Hi Kitten

Your comments really resonated with me.

I'm an American living in Europe this year. I'm over 50 but I never thought I'd want or need to date much younger men. It seemed cliched and a recipe for failure. (What if he wanted children when I've already raised mine?) Plus, guys who are in their early 40's are sometimes just in a different phase of life than I am.

ON THE OTHER HAND< in central and Eastern Europe, a lot of the people over 45 have not aged well, presumably because they were raised under communism and the nutrition wasn't great, nor was dental care, etc. And though they won't admit it, it's hard to imagine their libido matching mine because I see them acting winded after a hike or walking their dog.

I believe conditions are better in western countries but I don't have a lot of references.



But the other point you raised about men who disappear, reminded me of another confusing matter. What's up with the endless chatting and never a request to actually meet in real life?

Gentlemen, if you "meet" a woman online and she lives near you, how long do you "chat" before you set up a date? (Am I being old fashioned for wanting the man to actually ask?)

Also, when guys are too far away, some of them act as if we should spend lots of time chatting but if we are not likely to ever meet, and they want "romance", whatever that means when you never meet, it seems like a waste of time. They'll say "distance is not a problem when you love someone" but I disagree. Plus, I want companionship and a long distance relationship, long term, makes no sense for me at this point in life.

There are some folks, (maybe women too??) who don't seem to actually want to meet in real life.

They express emotions that are pretty strong though we have never met, and yet they never pull the trigger to set something up.

Anyone else have that experience?

I feel like some men want virtual relationships and I'm not into that. I don't get it.

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