Because love doesn’t come to you. You have to go to love.
Love isn’t a basic right. It’s an earned right. A right you fight for.

I think a lot of women my age like dating and aren't wanting to rush into the boredom of a relationship. Most of us have been pleasers in the relationship/marriage. We are ready to enjoy life.

Glad I’m not the only one who notices the change in the single guys their behavior.
I understand what you mean when you say “ a few dates of him just being charming “ .
I don’t want to bind myself to someone so quickly either. I prefer keeping my options open. I know myself : once the novelty of the dating partner wears off, I start to look around again. I always have this problem. I can’t count my blesses when staying with one person. After a few days I miss the adventure that comes with being single.
Guys these days - don’t know if it’s also that way with guys your age - want to know who is texting you, why you are taking so long to answer, why you are not looking happy when you are on a date with them, why you were talking to the guy from the table next to you in the restaurant, they start immediately wanting sex, ask your taste in furniture ( really happened ) as if we are going to live together or something.
One guy even told me that he didn’t like that I would still be studying for 4 more years. As if I was going to change my life choices for a person I barely knew 3 weeks.
I hate all the presumptions that come with dating. All the expectations. I wish there was something like cuddle buddies or so. Like friends with benefits but without the sex. Sex is too exhausting after a while. Cuddling gives you energy. But guys always want sex.

Totally Agree with you,, what ever happened to just old fashion dating.. Now day's men seem to think that dating means a sexual hook up for some reason... I miss the days of just dating spending time with someone and getting to know them before intimacy ever happens ...