Oh well that's easy to fix, simply pick up a psychology book

There are many variables to this but generally this webpage covers it well enough (and remember, google is your friend if you need more information):

http://behavioural-psychology.suite101.com/article.cfm/defining_fear_of_intimacy

"Defining fear of intimacy may be different from person to person, but there is an underlying theme. Fear of intimacy involves caring about another person as much as you care about yourself, which leaves you vulnerable and open to rejection, hurt and betrayal.

Fear of Intimacy Is about Self-protection.

When you fear intimacy, you may be afraid of being consumed by another person, or being submersed in their personality or world. Fear of intimacy often involves a struggle to keep yourself separate from another person. You don’t want to lose yourself, so you hold back. Fear of intimacy can be physical, emotional, mental, or spiritual. In fact, it can involve all four levels of being, though it may be more prominent in one area or another. It can be commitment phobia or a general distance from other human beings.

You can struggle with a fear of intimacy or emotional distance even if you’re married or in a long-term relationship. You can fear intimacy and be emotionally distant or mentally isolated even if you have children and grandchildren.

Fear of intimacy is about protecting yourself.

When I was a kid I always stood up to everything that was wrong, however you tend to learn things as you grow and I now see choosing your battles as a better approach. There are many variables, but I will always protect those close to me

Yes, of course. I always defend those who don't have a voice, and I always stand up for what is right, no matter the cost to myself personally. I have always been like this. I remember once in high school after school was over I saw the principle smoking in the building. I told him that he'd have to "take it outside or put it out" because it was against school policy. He looked at me like I was from Mars, but when I went to get adult supervision he quickly put it out. He also looked for reasons to give me detentions for the rest of the year....

I don't believe in double standards. Right is right and wrong is wrong. For those that don't have a voice (children, handicapped, etc. even animal rights) I will always defend them

Are you trying to convince us or yourself? Because nature would disagree with you. Relationships are fundamental in human needs, and from the moment that you are born, until the day you die you will be in many types of relationships. It's how the human race survives. It's embedded in our DNA. Those that choose to force themselves to never have a relationship with other human beings tend to go off the deep end - can you say unabomber? Fear of intimacy - (relationship phobia) is actually a psychological condition, it's like being afraid of falling in love or as it's known Philophobia. You can choose to not be in a relationship for a period of time, but sooner or later it will start tapping you on the shoulder again....

Yes they are, and I suppose that not being in control is scary, but the facts speak for themselves and I was only pointing that out. When people "choose" based on attraction - the divorce rate is high. If "attraction' was so important to a good relationship, then that wouldn't be the case


LOL... yeah, in a perfect world people would be like this, but we both know that's not the case... What's the FIRST thing that most people do when they review a profile? They look at the pictures, and sometimes that's all they do... do you really think that those people are going to get married once and stay married? I don't... and the divorce rate among them backs that up...

I wasn't debating your 'opinion' - and I'd be the first one to defend your right to have one... I was debating the way you worded it... which was trying to make it sound like a 'fact'... which obviously it isn't. Attraction is not a 'need' - it's a 'want'...

Not true. Lots of arranged marriages back in 'da day' that worked out fine... in fact there is less divorce in arranged marriages. Not condoning them, but saying that you "need" attraction is just something that some people blindly tell themselves. It's like the old saying "do you want to be right or do you want to be happy".....

That must be soooo frustrating for you

The very thing that probably attracted them to you is what they want to change

As 'Spock' would say "That's highly illogical'

and soda is
Soda is sugar water and obviously not healthy. However, as unhealthy as it is, it's still (slightly) better for you than coffee, but barely enough to make a difference... Name your poison... I drink neither

I agree with this part...

Not only can you control it, but you need to control it. You will get hurt if you don't. Certainly your heart will attract you toward certain people, but your past should guide you too. If you're young, you don't have this information, and that's when the hurting starts. Having said that, I agree completely in what you said before about not letting "types" be your bible. Some of the best relationships ever come from thinking outside of the box. It's a balancing act....

Why would anyone want to tame you? If that is in your heart then that is your essence...

Well they still use cornstarch in some of their products…

Corn syrup is made using cornstarch... so they're not perfect, but better than most other companies...

Corn syrup is especially dangerous if the person is low in copper (ask yourself, when was the last time you ate liver?). Without copper, and when adding corn syrup, your body cannot make elastin and collagen - the sinews that hold you together. Your liver cannot convert all of the excess fructose and organ damage can also occur.





I haven't looked at each and every product that they make, and they do make some good stuff ( ) but I do know that many of their products contain cornmeal and grain vinegar, which is distilled from corn... the bottom line as far as the body is concerned is that if the liver converts it to sugar then it's going to have the same effect, just like eating beets...

Pretty much everything that consumers use is touched by corn. Even aspirin, coffee, toothpaste and some yogurt is made using corn. Everything in moderation is the best way to be, but when your body sees corn byproducts everywhere it starts to get overwhelmed and it has health effects. And we haven't even started talking about how adding potatoes to the mix puts an even bigger load on the liver and other organs... and people wonder why they are so over weight and can't lose the weight... and why diseases like diabetes is out of control these days.... they need not look any further than their diets...

...you're better off without it... it's bad for ya....

LOL

Good CD

...from which came the term "spank the monkey"...

And to think I almost became a priest....

Women need evil monkeys because men have evil bananas...