The craziness is still continuing, over 20 years later.

Message me if you really want a beautiful woman. I don't check replies on this topic area.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, yes, but when the majority of men of all backgrounds, classes and ethnicities tell you constantly for decades that you're beautiful, or merely stare at you.. or you have been chosen as a model or actress, I think you are what the general populace considers pretty, very attractive, or beautiful.

20 years ago, my sister and I couldn't understand why the plainer, less-attractive, less outgoing women with not-so-nice personalities were snapped up and married, while we got all the stares, compliments, and jerky behavior. Or.. we were completing ignored, repeatedly, at parties and receptions for less-attractive, louder women, despite our smiling disposition. What is UP with that? Do you even want to get to know me, or is your sole purpose in life just to throw compliments at a beautiful looking woman? I truly do not get it. Don't you want a lady who conducts herself without screaming or laughing uproariously in public?

Do you have any desire to know me or have a real relationship,to get married and look at that beauty every day, like you do with all the other average women? Why not?? I know what it's like to constantly get male attention (and some female!) in public places from complete strangers on a daily basis, and in the workplace. What is the point of all this? It never leads to a marriage proposal, or even sex! Then, I read that people envy this and say we should be 'lucky' to get this kind of attention. YOU are the lucky ones, being married at least once by the age of 44 and having a regular sex life with someone who shows daily that they care about you and provide for you in many ways. You are so insecure that you think some other man will be interested in your woman, so you choose the less attractive one, every time? I knew movie-star-good-looking men, and I just presumed other women would want them.. so what?

There are some theories floating around out there about why men 'settle' for less-attractive women, and mostly it comes down to being rejected by the more attractive ones. What kind of self esteem do women have that they know a guy married them as second or third choice? Yet, that is the majority of couples you see around you since at least 1996. The fatness just didn't exist in such huge numbers in the 1960's through 1980's, for example. So, just be honest and admit that you settled! Or that you are letting intimidation get the better of you, and stop doing that! These average-looking women don't have any better personalities than us, they don't 'do' sex acts any better or with more variety than us, that's all b.s. Being 'the best' (according to more than one man I dated) did not get me marriage proposals.

Today I was called a 'beauty' by a man I've known for nearly 6 years , and was very shocked. He said 'I will flirt with you anytime'. Most of these men have girlfriends or wives! What are they coming up to me for? I get nothing out of it. And if I'm so beautiful and hot, why haven't I been married several times to the hot actors out there, especially some of those brit/irish ones ? They've seen my photo! (I'm an actress myself). I never had one of them call me a 'beauty' or hot. Then, I hear men always tell me 'they don't know what they're missin.. I'd go out with you,I'd marry you', blah blah. All talk, no action..they have a gf,etc. and never do.

Do you not see the insult in that? People who think it is a compliment to be spoken to this way are wrong. We remained lonely and alone, year after year, because men who stare and smile and throw passing compliments when they see me or my photos, good and crude 'compliments', do not keep us warm every night. They don't give us a happy marriage and home that we can build together. They don't give us a family or anything but stares, smiles and compliments. Why do men do that? Just to waste time?

I didn't come on dating websites to work as an unpaid clerk who weeds out scam accounts, either, as that is all these sites have been in recent years. 99% of messages I've received on various sites are scams or fake accounts. It is not my job to keep scammers off of dating websites, with your 'report this to us and block' commands. That is for the webs designers and web creators to handle, not people who are seriously looking for someone serious about starting a relationship.

I Agree it's complex for our understanding, and there is an innate, detailed order to the universe.

Take it from me: Beauty does not mean instant relationship, and it does not mean we all are in relationships, either! Many beautiful women can't find a date because men are so intimidated and afraid of being rejected that they won't even bother to approach. Or, they say they are not intimidated, then they meet you and they are. Btw: It is another woman who long ago suggested that men are probably intimidated by me when it comes to romance... and I don't use a script. The less-attractive women are usually chosen over us when it comes to long term relationships with good men. Men have stereotypical ideas about very pretty/goodlooking women vs. who they want to be the mother of their child (ren).

I look like mine,because they were just taken a few weeks ago!

Thank God I've experienced that. I also never knew it was possible to get the actual feeling of being weak in the knees when sitting down and being kissed, but it happened! I LOVE the irish men!!!

This has been an issue. I love kissing!!! One of the top things on earth. It is the best. I knew someone who did not want to kiss. I found that really odd, and wondered why? Never dated a man before who didn't want to kiss me! I told him he was the best kisser ever, the rare times he did kiss me.

Really? Where are these men that love a beautiful woman with a 3.80 GPA in pre-medical school classes (me), that has her own things going on and is very busy between working very hard and college? Because I'm right here. I kept all my activities when I fell in love, kept studying while letting him know which days I was available, and the relationships always ended. I supported every man I dated, emotionally and with the ra ra cheerleader support for their ambitions at work and in life.

Men say they want a beautiful,intelligent, independent woman, then they say things to me like 'Don't be an RN, that's too hard. Just be an STNA'. Or they call me 'genius', out of jealousy for their own feelings of inadequacy? Most alpha males have been snapped up, apparently. Where are the men that are not intimidated by any woman, because they have their own thing going on? I ask 'Are you going to pay my bills? Then what are these comments about my career really about?"

OR... have something of your own going on (career wise, friendwise, etc.)so I can marry you in order for you to give me children and quit your job and stay at home? Is that it? I missed the boat, being over 40. Guess I was too independent for them.