else, then the friendship is going to be significantly reduced or even though you are a woman, you are going to be treated and expected to behave as any of my male friends would. So, for you it's about what you want not who she is? Sadly the attitude of many males It is true. Believe it or not though, there are some men that truly love WOMEN for who they are not what they represent. I know... I do wish more thought like^^^^that. Sure there's lots like that on TV but if you want the real world scenario you have to get your head out of the clouds. Men will be men and there's no two things about .... haven't you heard about the scorpion and the frog story? You're not condescending at all, are you? Just go ahead and tell her how she is supposed to think and what the world is like. Perhaps you've been watching too much TV and been led to think all men are the same. Newsflash pal, I'm not the same as you and from where I sit that seems just fine to me. |
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Yeah I suppose that's the lie we tell women to get to their pants but I'll pass .
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Yeah I suppose that's the lie we tell women to get to their pants but I'll pass . No, the thing is some of us actually love women and others want them. Sure, they might love a woman for what she gives them, but they do not love WOMEN. Speak for yourself, because I sure as hell do not want you speaking for me or men. |
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At my age they're all in the "friend zone". At your age? People in their 80s in old ppl homes still have sex, fall in love, flirt, get married. So it's not "At my age", it's choice. |
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If its all about friendship
I might go to summer camp 
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