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Sat 01/09/10 01:37 AM
It's not about having sex only ,By relationship i didn't mean physical one only.Like the earlier posters when they read my posts from the beginning then they understood that what was i talking about like first 5-6 posters of this thread.

My initial posts in this threads will define everything.


& i wonder where my thread is going ,Although the purpose for which i made this thread is delieverd.

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Sat 01/09/10 01:29 AM





this is not a discussion, this is blatant insult to anyone that has had sex before they got married, calling it getting dirty. Don't go out asking us, non religious sinning perverts for advice, follow your religion and don't call me dirty!



So your advise would be no advise at all & i didn't call you dirty.
Thanks.

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Fri 01/08/10 10:42 AM





You already have an arranged marriage? If you are with somebody before that marriage, you'll just be using them. That will hurt the woman and you too.


No i don't already have an arranged marriage.She asked me that don't we have arrange marriages here so i said that yes we do have them here but i am a sheer follower of arrange marriage.

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Fri 01/08/10 10:35 AM

I always believed in true love and believed one should stay true to it. The only thing keeping such loving commitment from working is yourself. I promised myself that if such a "prince charming" some women dream about does not exist, that through me I would become that prince charming. I have worked very hard to be the best I can be for my one and only. She is out there somewhere and when I find her, I will be loyal to her forever.


I also live by a code of honor for myself. One of the chief parts of it is honesty. I will not lie or cheat or steal, such things are demeaning and wrong for all peoples involved. Do not allow despair to cloud your judgment, you WILL find the one you were meant for with patience and dedication.


Thanks for your honest opinion.

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Fri 01/08/10 10:32 AM


Then why worry about sex now, why not just focus on education/work.


Yes it's not entirely about sex but i don't believe in arrange marriages much.

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Fri 01/08/10 10:30 AM

you know what, you title says it all! it actually angered me, therefore i will refrain myself (which is unusual for me) from saying what think of your post...

i'm pretty sure i would be sent to the naughty corner for few days by the mods


Well i wouldn't feel bad about what ever you will say ,Because when i sparked a discussion here ,I was actually heartedly open to all the constructive critcisms So you can go on saying what ever you felt like,What can be the worst?May be in your insult or anything will open my eyes.So go ahead and shred those bullets.I promise i won't complain although if i felt that its not something i am then i will just reply back

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Fri 01/08/10 07:50 AM
hmmmmmmmmmmm

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Thu 01/07/10 01:42 PM
It depands upon how you interpret the term "loving your self"-Respecting oneself is fine but if it's leading to selfishness such as treating other people as inferior based on weak reason then it's not what should i suggest.So you can love others as well and remember loving oneself is not about maintaining standerd's and stuff.In the end of the day you know your paradigms and mentality.You know better.

Good luck

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Thu 01/07/10 01:23 PM
Uploaded a couple of images at public demand.

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Thu 01/07/10 12:49 PM



I say follow your heart and if you want to meet friends here, participating in the forums is a good start, it helps people get to know something of your character, your values, your personality, your social skills,,,etc,,

It also might help to put a pic and a little more detail about what interests and hobbies you have on your profile.


good luck


Well honestly i still don't know that there are any or few people from my city available on this site or not ,So my intention was just to take advices and spark a discussion with people from other side.

About putting my information ,Yes i am looking forward to it.I personally have no problem But as mentioned earlier that the atmosphere i breathe in is very conservative ,What if some one finds out?I'll just be center of taunts , insults and nothing else.

But still who cares i'll do it.

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Thu 01/07/10 12:43 PM



You talk about woman as if they are foreign objects and you get to pick and choose who you keep and throw away.

This is why everyone should have sex by any means necessary. This kid will end up with bodies under the stairs. Seriously. He talks of stalking, taking advantage and ditching. I find you very disturbing. Unless...I am reading it wrong. If so, I apologize.


Well if it was about foriegn object ,I mean if i had that much of choices to pick then i guess my pressence would have been absent here.+2 LOGIC

About your statement "This is why everyone should have sex by any means necessary" well this quote of yours did job from your side on this thread of mine.

Thank you.

And yes mentally i am calm ,It's just i am expressing my self too much so that might have annoyed you.No problem


No and there is no need to appologize every one around here has an equal right to express what they think.

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Thu 01/07/10 12:34 PM

A Monk?!? Come on, that's not very polite. Xaki, I think that it's very good that you don't want to put too much emphasis on sex within a relationship. That shows good sense on your part. Way too many people do that and instead of finding the "Right" person, they find a bunch of "Right Now" encounters. Be patient. You'll find the right one for you, with the same, or similar, values that you have. And don't be afraid to be just friends, or to go out with a mixed group of friends. You may find that someone that you think of as "just a friend" becomes the best friend and partner for life that you are looking for. Good luck.flowerforyou


Hmmmmm copy that.Taken into consideration.
Read my next post my reply to the first reply of this thread.

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Thu 01/07/10 12:31 PM

You are 22 years old. You are muslim. Isn't there arranged marriages in pakistan? Why not wait until you are married?

Don't be a jerk... just wait until you are married or get involved in a relationship.


Yes there are arrange marriages here but mine is too far.I have still a lot of education and job experience ahead.

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Thu 01/07/10 12:27 PM







I hope you dont allow the world to make you feel the pressure to have sex. I admire your restraint and integrity but also remember not to live your life in a prison,,all people arent so bad, some make awesome friends if nothing else.

take your own advice

'Life is about taking chances and experiencing new people ,I am here for that. '



Hmmmmmmm ,It was very nice of you to reply.

Thing is ,Finding friends over internet has turned old fashioned.Most of girls in my city has insecurity complex ,So they go on ignoring with out even induldging in a conversation.If some one tries hard then the stalker tag is labbeled on your forehead.Bad thing is it works for most of the males here.Stay a pain in the *** and girls will think , Oh wow what a wonderfull commited guy he is(*** licker) and then they reply which i cannot do.I know my value of wisdom , intellect and prosperity i hold ,It's not like i am dieng for a relationship completly but hell yess every one needs friend as you mentioned don't make your life a prison ,It is pretty dark in that manner ,My religious views are very broadminded.I am not a true muslim either just a sheer follower of religious humanism.
Now what will you and all say.

And i heartedly thank you for that honest reply of yours and ALL.

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Thu 01/07/10 11:54 AM
Well i had never been in a relation ship ,I mean never.I see my friends dating girls everyday but my nature is definitly not the stalker type ,I find my brains pretty uncomfortable when disturbing some one unknown that too just for relationship/friendship with opposite sex.It's just i never found one.Most of my friend says that i am left with two options only ,First one is i begin stalking like them ,Lie cheat trap them into my nest take advantage of them and ditch or secondly have sexual relationships with some high class call girl for some time untill all the lust and hunger to discover about girls is finished.I find both of them reasons absurd at some momments ,Since our media has shown so many romantic flicks ,It has turned human logical mind into some fairytale?

Remember i live in a highly religious but pseudo intellect place.

What would you people comment on this situation.