First, Fear:

First acknowledge.
-what is important
-what will make you a better person
-what makes you react into taking actions


Boldness Shows the Way, Fear Included:

You act what you have intend to do
in your thoughts,
even in the presence of fear.


So first, we can choose to be bold:

What you have planned, what you have in mind,
you put into action.
You step up.
You get out of your comfort zone.


Courage is Your Savior When Fear Arrives:

No matter what will happen,
you are ready to face
and take on,
whatever would be the result
of you, conquering your fear.


Instead of us resisting fear, it can no longer resist us:

Commitment in what you have decided.
Standing your ground and what you believe in.
Even if you will be judged or rejected after
or be hurt after conquering your fear.

The Warrior Team of Courage and Boldness:

While other people have warrior teams Pansytilly
Others have only themselves, to rely on.

This kind of post Pansytilly is what why other
people go back in the forum,
even if they loose hope
in finding their Mr./Ms. Neverbealone
they come back, to grow, to learn.

For other people they are just words right now Pansytilly,
it will take time (even years).
to put it all into action.


One day at a time.
What is signigicant is-
by just even reading this post
we are enriched and
we re-evaluate our take of things.
One day at a time.

mimic -
imitate (someone or their actions or words), typically in order to entertain or ridicule.

goad -
provoke or annoy (someone) so as to stimulate some action or reaction.


if u want money - start working for yourself, get a decent job.
if u want pity - keep the newbies coming and stay as you are.
if u want real attention - start with being yourself.
if u want to heal yourself - start with remorse.

I will drink to this



Failure teaches us. yes.
But so does experiences of other people.

Failure teaches us. yes.
But so does books, movies, TV Programs, and others.

Everyone fails at one time or another in one's life
that is what makes us humans.

But we do not need to fail every time we need to learn.
We can still be cautious, gauging, thorough & diligent
and still learn without failing.

It is the effort we give to things we want to learn,
that would matter in the long run.
If we really wanted to learn.

I am always a bit nervous on a date Ms. Crystal,
so I am kind of always "stay in that moment"

Sometimes, I overthink.
So I have to strive harder to "stay in that moment"

Sometimes, I do not get what the guy means hahaha
that is always my cue, not to "stay in the moment"
and take time to figure it out myself,
before I will acquiesce for a 2nd date on that guy,
if I think, its worth the trouble.

Lots of laughter and music most of the time,
helps me "Stay in that moment"
till it is time for me & my date to decide
if a 2nd date is good for both of us
or would just be a waste of time:)

Just sayin:)

the punchline is hilarious
because it is realistic

Movies:

1. August Rush
2. The Last Samurai
3. Lord of the Rings Trilogy
4. Hitch
5. 300 and The Notebook ( sorry for the 5th spot)

TV Series:

1. Macgyver
2. Ally Mcbeal
3. Game of Thrones
4. Family Guy
5. Friends

On: Being grateful we are in Mingle

We tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.

-Frederick Keonig

On: Let's take it easy, one day at a time.

Life is like an ice-cream cone, you have to lick it one day at a time.

-Charles M. Schulz

Previous Mingle Crush

Cool.
Exquisite taste in music.

New Mingle Crush

(this is just the way I see him)

Different from the others,
He does not stand out
but his words always
makes sense.

He is not cool
but he is observant.

He is not a poet,
but his words
have impact.

Not everyone likes him,
or approves of him,
maybe that is why
I have a crush on him.

Soul recognize each other by the way they feel,
not by the way they look.

True.

Soul recognize each other
by the way it pierces,
Soul recognize each other
by the way it haunts,
Soul recognize each other
by the way it makes you whole.



Have not experienced it.
But it is my hope to experience it:)

Sunscreen - Baz Luhrman

Ladies and Gentleman,
Wear sunscreen.
If I could offer you only one tip for the future,
sunscreen would be it.
The long term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists,
whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable
than my own meandering experience...
I will dispense this advice now.

Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth;
oh never mind; you will not understand the power
and beauty of your youth until they have faded.

But trust me, in 20 years you'll look back at photos
of yourself and recall in a way you can't grasp now
how much possibility lay before you and
how fabulous you really looked...
You're not as fat as you Imagine.

Don't worry about the future; or worry,
but know that worrying is as effective
as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubblegum.
The real troubles in your life
are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind.
The kind that blindside you at 4pm on some idle Tuesday.

Do one thing everyday that scares you.

Sing.

Don't be reckless with other people's hearts,
don't put up with people who are reckless with yours.

Floss.

Don't waste your time on jealousy;
Sometimes you're ahead,
Sometimes You're behind.
The race is long, and in the end, it's only with yourself.

Remember the compliments you receive, forget the insults;
If you Succeed in doing this, tell me how.

Keep your old love letters, throw away your old bank statements.

Stretch.

Don't feel guilty if you don't know
what you want to do with your Life.
The most interesting people I know
didn't know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives,
some of the most interesting 40 year olds I know still don't.

Get plenty of calcium.

Be kind to your knees, you'll miss them when they're gone.

Maybe you'll marry, maybe you won't,
maybe you'll have children,
maybe you won't, maybe you'll divorce at 40,
maybe you'll dance the funky chicken
on your 75th wedding anniversary.
Whatever you do, don't Congratulate yourself too much
or berate yourself either.

Your choices are half chance, so are everybody else's.
Enjoy your body, Use it every way you can...
Don't be afraid of it, or what other people Think of it,
It's the greatest instrument you'll ever own...

Dance... even if you have nowhere to do it but in your own living room.

Read the directions, even if you don't follow them.

Do not read beauty magazines, they will only make you feel ugly.

