I found that more and more people ask for chat in the first message, for a date in the second, and for sex in the 3rd message (all these in less than 5 minutes). Without ask likes, how you feel or why you are in a date website.
My panties color or if I'm horny is not in discussion when you are looking for a real date :)
If you are looking just sex, you can ask for it, and maybe with luck you can have it. What I'm trying to say is (and need others opinions) be sincere, don't try to go into a lady panties with "I'm looking for my soul mate" if that is not your intention. ;)