Thanks teebee, that is just what I needed to hear today

If it ever livens up a bit i'll be here.

For now ledusty, I definitely say party! The harder we party the more noise we make and noise always bring attention, maybe we'll rustle up some members with a pulse on here yet.

Every profile I click especially in my area of northern Ontario, the profiles have only one thing to say to me "NOT ACTIVE" they all say "Last seen over a month ago" is Facebook the only place to try to meet people nowadays?

Its hard enough for me to try to meet people but to join sites like these lately to not have any real active members gets over whelming sometimes. I'm not a big fan of Facebook either which I guess limits my possibilities more, but I feel as though your just to at risk of someone knowing too much about you on those sites too fast, and its too easy to cause problems in your life if someone gets hurt and wants to make life for you unbearable, they can start problems with your friends and family by just simply making a comment or worse yet.

I live in a pretty small town to begin with and I have had some horrible ex's in my past that just didn't know how to move on with their lives at the time, and social sites that make it easy for them to continue to make life miserable for you don't really have much attraction to me.

I just wish I could find someone to connect with without putting so much of myself out there, does anyone else feel this way or is it just me? And what does it take these days to get someones attention online anyway? Suggestions please!!! im not having much luck. I know pics for one, but is it really all about looks now? Im a decent looking guy but I don't really want everyone in my town to know how desperate I must look joining these sites, dying to find someone to be with again after being alone for so long.

I just don't know how to do this internet dating thing without causing myself anxiety and stressing about so much anymore, someone please help if you can, I really have no friends to speak of that I can share these thoughts with so i'm begging for the masses to take a few minutes and really help me get through this.

I'm a very decent guy, that may not shine right through as I laugh at soufiehere with her "which spot?" comment. I just had to laugh though, cause well it was funny.

I had tried this site before but never found any women in my area at the time, i'm not holding my breath for this time out either, but I figure what have I got to lose? If you don't put it out there you will never know. So here I am again trying to put it out there and hopefully one day i'll find another woman who will make me happy and let me do the same for her, any way I can. Breakfast in bed, doing the dishes, folding the laundry, picnics on the beach and long walks with the dogs, damn I hope shes not allergic to dogs! I love dogs and I am hoping to get another one in the future.

There are always going to be those sick depraved individuals who only think sex,sex,sex,sex,sex,sex,SEX!!! And most of them seem to believe that is the only reason people join these sites, which is very sad and there is never going to be any way around that. They will always be lurking online waiting to show you a pic of there poor overly abused gentiles, and beg for you to pleasure their sick fantasies, all you can do is set your blocks and write a brief message stating that your not looking for such behaviors in a person and hope to whatever god you pray to that they skip over you.

There are however many of us decent guys that just need to catch a break with the ladies again and not have to crash back into the dating scene head first like unknowing fools and hope we can find someone who might understand, no, im not retarded... I just haven't done this in years! and yes I do know how to zip my pants, I just can't keep my hands out of my pockets, cause im nervous as **** and don't know what to do with them, and that is what makes my zipper slowly fall to the floor! Damn that was an embarrassing night! I'm sure she thought I was doing it on purpose LOL.

This was much longer then I intended sorry for that.

LOL