I'll be damned. That's what I was wondering...A lot of fake profiles on this site. Why do the admins let this go on? Is that how they make money?

Pretty much every one of the FEMALE profiles is fake! WTF?

So I've just been doing a lot of thinking and it pains me that love means less and less every day. Honestly the term I love you seems to be only a means to get into someone's pants these days. I know I am young but I believe I am mature for my age, I've had very few girlfriends in my time mostly because of the fact that I don't want to just date a bunch of random girls I would prefer to have the real thing. Am I the only one that still believes that maybe there is still a chance for real love out there and that people should really start working on bringing it back to be the norm instead of the rarity it is these days?



Your choice to have no sex with women unless you love them is again a personal choice, and it's a risky one. Very risky, because out of 100 people only about 2 get married to somebody they love. The other 98 get married because their clocks are ticking (mainly women) and because they don't want to spell their seed on the ground (mainly men). Many marry for money, or for unifying political ties (not international or natioal politics, but little family-feud politics). Many marry for looks, for sex, for money, for the promise of a good life, for ease and convenience for not having to think about it, for family pressures, for fitting in would be impossible without it, for having children without it would be difficult and stigmatized (this should be first in my list, really), for career moves, for religious calling, (go forth and mulitiply is a command, almost), etc. etc.

Two out of a hundred marry because they love each other, and for no other reason.

Even the forty of the hundred who marry maybe for love, are unsure of the love. They know they think they are in love, but when they look deep down inside their own souls, they are in doubt already.

So it's okay to hold out for love before you love, but be careful, coz the math is very much against you.

If you still insist, then I wish you the best of luck, and may please God help you in your quest.

In other words, don't get married if you can't remain faithful to your spouse when things don't go as you want them to.

What I also learned is that anyone can be funny, regardless of IQ, looks, gender, place of origin, marital status, etc.

What I also learned is that my strong beliefs in my values and __weltanschauung__ can be pushed over just the same way as I see myself push over others' worlds. I just haven't matched the person to do it for me yet, that's all.

you can be my help hony woman!

You don't need a Milf, man. What you need is Hilf. (*Maerz!!!)

Maerz, I'll be honest... I wrote that post especially for you. The word "moebeln" was the give-away tell-tale sign of that, you can look forward to more of those "key words" that say the message is for you, only for you, mainly, and somewhat for others as well.

With raisins it's even better

Put away five old girlfriends, the place looks much more liveable now. No girls sitting randomly on sitting moebeln randomly, no matter where I go in the house.

I also got rid of my debts. It was getting to be a drag, you know, typing all those letters to answer "final notices", and stuff. Somebody at church suggested I get rid of my debt, so I did. It pays to go to church. Some people give you good advice there. Like "respect your elders to have a long life on earth." All one who wants to die young needs to know is that. Call dad an azzole, call mom a two-bit hooker, and bang, you don't have to haul a long life and drag out your miserable existence. Good advice.

Oh, and I discontinued my Readers' Digest subscription. That was a huge time saver.

Another thing I did, was I got rid of my back issues of Victoria's Secret catalogues. I noticed my eyesight was getting worse, so selling those catalogues on eBay was not that much of a voluntary choice, but a force of circumstances.

I'll see what I can do, Maerz. Let me get back to you on that, please.

Bravalady, Navygirl and shareahug,

well, you want an alcohol-free, honest man. I am honest as it gets, I speak my mind, I say in my profile I'm 5'4", fat, very fat, and poor. I don't drive, I don't have a job, and I'm mentally ill.

You can't get any f ing more honest than that.

So it is not actually honesty that you want, I call you out on that. You want honesty, AND a man who is, to your expectations, worthy of your love. Maybe have some money, be established, have a straight life, have the American dream accomplished.

That's fine, I have nothing against that, your preference, it's okay with me.

But please cut out the whining that you can't find an honest man. Honest man will tell the truth, and therefore he will never be a successful man. No boss, no woman, nobody likes to hear the truth. Heck, not even I like to hear the stuff that comes out of my mouth most of the time.

If you want an honest man, you will get an arrogant boor who is a moody cynic. If you want an established man, with a good, steady lifestyle, you won't get honesty. Maybe you will get a pleasant life, a good life, a happy life, but honesty has nothing to do with that.

Honesty and telling the truth is the pits. Stop whining about "dishonest guys", because you reject the honest AND the dishonest alike. There are totally different criteria you want in a man who can be your future partner, and that's fine, but don't call that quality "honesty".

I say this because with all my bad and good qualities and attributes, I am proud of being honest. It's nothing to be so cocky about, but it is MINE, and I am a rare man in this. I got disdain and jeering all my life for being honest, and yet I stuck with it.

Therefore I take honesty seriously, I don't want you to toss this word around meaninglessly. This is my sanctity. My quality that I uphold, not because it's such a hoo-hoo-hot quality, but because it's mine. I have it and I practice it.

This is the reason I beg you to use a different cover-word of describing a man in one single word that you want. Say tall, rich, good, dependable, anything, I won't mind, but please, please, don't use "honest" because that is what describes ME, and ME only, vis-a-vis the men from which you want one for yourself.

It is an insult to me when a woman who has rejected me a hundred times says "I want an honest man." It is ludicrous, hypocratical, phillistyne, and two-faced.

So please go and find a different word, don't use "honest", please, because that's a direct insult to me, and furthermore a complete lie you are uttering.