Topic: yep love hurts
canubetheone's photo
Mon 02/04/08 03:03 PM
yep love hurts i usually answer people post but never posted one before bout relationship. well i was talking to this guy for 4 months he was in texas an was suppose to come up in 3 weeks to see me well i suggested we waited a little longer till he could find a place got bent out of shape an said he was going to seatle. well after today i know his true colors. I was in a long relationship before him for 10yrs you think its my fault to suggest that? he was blamming me for things an not him. I guess long distance really don't work sad

itsmetina's photo
Mon 02/04/08 03:05 PM
ur better off to find out now did yall ever meet

Urg04es's photo
Mon 02/04/08 03:05 PM
I don't think distance has anything to do with it-I was dating a guy in the same town and he just all of a sudden started blaming everything on bi-polar. Well I had to say bi bi.

canubetheone's photo
Mon 02/04/08 03:08 PM
that wierd cause he actually does have bi polar an thanks for the help this is a great site if u see anyone saying anything bout me it would be him he threaten to say things on here bout me to other people

Urg04es's photo
Mon 02/04/08 03:10 PM
I can assure you if he says anything that remotely describes you-he will be booted off-I was complaining about someone and I guess my description made it all to clear who it was and I got my forum erased. Sorry moderators-my bad.
flowerforyou

MsTeddyBear2u's photo
Mon 02/04/08 03:11 PM
Its not distance...
Its the person...
Sorry... flowerforyou
Be glad you got to know the real them...

lifedesigner's photo
Mon 02/04/08 03:11 PM
I had to read that several times before I even understood anything. You need to be more clear if you're looking for any type of response...

Tell us again what you suggested he wait for? To find a place? Was he planning to move there before actually meeting you or what? I'm lost.

Based on what you say, I have to say you're the one obviously not ready for a relationship - and he was just making a good judgment call.

4 Months of work and you just blow the poor guy off...I would have quit calling too.

Urg04es's photo
Mon 02/04/08 03:13 PM
Was it Lifedesigner you just broke up with????? LOL! Sorry LD-I couldn't resist. laugh laugh flowerforyou

lifedesigner's photo
Mon 02/04/08 03:13 PM

Was it Lifedesigner you just broke up with????? LOL! Sorry LD-I couldn't resist. laugh laugh flowerforyou

Haha..

canubetheone's photo
Mon 02/04/08 03:15 PM
it was four months of talking he was gonna find work but i suggested to wait an then he said he was gonna go some where else now he won't stop calling he called me a ***** an threatend me buy saying i will get what i desrve an that now right

rjforty's photo
Mon 02/04/08 03:15 PM
I was in along distance relationship for a coupel years. It started out jsut 100 miles apart, but due to a job change, it ended up beiong 500 miles for about 9 months. We made it thru that. What ended it was from something entirely different then distance apart.
Bipolar is a nasty mental illness. Whne it is properly treated, no problem. But an unmedicated BiPolar? RUN AWAY!!!

lifedesigner's photo
Mon 02/04/08 03:17 PM
Edited by lifedesigner on Mon 02/04/08 03:20 PM


I was in a long-distance relationship for 3 years - only saw her about 5-6 months of each year. We ultimately broke off an engagement for her career and my inability to work professionally(with good pay) in Lithuania...so I do think it's possible to maintain(although expensive) a LD relationship...

I also just met someone on this site - very unexpectedly actually - and have started an amazing relationship with her. Things happen when we least expect them I suppose.


canubetheone's photo
Mon 02/04/08 03:17 PM
thank you all for everything the good part is i have a computer an he don't lol it was hard to even start a relatiosnhip after a year of just ending one. but to start a long distance one. now he won't stop calling an leaving me threats on my phone. glad i got my friends on jsh love this sitedrinker drinker drinker drinker

MirrorMirror's photo
Mon 02/04/08 03:21 PM
flowerforyou

lifedesigner's photo
Mon 02/04/08 03:24 PM
So the guy had no job, no pc, and was trying to work(respectable) and you just blew him off...

So basically he chose to go where he could make some lunch money instead of coming to you like he planned - a move which you thwarted by not being ready after 4 months of talking...

What the hell were you thinking in the first place? Not that I'm assuming that you're living the life of a queen or anything...

canubetheone's photo
Mon 02/04/08 03:26 PM
oh im not he had it all plan to come here kept saying he was gonna find work an all then all of a sudden just dropped that on me today the weird part of it all is he called me the b word an a moron an said i will get what i deserve cause i told him not come at all. men lol that ok i still got my friends drinks for ya all drinker drinker drinker drinker drinker

brian325's photo
Mon 02/04/08 04:36 PM
So sorry Canube, you deserve better and not to be called names either. flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou

Jeepinfool's photo
Mon 02/04/08 08:10 PM

yep love hurts i usually answer people post but never posted one before bout relationship. well i was talking to this guy for 4 months he was in texas an was suppose to come up in 3 weeks to see me well i suggested we waited a little longer till he could find a place got bent out of shape an said he was going to seatle. well after today i know his true colors. I was in a long relationship before him for 10yrs you think its my fault to suggest that? he was blamming me for things an not him. I guess long distance really don't work sad

cut the guy some slack its no easier on him to have a long distance relationship, than you and it sounded to me like he was excited to meet only to get shot down at the last minute. i feel for the guy, don't blame him for you getting cold feet, thats pretty harsh stuff if you ask me. i would be alittle upset myself, granted it is your decision, but don't be surprised when this happens again, when you balk at meeting someone. take a chance, don't let your previous fiasco, ruin your ability to be happy...

canubetheone's photo
Mon 02/04/08 08:43 PM
i like it how people get things wrong it was me that got hurt here not him, either im not wording things right or people are just going for the guys point of view. he was the one the kept changing the meeting time finally told me he was going to go work some where else before he comes here. finally found out his true side. he got one me twice it wasn't my fault at all. i was being nice to him.