Community > Posts By > looking4u52
I think bear and shutterbug are offering good advice. I am in a similar situation. Only the ex is dating but has not found anyone.
Says she may re-consider us getting back together. I have mixed emotions about the whole situation. |
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Does the dating someone else approach really work?
Or is it unfair the to other person if you aren't over the ex? Just wondering what other folks think. |
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I am in Phoenix, but I guess the girls are hiding.
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The reason I am single is my wife died over 6 years ago.
I guess I am hoping the right women finds me or I find her. |
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I'm Confused
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I think online dating reflects the real world. There are honest and dis-honest people. The internet and hiding behind a computer may make it a bit easier to not be upfront with people.
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I think part of the problem is that it is hard for a man to remain just friends with a women he is attracted to.
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wouldee makes a good point. Problem is they may tell you to go with the flow. But, sometimes going with the flow ends in heartbreak, because all that stuff they tell you in the beginning changes. But, they don't tell you it changes. Because they expect you to be a mind reader. So just go with the flow until it doesn't flow anymore.
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Give it to me straight
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Don't worry about. Heck my ex tells me she is still attracted to me. But, does not want me. Figure that one out. Oh yea we are still friends.
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hi all
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Funny I have been accused of being too neat and clean.
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over 50
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I guess we are supposed to say "HI" if we are over 50?
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Young Age : /
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I hate to be the bearer of bad news. But it does not get an easier the older we get. Being old and wiser sometimes cuts into the fun. You just can't do stupid things like you did when you were younger.
Or I hear when you get really old you just say I'm old enough to know better, but too old to give a sh*t. |
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what would you say....
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The non communication for a year would worry me. If you had communicated and remained good friends during the split then I would reconsider.
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My ex-girlfriend used to deliver Glen Campbell's mail. We happened to be in Laughlin, NV and Glen was playing there. We got on the elevator and Glen was there. Just us and Glen, he was a little surprised when she told him his home addresses. Then we ran into him all the time that weekend, as his room was just down the hall from ours.
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I agree with the Catch-22 situation. I also agree with retired. The sex issue really does muddle things up. If everyone could just be honest with themselves things would be easier. Here's a dilemma to think about. When starting a relationship should you resolve the sexual issues first or relationship issues first. One of these is bound to cause problems at some point.
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I think it comes down to "Guys just can't Win". If your nice you get walked on. If your not nice you are labeled a jerk.
I love women, but sometimes I think it would be easier just to be done with them. Maybe just accepting the fact we can't win or keep women happy would make this process much easier. |
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how much do looks matter
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I think looks play a great deal into the chemistry and attraction equation.
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Chemistry...
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Chemistry is a somewhat strange phenomena. I would compare it to a magnetic attraction. It is a type of energy that is hard to fight. The ex and I still have it and don't really know how to handle it.
At times it can be a double edge sword. I would love to find chemistry with another person. Everyone says it is such a rare thing to find. I wonder how rare and precious it really is. |
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who's happy being alone?
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I don't mind being alone. Not quite sure what single is. I guess when you are not in a relationship you are single.
But, I do miss the snuggle time. |
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Done with dating
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I haven't even started dating yet. And it does not sound like fun.
Now if a sweet, caring, beautiful women would show up at my door step that would be really nice. |
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I think the important thing is to be yourself. So I would just clean up a bit and be my normal self. Hopefully, my date would do the same. I don't want someone going over board and then later they aren't the way they first appeared. You don't want to be too shocked the first time the makeup comes off.
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