i reside in same town as my ex,she speaks to me i reply but truly try to find reason to ignore most of what shes saying lol seems other then our grand childern i have no need or desire to knowor care whats going on in her life, i think what do you want,and when i die do not show up ,i,ll be dead but still past is past and you,re history hopw many feel or felt this way

Been there-just try to be civil with mine...seems to make things better than the alternative....

I agree completely - when things are done they are done. It's cool to stay friends if both people want it but otherwise just move on with your life.

My ex and i are good friends even if he lives sooo far away but it took a long time to get to be civil to each other for our daughter...i dont love him anymore at all but i love a part of him...my daughter!!

I don't talk to my ex at all. Just better for the both of us.

You still have to forgive and forget , I know it is hard , been there done that , but we have to to really go on.. Randy

i guess it depends on how bad they treated you.i was mentaly abused for 2 yrs so theres no forgiveness

im civil with my ex for my sons sake.....where children are invloved you got at least try...unless completely useless

I don't even have a gram of respect for my ex (my girls dad or shall I say sperm doner)

Though never having been married, I respect all my ex lovers - I guess that's 'cause I pick those with lasting qualities.

I actually am pretty good friends with my ex wife and we get along pretty well. Which is good because we have a 4 year old daughter together. But I think if we never had a child together, we probably wouldn't keep in contact with each other. But I respect her a lot. She is a great person and I wish her all the happiness in life.

Now my ex-girlfriend, that's a different story. I could care less if I ever see or hear from her or even about her again!!! She's a piece of work. Very dishonest and just plain messed up!!!

Staying angry and bitter serves no purpose!

Out of respect for what you once shared, it is best to forgive and just try to be civil. If that is not possible and you don't need to have any contact, move on and learn from it!

And maybe they don't.

All my Ex's live in Texas............

i have no respect for any of them..

my x isnt worth the air it would take to speak to her

Well, I can certainly understand if cute little devil was named after his dad.

jtip ~ my remarks were not directed at you, just general observations. Sounds like you've been mature about things with the ex-wife. Important when children are involved!

An ex is an ex for a reason! There is no need to talk, see, or anything else with them. Unless you have children together.

Sperm donor about sums up mine too, Fresh. Although I will admit it wasn't clinical and a heck of a lot more fun. His choice to miss out on the kids lives. Respect him? That would have to be a no.