A couple of times and you're giving up already? We've been expected to do this for generations and experience rejection over and over and quite harshly at times. This is the reason the "good guys" rarely approach. We (men) also have feelings and many times are rudely shot down. It's okay to be rejected as we all have different tastes in people, personalities or looks. Being polite to someone when expressing no interest is far easier to take than being treated like a stereotype just for initiating an approach.

Or here is an idea why not just approach and be honest. The "brush up and walk away" is vague and aloof. Once again men are now involved in a game. Did she do that on purpose or was it accident? Should I go talk to her? Maybe it was a mistake? etc. etc. Men are often caught in situation where we are feeling that we need to interpret or over analyze what a woman may be trying to say. We appreciate straightforward women who are confident and don't play any type of games. If you were to read 100 female profiles on here I would hazard a guess that 85% or more read "looking for an honest focused man who can treat me right...no games". Yet here we are reading about the "games" that some woman play. Yes it may sound trivial but at the same time many men avoid these situations and don't engaging because we have be mad to feel like pigs, losers, players etc without ever being anything but polite. Quite often it is an automatic shutdown rather than a polite "thank you I'm flattered but I'm involved with someone right now". The physical flirting or act of showing interest is great after a simple connection/communication has been made (ice breaker) as we will then understand it was intentional and directed at us and is even more exciting knowing it was intended. Expecting us to translate that into an understanding that a woman is interested is only setting us up for failure or rejection. If you were in a crowded social scene and accidentally brushed against a man and he read that as a sign of interest and was wrong the reaction from the woman could be very harsh and am certain would be the brunt of the joke amongst her friends. We are expected to be able to figure these flirting techniques out but also expected to deal with the embarrassment when we are wrong. Straight forward approach is far more appreciated than riddles or puzzles. Also if I was to rub myself up against a woman in public to show interest in sure I would be perceived as a pig player or many of the other stereotypes men are often labeled with.

What a great question Peggy. I will only speak for myself here. I can say that it is refreshing to me when a woman expresses interest in me. It usually catches me off guard but am pleased when it does. Everyone appreciates interest from the opposite sex as the fear of rejection is something that lingers and can prohibit initial interaction (even from confident people) it has become the expected process for men to be the ones to show interest and a great majority of the time we are made to feel undesirable over and over (sometimes quite rudely). The men who are hesitant to approach a woman are usually the ones that woman may be more apt to pursue as more times than not the man who initiates is looking for something physical first. That's not to say any man who initiates contact with a woman is this way though. The men who don't approach have probably been shot down so many times that they are not willing to take the risk of rejection anymore. Great question and really appreciate that you put that out there for feedback.