Well, us "nice guys" don't like sloppy seconds...
Why do girls go for the "bad guys" first?
Oh sure, sure... WE'LL be here... WHEN YOU ARE DONE dirtying it up with the bad boys?
Phhhssshhh...

Try dressing a little different and going somewhere!

I do that when I feel my closet getting a little... bland, wearing the same thing over and over- projects a certain thing to the world, and if that's not working, why not try to change it?

Look to the young for inspiration... buy some new clothes, cool stuff. Wear a knit hat. Whatever... Go out to the world with a different attitude and project that - and be amazed at how much different treatment you get!

It's like escaping the OLD reality, IN reality!

Way back in high school. Maybe it was 1992, or 1993. We went to Delaware Park, in Buffalo, behind the Albright Knox art gallery. It was the most picture-perfect summer day - sun was shining bright. The park was like a circus - there were people juggling back and forth, someone flying an RC helicopeter, people playing trick frisbee... the rose garden was in full bloom, and there were rental paddleboats on the man-made lake.
After just a fantastic time outdoors, we drove just a short distance to the nearby Elmwood strip, and visited this quaint truly old-fashioned ice cream parlor, and had sundaes.

I must have had a better time than her - I never got so much as a kiss, nor another date, despite a great first date.

Said we were too good of friends... that is one way to damage a teenage boy's ego, I'll tell you!

Well I'll give you that I'm not into "overweight", but I'm not into a barbie-doll type one bit. I like a girl who's intelligent, first and foremost - and if they can balance their lives by not only being booksmart but actually practicing "wellness" that has them in shape - THAT is my dream girl.

Physically, she could have no boobs at all (not that boobs aren't nice ), wear glasses, hate makeup, have a funny haircut, and need an appointment on that show "what not to wear" - and I'd be 100% as excited to take her out.

Healthy and natural is sexy to me... "playboy bunny" is honestly a bit of a turn-off to me - I expect that kind of girl to be really shallow. Especially fake boobs - yuck.
Of course, maybe its' a little shallow to presume that, too...

I was supposed to go to a post-halloween party...
I haven't even gotten a phone call yet.


What's worse than thinking it's date night (or at least potential date night) then getting blown off by your friends?

New people?
Where? Where?
Oh wait a minute...

I had lots of teens at my house...
The girls seem to get into it more than the guys, so I thought it was pretty cool that all of them, girls and guys, were dressed up.
They all got candy.

I got cleaned out... 5 bags of candy, I'm in a small neighborhood... oh, and a sheet of Wendy's Frosties too.

The real question might be "if I DIDN'T think the teens should get candy - what would be the consequence of not giving them any?"

My answer: I pay hundreds of dollars a month for car insurance, homeowners insurance, life insurance, etc... an extra $3 for enough extra candy to give out to teenagers also is worth it.

Old to me hasn't got a lot to do with age.
Young people have personality - and they express it.

Somewhere along the way, Khakis and golf shirts replace that. Seriously - wtf?

Young people have a desire for life to be exciting, full of concerts and concert T's that communicate that, socializing with friends, and taking things to extremes for fun.

Old people want to come home from work, read the newspaper, eat dinner, watch American Idol on TV, go to bed sleeping back to back with June Cleaver, clicking off another day towards retirement.

Being old doesn't have to do with age, it has to do with lifestyle! Personally, I would be insulted...

You'll buy us an eharmony account?
I'm sure I can come up with something sarcastic for a bargain like that!

My hobbies go off the deep end.
So I like to try other people's hobbies!

But on my own, whenever I'm single [sigh!], I'm a lifelong skateboarder... helped my hometown start a skatepark, I teach little kids beginner lessons with the recreation department, and recently have taken up longboarding distances for fitness. But I honestly can still bust technical stuff in the skatepark to blow the little kids away.

I used to be involved in car audio... that hobby went WAY deep end... I got so into the engineering that I co-founded an enthusiast brand company, and helped launch a local retail business. I'm not so involved anymore... kind of jaded I guess.

I took up Tennis this year... girlfriend was into it.
I tried out golfing with her too - there was a driving range next to a mini-golf, and I was BLASTING them! Longer than the range was long, I swear. I really should golf apparently...

I guess I'm more excited to try out new things.
I like to learn, like life to feel fresh I guess.


Oh - but I'll always love home remodeling, because it IS always all about making something fresh, and trying new ideas! And it makes profit...

yeah, what's with that?

Just curious.

And where from?

Weigh it against potential regret?

Is this friend someone you close your eyes and picture living together, having fun cooking together in the kitchen, and watching little ones run into the living room to watch TV with you?

Or do you just think he's hot and man wouldn't it be nice just one time maybe...

In other words, does that daydream feel "real" enough, and do you have enough confidence that he's probably having the same daydreams, that if you don't do it, you *just know* you are going to regret it if you don't try?

Or do you already see a reason it wouldn't work, and are already picturing the regret of trying?

There's a third possible outcome, you know, between "married" and "oh crap it didn't work and now we hate each other..."
...it just might be that since you are friends now, you might try it - cool! And maybe it doesn't work out. Aw. Well, you *can* go back to being friends. Yes, that seal has been broken - that just opens up the (maybe exciting?) possibility of "benefits" down the road, should both of you happen to be single at the same time... and might add a little fun flirting to the relationship. right?

That's the catch...
You aren't in person, so you have to convey the body language - without the body. You have to - it's not about maturity, it's about communication.
...and nothing says you have to be worse at communicating as you grow older!!

Even for a master wordsmith...
(I am *cough* not only a masterdebater, but also a cunninglinguist, ladies )
...who can craft such works of captivating text that you can completely work around the use of sarcasm, irony, cynicism, exaggeration, or any other non-literal expression? You HAVE to use body language to get those non-verbal cues across.

In the most matter-of-fact, objective, and literal english possible, with no smiley faces - I'll say with a completely straight face that if you don't want to say it in person AND you want to get your point across in text - you'll have to use them, LOL, ROFL, haha, or other non-word expressives (call them whatever).

Check it out -
Even on the phone - you'll see - you'll catch yourself chuckling out-loud on the phone, where you might have just given your hip-bump or nudge in person.

So, if you send that body-language out-loud when you are on the phone, what's the hesitation to send them as text when you are typing?

Personally, I'd rather be a texting amateur and have the charisma of a celebrity in person, as opposed to vice versa!

I am sure I'll enjoy being "single" as long as it doesn't mean being "alone".

I feel like there should be miles of territory in between those places - but I've never set foot on it yet!

I feel like Christopher Columbus searching for the fountain of youth... "it's out there! It must be!"

Was that to me?

Alright, I updated my little blurb...
I'm probably saying too much now, lol.

What do you think?

i got you...
Use a wink for a nudge and you are golden.

Oh, I've gotten my feet wet - on the outside world... and shouldn't have.
Dated a girl I worked with... dating a girl I met somewhere else... even dated a girl who was likewise divorced because her husband cheated on her.
It's been about a year.

Actually, the problem is I haven't just gotten my feet wet - I keep jumping right into the deep end!

so I SHOULD take your advice, yes!

Personally, I'd feel WAY more comfortable dating a girl who I was friends with first.

So many people seem to do it the other way around... hit the sack, and then figure out if they are even compatible as friends!

I dunno... personally I think there's a lot MORE merit and honor with the former, compared to the latter.

I also seem to be nearly alone in that perception...