Is an activity partner the same thing as a friend with benefits?

I'm from Illinois and all but one man I've ever known has been "cut". So I guess it depends on where you are from if you should tell her or not!

Since most are, why would you worry about bringing it up... sorry for the pun.... lol

ok, I'm confused... aren't most men cut? I would want to know before you whipped it out that you were NOT cut.... just saying

just had a friend have a guy woo her for 20 days from another country. said he was coming to her area to live. Then he said he sent his belongings ahead. Then she got a note asking if she would pay $500 to get his belongings out of customs.... SCAMMER ALERT!!!! Poor thing, really thought he was the one...

especially if they want money.... and are from Nigeria....

it's just not the same as someone else's hand... did I just say that?

I can't win.... when I was married I didn't want it and now 10 years later I do.... women in their 40s should date men in their 20s.... that's all I got to say.... oh no, here come the emails....

That's what I said!!!!

Well I don't want to be a part of THAT club!!!! So I'm in a great relationship with no sex.... geez, which is better -get along with your man and no sex or fight and have great makeup sex????

You guys are cracking me up!

Could you live without sex if everything else in a relationship is great? I'm not asking because I don't want to have it.... just so you know.... : 0

don't think I'm in love with him... to soon for me to tell.

ok, this is making me so sad, I wonder if I should try to make it work... see how confused I am about relationships! He's so nice but if there is no physical attraction for me I dont' know how to handle it. It's always been important to me that the men I'm with are sexually attracted to me and now I have someone who is wanting more than just sex... hello???? what the hell????? never been in that situation! LOL

thanks. just really bad at telling men I'm not into them. been hurt so many times I have a hard time being the one to hurt.

I agree... just don't want to hurt him. He's been hurt really bad and I just tried to be there for him but now its just not a spark or anything. Keep hoping he sees it to but no such luck!

ok, so if he feels more for me than I do, and i want to remain his close friend, how to I tell him without breaking his heart? He was in the process of a divorce where his ex pulled up a uhaul while he was out of town and took what she wanted from the household when we met. I can't bear to hurt this great guy... but I know dragging it on is really shitty.

I think he feels more for me than I feel... but then again I dont' feel much of anything anymore from being hurt so much. So I dont know whether to try to feel more for someone who cares so much for me. Does that make sense. He is a wonderful guy but I am so afraid of men now I am wishy washy! LOL

to start, I've had a hell of a lot of really bad relationships so I'm not sure what is good and what is not. I've been with a guy for 7 months now and I don't know whether to try to improve or move on. we have pretty good communication, hardly any physical relations (he had a stroke and its not a good thing for him anymore - me i could have it once or twice a week, but not complaining). We seem to be just friends but he says he cares deeply for me and I'm not sure what I feel. I'm so confused on this... I sometimes just want to end it but then he helps me with so much and i try to return the favor. Is no chemistry a sign to move on? I've had a lot of chemistry that didn't work so I'm really messed up on this one! HELP!!!!

thanks everyone. gave me a lot to think about. I do think he is being honest and not a player, just never felt this way about someone so fast and not sure what to do with the feelings I'm having.

I will definitely keep my profile up and keep seeing others while he is doing the same..... will let you know the end of the drama! LOl