Get to know your parents, you never know when they'll be gone for good.

Be nice to your siblings;
They are the best link to your past
and the people most likely to stick with you in the future.

Understand that friends come and go,
but for the precious few you should hold on.
Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography
and lifestyle because the older you get,
the more you need the people you knew when you were young.

Live in New York City once, but leave before it makes you hard;
Live in Northern California once, but leave before it makes you soft.

Travel.

Accept certain inalienable truths, prices will rise,
politicians will Philander, you too will get old,
and when you do you'll fantasize
that when you were young prices were reasonable,
politicians were noble and children respected their elders.

Respect your elders.

Don't expect anyone else to support you.
Maybe you have a trust fund,
Maybe you have a wealthy spouse;
but you never know when either one might run out.

Don't mess too much with your hair,
or by the time you're 40, it will look 85.

Be careful whose advice you buy,
but, be patient with those who supply it.
Advice is a form of nostalgia,
dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal,
wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts
and recycling it for more than it's worth.

But trust me on the sunscreen...

It always matters to me.

Why else would I
take time to write long posts
if I dont.

It is the degree of how much it matters to me,
because it is different in each person I interact.

It matters very much if I respect that person.
It matters very much if I hate disappointing that person.
It matters very much if I want an approval of that person.
I always do my best to make it right,
not for that person-
but selfishly for myself :)

It matters if I like the person,
it challenges me at a certain point.
What matters more is his/ her acceptance
after he/she sees both bad & good in me.
I do not like to change myself for others.
I certainly would like to improve myself though.

It even matters if I do not like the person,
Part of me, makes me want to let them think the worst of me.
Part of me, is always curious of their perspective & motive.
I do not mind at all if he/she cant accept me.
Part of me is even thankful & relieved that he/she cant accept
my being me:)

Each paragraph is
for a specific Mingler.

Wish I can say,
I regret it,
but I respect you
enough
to honestly say
I really mean it.

It is short but distinctive.
It is concise but speaks
of kaleidoscope of emotions.
It is short but tells
a long story of lessons.

It's a prose & a poem.
but above all it is what it is,
a form of rebuke.

I will always respect your words Ms. Rains.
Know that I am a loyal fan,
and will always see you as an inspiration.

I kind of wish this poem is for me Miss Im..hahahaha
I could learn from this one big time
I truly learn on that "To Never Ever assume Ms. Im (I really do)

Uhm, by the way 2nd to the last paragraph of my latest "post a feeling is for you" (peace..hahaha)

On serious note:

Wish you can still participate on this thread,
yours has always been prose,
soul, spirit - raw
I do not even read it as words,
but as healing touch,
an oasis away from pretensions.

I can only hope that you will have a change of heart
in the participation part:)
But even if your heart wont change,
I will understand, I will bow.

Know that I will always hope,
that it may be or may not be on this thread,
I will have the chance to languish again & again
in your own unique poetry Miss Im.

Miss you more.

August Rush
Freddie Highmore

Must we always fight?
Must we always argue?
Can we not just respect
each others perspective
and move on?

We dont always need to agree
Sometimes, it is
more reasonable to disagree.

Can you not respect me enough
to let me fight my own way,
if I feel the need to.

Must I always be saved
and comforted
when all I want is just
to inform,correct, admire,
uplift & give my own take.

Must I always need to justify
myself, I never ask you to
prove yourself.

Must I always be responsible
of how you interpret my words?

Have I not been brave enough
to approach my mingle crush
ask him in the forum
if his songs are for me,
get promptly rejected,
took it in stride
& learn my lessons well
never ever to assume again.
Does that not even count?
that I can fight my own,
if I wish to?

May I just stay and take my own
path?
May I just make my mistakes and
learn from them?
May I just be myself & not be
misunderstood and be misinterpreted?
May I just stumble and fall,
I promise to get up & dust myself off
take it in stride & learn from it.

I just want to express myself by
answering posts,
is it really too much to ask?
I never ask you anything,
did I?

As always..
Like this very much Ms. Rains
Miss you more.

On: Misinterpretation & Misunderstanding

Most misunderstandings in the world could be avoided if people would simply take the time to ask, "What else could this mean?

On: Forgiveness

Grudges are for those who insist that they are owed something; forgiveness, however, is for those who are substantial enough to move on.

I will drink to this perspective

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Depends on -
the definition of what drama is to you
the degree of drama

If the drama is all about
I like sleeping with the lights off
and you like sleeping with the lights on,
even before the drama, if I love you
I'm willing to buy an eye-cover/sleep mask for myself so we can have the lights on and you will sleep better- end of drama.

If the drama is all about
I like wendy's baconator and it is unhealthy for you-
I might give it up for you.
But if you include honey baby back ribs and barbecues,
then that means we will have drama- because you dont like me eating pork.
I have to ask,is it because you find it disgusting that I eat something
that you find unclean based on your religion?

If the drama is all about something that will affect
your love one's, my love one's or our future together,or
your reputation being with me,
we better tackle the drama or disagreement right away,
because my only way to be not be walked over on a disagreement is
to give you 5-6 days time, if there is no resolution,
then you move on I rock on.
Healthier to both parties.

My long way of saying:
Either you deserve me or you dont.
Either I deserve you or I dont.

Drama in betweens are just life
helping us out
Who's for you? or Who is not for you.

That is just my take, it might be different with other minglers.

I still do not understand.
I may never understand.

I still do not figure it out.
I may never figure it out.

Can you move on?
So I can rock on?

to accuse
to judge
without knowing the person
is worse,
the only thing worst than that
is confusing the person
and messing up with
his/her mind for an
unclear motive