Nice words there full of truth

I don't know about other men, but I can't make sense from the senseless...so I don't try anymore...

I agree with that, men are similar to that when it comes to lifemate, but since all males in every species are basically only here for one purpose, human males are the only ones to put beauty first... In most other animals, the male is the "prettier" of the two and generally smaller and less useful, with mammals being the exception...

Basically, men are stupid when it comes to females...

No, and doubt this would ever happen.
I don't think I ever dated because of physical attraction. From all the guys I dated there were only 3 I thought could be the right one for me and that had nothing much to do with physical attraction.

I need mental/emotional attraction, and a bit of chatting (online) can tell me very quickly if that's there or not. If not, I don't date. Why waste my time.

I'm confused..isn't it you ladies who are always saying looks aren't important? Or do y'all just tell me that?

Attraction (any kind) to another human being (female or male) is our primary (initial) judgement that sets the stage for our level of interaction (if any).

Consider that there are different kinds and levels of attraction
Physical attraction
Sexual attraction
Intellectual attraction
Spiritual attraction
Financial attraction
Authority attraction
and even
Emotional attraction.

They don't occupy their own lil boxes. They over-lap, intensify and blur.
Whats more, they change as our perception changes as our emotional states ebb and flow.

Any discussion on attraction must also have considerations about repulsions.
There may be a physical attraction but a sexual repulsion. Any combination at any time and not set in stone.

Its the perception in the moment that sets the attraction/repulsion. Familiarity (duration of perception) changes the perceived attraction/repulsion.
Attraction is not a bold straight line drawn from one person to another, its a bunch of squiggly lines that loop and twist and fade and brighten as we spend time in their presence.

I think there has to be AN attraction, but there doesnt HAVE to be an initial physical attraction, as long as one is not actually physically repulsed ... lol.


so my first interracial date, I was not physically attracted to him at all, but that wasnt because he was 'unattractive', just not aligned with the 'physical' type that excited me at the time.

However, in getting to know the individual, I became very attracted to him, to his wit and charm and swag, and from all that a physical attraction developed. It happens when one has not closed their mind to accepting nothing but an initial physical spark.

I had a dream I saw this topic in another thread on the site...

Oh...Duh

I have a lot of ideas that could be called dreams...

Being a mechanic I always dreamed of owning a salvage yard.
Not just cars but everything.
I had a very intensive a detailed business plan at one time.
It was similar to a franchise or facility chain to be opened across the nation.

I also had a business plan to open automotive hobby shops as a franchise or chain of shops.
It would have 6 bays, a parts room, a tool rental room, car lifts and truck racks, a paint booth and all the equipment and tools to work on cars. It even involved hiring mechanics to advise members how to work on their cars.

Another franchise I was thinking of is a bar/grill w/theater.
Instead of stadium seating and dark theater, the bar would play the movies on big screen TVs and patrons could buy or bring their own headphones to plug in at the tables. There would be 3 or 4 stadium theaters where patrons could go to watch the movies in standard and 3d modes. The door fee would cover all the movies, so patrons could watch multiple movies while partying.

I always wanted to be a physicist. Preferably a theoretical physicist. Working with nanotechnology.

I've always wanted to fly a jet fighter too.

Not yet sleeping so I am not yet dreaming :p kidding

I wanna own a house and have a business (tutorial center, apartment or fruit farm) :) hoping to have that 5-10 years from now... I am still helping my parents while saving money too for my future :D

Being good at what you do and enjoying it is a dream come true! Of course starting a "starbucks and noble" chain would have been pretty cool..

Great question. Some dreams never materialized, such as pitching for the Detroit Tigers. At 10 I had learned to dream, but lacked the motivation or knowledge to formulate a plan. Today, I get to help college athletes learn how to take a dream, formulate a plan, and bring it into reality. I never dreamed of being a track coach, but honestly, this is a bit better than any of the dreams I had as a young man.

I know.. reading the other answers, this lacks something.. laughs.. I'll work on improving my memory of old dreams.. :)

Aaaaaawww that sucks

Very much so lol thanks for making me laugh

How was your experience? That sounded interesting

I have never been on a blind date. Is it strictly with a person you haven’t seen or talked with ever? Do people still do this? And can it be possible on line or this is what’s going on already here lol . I can kinda compare it here. Chatting with people around the world with no real idea about who they are and sometimes they are more that what they say (or less) . Initially some would be boring but when we give it a chance and get to know the person more , we find out we’re really not wasting our time after all . Am I off topic ? Lol keeps posting