Why are so many guys turned off by ladies who want to marry before giving up sex? Aren't there any guys left who still respect and honor that covenant? I want a relationship built upon respect, love, friendship, and yes sex after marriage. Is it really too much to ask for these days?

they want to sample the goods

I understand that, but the goods are supposed to be savored and relished, and protected.

i can respect that, nothing wrong with waiting till marriage.

I can respect that and I can also wait.

I have no problem waiting, since I never had sex and I don't plan on having it until the right woman comes along and we are both happy lee marryed. If not then it must be a hooker ( joking on the hooker part ).

well alot of guys will answer you with a question, that goes like this. you dont buy a car without test driving it right?



now in my younger days before i had sex the first time i didnt have a problem. but things have changed

Well it's NOT just guys for starters!

And second, it just makes SENSE!

Let make this one EASY..."Hey Tina..will you marry me???"

Well of course she won;t!! Why? Because she does not even KNOW me! So, we date, get to know each other, fall in love, etc, etc..but NOT have sex???

Any marriage counselor..one of the first three questions to a couple...and MANY times the FIRST question is.. "How's your sex life?"

Hmmm..WHY such a question?? Facts are facts folks! we are SEXUAL creatures too!

I don;t do or condone "bed hopping", but sex is a fact of life for ALL of us! So there is NOTHING wrong about having sex with someone "special" (meaning there is friendship, caring, etc) And for some, just bed hopping works (both men AND women do this)

So to each thier own. If you want to wait..then wait. But don;t expect your partner to feel the same way.

Good luck!

i'm sorry but i just don't like relish on my taco.....


if a guy can't find some other outlet for that kind of stuff then they apparently have very little self control. i haven't had sex in quite some time (and i'm talking years!) and granted i'm slightly insane but the point here is in can be done.

Yeah, same here. I've been married, I hated it, I can't see ever doing that again unless I suffer a massive head injury resulting in the removal of 85.2% of my brain mass.

So that means I should never have sex again?

Nah, that ain't a-gonna work for me....

omg lex

In this day and age you should be proud that you want to wait.

When you find the one that wants to wait too- then you have someone who respects you.

lmao lex.!!!!!

I understand that waiting for marriage is not right for everyone, but I am just looking for ONE MAN that is willing to get to know me, allow me to get to know him, and then respect and care enough for me to wait. It seems that when I tell guys that I'm waiting, they immediately lose interest, they don't want to even be friends.

Wait wait wait wait MsTeddy,

You know I respect your opinion..but in that statement you make it sound like if you have sex before marriage, then your partner will not "respect" you.

That's simply NOT true. making love to someone, even out of wedlock, in no way is a disrespect to anything or anyone.

If both people feel the same way and no one is "pressured" or feels "obligated" to have sex..then its fine. It's when you get married..then you are OBLIGATED to it!!

then there not friends worth havin, i respect you for wanting to wait for the right guy to come along.!!! cheers

thanks for the support

why buy the cow when you get the milk for free? Buy the cow then get the milk for free

dang.. never married and 36 thats a long wait! all i gotta say is if i were to marry someone id want to make sure it worked cause that could tend to cause some issues later...gl on your wait! hope its not another 36 yrs

Don't get me wrong, I love sex, but I just started seeing a girl over a month ago and she is waiting until marriage. I totally respect that, I don't really need sex. If our relationship lasts, I can definitely wait until marriage or whenever she decides she is ready.

thats some hardcore strength u have there! congrats