I agree Honesty about being happy in yourself. I learned the hard way after losing my fabulous husband to cancer I was 57 when he passed. I had never, ever been on my own, being a middle child, having children and animals in my life to finding myself totally on my own. Now After 5 years, I am strong, at peace with life, mentally capable of dealing Day to day as tomorrow is not guaranteed. Still on my own which brought me here to seek a companion to share the rest of my life with. I have learned to rely on me, not to lean or be leaned on, that said all our history's and circumstances are different, I can only speak of my own experience