Charming

Good point... but I didn't have that before I had her... so I doubt it will be any easier to find now. I guess I just have issues.

Well, that's why I am here. It seems very unlikely that I could find someone who makes me as happy as she used to, but I am definitely willing to try. There's not much else I can do otherwise besides sit around and feel sorry for myself.

I appreciate you taking the time to try to help, but I hope you're not implying that she is a slut. She's not a very sexual person at all, so it gets on my nerves when people tell me she just wants sex from him and then to cmoe back to me when she's satisfied.

To be honest, if that's all it was, she knows she could just tell me that and it wouldn't bother me. She knows where I stand on sex and love, so that is not the case. I actually wish that was all it was. I could take that a lot better than thinking that there's actually someone she loves more than me now.

Sex and love, although they often coincide, are two seperate things to me.

Yes, a lot of thinking indeed. That issue has been brought up before (that it could happen again) and I have given it a lot of thought and still am. I guess I just have to see what happens. I really don't think I've talked to her enough about this. I come up with new questions for her literally every day. The thing is, she appears to be no less confused than I am. It's like she's just acting on instinct and has no clue what she's actually doing or what she really wants.

Well, her cousin tried to ask me out and I didn't really want her. When she found out she was asking why I didn't say yes... it was almost like she wanted me to date her. She's encouraged me to date other people... I don't see why she would do that if she's trying to make me wait for her.

I wouldn't be surprised honestly. Her dad certainly is in my opinion... and I don't care how much her family denies it. Maybe she picked up a little of it from him? It does seem pretty easy for her to go from happy and giggly to p*ssed off and then back to happy.

I'm trying to think this through rationally without letting emotions get the best of me. I mean, everyone hears about this and gets mad at her and because of that they will talk about how she's playing me and I should basically say "FU" and never speak to her again. And that's what I would do if I was to let my anger and jealousy take over and just act on instinct. But logically, you can't help who you fall in or out of love with... so I don't feel like she's doing this intentionally just to be a b*tch. And it's not a sex thing... trust me on that. It just so happens that her feelings for him have begun to resurface. I feel like I would be being selfish if I got mad over the fact that she wants to give him another chance before she makes a huge decision like who she wants to spend her life with.

I don't know... I guess the only thing that doesn't make sense is the fact that she's pretty much guarunteed me that she's coming back. If she would just tell me she's not sure who she wants to be with, it would make more sense... but I don't see why she would spend this time with him if she doesn't think there's at least a chance she will stay with him.

My girlfriend just left me for an ex. Now the thing is, she says she still loves me, just not like she used to. She also says that she's only with him temporarily and that she still wants to get married and have a life together like we planned. That's a simplified version... there are lots of things she's saying and doing that makes me go "wtf?" but the main thing I don't get is why she would be doing this when she's told me that she doesn't think it will last and that she plans to come back to me? She says she expects it to last a while, no shorter than a month or two but definitely not years.

This is someone I have LOVED like I never thought I coudl love another human... for a year and almost 8 months. I was ready to spend my life with her and she hits me with this out of the blue. Wtf is going on?

I'm new here and just looking around. Figured I'd post here for anyone who wants to rate my pro can go ahead.