Questions about Dating and Relationships – It is often common to have certain doubts or several questions in your mind about your date or a relationship. It is absolutely normal to have these questions, so if you do, I hope it makes you feel better to know that you’re not the only one. We have collected 5 frequently asked questions about dating and relationships, along with their answers. We hope you find the answer to your question in this.
How do I know someone really loves me and is not just after having sex with me?
This is one of the most asked questions about Dating and Relationships, especially by the ladies. One thing to note is, it is almost impossible to separate a man’s likeness for you from his wanting to have sex with you. Truth is – a guy who likes you and one who doesn’t – both most likely want to have sex with you even on the first day. It would rather more appropriate to rephrase the question to: “How do I distinguish between one who just wants to have sex with me and one who is willing to invest his time to know me?“.
This way, it is easier to answer: Time is the test, because at first, the guy who loves you will want to be around you, and there will never be any time in the world that is enough to spend with you. It’s hard to say the same about the one who doesn’t, he wouldn’t have time for you.
Another test is patience. If a guy really wants something serious with you, when you deprive him of sex at the initial, he could be patient. However, ultimately because that is all he wants, clearly unlike one who just wants to have sex, no sex! Since you can’t give him what he wants, he doesn’t stick around for much longer.
When should I have sex with someone?
This is a rather personal question. No one can really say when it is best for you. However, you should get to know someone before you first short or long term, especially if what you want is a serious relationship, not just some hookups.
Although, it is a misconception that men losing interest in you when you have sex with them early on. The period of sex has nothing to say about a man’s interest in you long term, this is rather dependent on your personality, how comfortable are you with yourself?
My boyfriend won’t post my pictures on social media. Why is he keeping our relationship a secret, does it mean we are not really a couple?
This is a rather funny one, but it is really common. First off, please do not use social media as a yardstick to measure the status of your relationship.
Also, let illustrate with the idea we all have about that our particular friend who shares every bit of his/her relationship on social media: quarrels, dates, hangouts, breakups, makeup, etc. Lame, right? Exactly, don’t be that person, it is important you strike a balance, share once in a while but be careful not to overdo it. Moreover, sharing your relationship with the public often puts a lot of pressure on it, and can attract stalkers and naysayers, it could ruin everything. Just learn to know what to share, when to share, what not to, and when not to.
Another thing noteworthy is the nature of boys and girls: girls live to show the world that which they love – “uh, I got a new purse”. Posted. New shoes – posted. Well, this is not really the case with guys mostly, they believe in secrecy somewhat, so they don’t go around sharing your pictures on social. That is because they believe a diamond shouldn’t be publicly displayed often, to avoid losing it.
What are some of the major features of a long-lasting relationship
For a relationship to last, both parties have to respect each other. Respect is very crucial I’m a relationship, it reduces friction in the relationship, it acts as a lube.
Love is another feature of a long-lasting relationship, you have kept the love alive, spend time together, cherish each other, you have to love your date and like his personality. Love shouldn’t be based on sex and romance, else it won’t foster respect and ultimately won’t last.
Forgiveness is another key feature, it is impossible not to have misunderstandings with your date. Yes, couples argue too, but it is important not to keep count of each other’s transgressions.
A long-lasting relationship has to do with commitment and dedication, both parties have to do all they can to make it work.
Why do I always attract the wrong people?
This is part of the process of finding love. You will rarely attract the right person initially, this is why some people believe dating is a numbers game. But look at it this way, everybody you meet has certain qualities you will discover you definitely do and do not want to see in your significant other. Use this as a filter, look out for those undesirable qualities in the next person, and decide if he is right or wrong. This way, you will eventually find someone who is compatible with you.
But you don’t conclude a person is not right for you because of certain behaviors you see, and have not told the person about. No one is perfect and as imperfect as you are, no one can be exactly perfect for you. What you should look out for instead is the willingness to change, is he/she willing to stop certain behaviors because of you?
Another thing is self-evaluation, it isn’t enough to blame it on the other party for not being right, there just might be something about you that keeps attracting the wrong people. Take a break, and reexamine yourself.
The journey of finding love is not always rosy, keep pushing and searching, and it will happen for you. Did we miss out on any questions you have about relationships and dating? Then, please reach out to us on the topics and issues you want to be covered, we will be most happy to oblige.
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