yeah but the idea is that once shy/quiet guys like me start "thinking" too much that's when all of the "doubts" start rolling in. It's also supposed to help us to get used to talking to them.

examples for me:
1st: @ gas station: nice looking girl in front of me in line. I see a planet fitness key ring (a common interest), my first thought to ask her was "hey I thought planet fitness gave us picture id's eventually". I should have just went with that, but instead my next thought was "that's kind of lame to ask, then she's seems kind of young, yada yada" then girl leaves gas station.

side note on that one: Usually I put tattoos/excessive piercing as turn offs but this girls giant pink angel wing tattoo going across her back didn't matter one iota to me at that point. Go figure, I think will stop worrying about that aspect. I still don't think I could get paste plates though.

2nd: Teller at bank, now I've seen this girl quite a few times here since it's where I usually cash my paychecks; she seems nice and good looking.

This time I used the drive-thru window and was in my workout clothes. When she went to use the computer I noticed that she seemed in even better shape then before like she had been working out. So my first thought was something to her looking nice or fit, but then I started thinking that comment would be too high risk to ask or that she's probably getting fitted for a dress. Low and behold just the other day I saw her working out at PF, so it may have worked and giving her a confidence boost.

<Needs to stop being so shy about it, I need to stop making excuses when an opportunity arises (probably spoken for/doesn't want to be bothered/etc.)
I also get caught off-guard and I'm the king of thinking of something good to say after they left. I need to follow a conversation tip I found online where it suggests to just say something immediately before my brain has a chance to think about the situation.

I also seem to get a lot of "interference" when nice girls appear to for some reason. Whenever a female customer appears at my family's business that almost always seems to be the exact time when the phone has to ring off the hook or one of my co-workers has 24808 questions to ask.

I have a gameplan for fix all this though
> getting in shape (PF for about a month now). - check easiest task for me

> need better job so I can afford a more reliable gas efficient vehicle, get my own place ( I mean on my own not rooming with bro +pals or with my sister+niece, on my own) and also to get out and do more activities. More activities = more material to talk about with a girl. - WIP (work-in-progress)

> follow up to 2nd point is that I may have to move elsewhere as Oswego county sucks donkey turds. And to think we used to be in Guinness world record books for most bars per square mile. WIP (work-in-progress)

> find women to chat with IRL or online for practice and to build up confidence. That website also suggested to chat/flirt it up with unappealing women which worked for my brother, but I'm not an *** so I have elected to go with nice women who are working instead. (like gals at hollister/AE/Aeropostal, bartenders/waitresses, or PF). Same tactic but more ethical I think. WIP (work-in-progress)

> when I get a first date or whatever, I plan on acting (but not overdoing it)like I know what I'm doing so I don't come off as a greenback or someone who needs "training".

I think mainly once I accomplish my 2nd/3rd objective I will be good to go. The thing that hits my mind usually is "ok if this goes anywhere, what am I gonna do bring her back to my parent's place?", but then again my brother did that with no recourse.