Maybe its the way you are looking at it. We are all growing and experiencing new things at every age. The fact that you have dated a lot tells me that you are experiencing different kinds of woman, different shapes, emotional states, education levels, backgrounds, etc. So now is the time when you can be deciding for yourself what type of shape, personality, etc. you like in a woman. So maybe there its a good thing you haven't found her yet. Then maybe you will know her when you see her.