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Agree with this. Very insightful.
The other day I wrote about love and the Year of the Fire Horse and in that I also mentioned what I read: that online dating is past its prime. People have grown tired of it, even though many still try to find love that way. In the beginning people probably acted more as they would in real life encounters --> making a genuine effort. Now it's all too easy, on top of that many people have nothing going for them in life so they're bored and trolling people on dating sites can be fun entertainment. Big problem is that men don't bond as easily as women and online dating probably doesn't help with that. Another issue is that all men -unless they do something specific to reverse it- have way too low testosterone levels. Including young men and since it drops 1% every year older men have even less. That means men's estrogen will go up et voila: you have the needy, whinging and demanding man that no woman wants to have by her side. Men cannot bond either when their testosterone is low and estrogen high. I believe this to big one of the biggest issues we're struggling with nowadays. Women on the other hand side often are too much in their masculine due to decades of having to prove in society that they can do it themselves. Having to fight to get respect and equality. Unfortunately that resulted in women with too high testosterone which then lowers her estrogen, making her too masculine. She loses her femininity because of it, like men lose their masculinity because of too low testosterone levels. Problem with this is that both genders have increased stress because of this. The body basically goes into fight flight freeze when our resp. hormones have gone noodle doodle. And it poses a big problem with finding love. Good news is that you can work on this and reverse it and it's not even all that difficult. Bad news is that most don't even know any of this and thus don't do anything about it either. As a result both men & women keep struggling to find love. There are 4 Agreements each one of us can adopt. |
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To gravelridgeboy
you need to read your response with your mother or daughter or any woman in mind. I think the cork belongs in your mouth and you should not be on this site. even with all its issues in bringing peple together to find something more. At least we can all see you you are. Have some respect or STFU |
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With some women I have met, doing so would be a wonderful idea. In fact, with such women, I'd prefer to keep them there until I'm dead. The fact that you are saying that out loud says only one thing to me and leaves me with two thoughts. 1. you are disgusting human that should STFU and know that your place in life is to learn some respect. 1and 2. Read what you said and think if some other POS was saying that about your daughter mom of any Woman in your poor pathetic life |
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The reason why there a lot of dating sites with little or no results on finding a match, is because majority of the women are here to seek for financial Help from men, to sponsor there fun and exotic life and I return majority of the men here ,also don't understand the purpose of this platform in return are only seeking for sex reducing the value of the Real and Genuine woman who might be seeking for a true long life relationship or partnership. Now here is the thing women ,when a man sees you are the kind that's looking for a fun and exotic life yet claiming for are looking for a serious relationship,the fact is that your interests ,the question you ask and the demands you make even in a 1day relationship you are already asking for money and choosing exotic and very expensive places to be taken out that's it's selfs raise red flags to a man and in return he plays the kind of man that can get into your pants, but the thing is  you then you begin to fall in love with him ,as he gradually fakes that life and others even end up pregnant because they don't want to lose the guy who sponsors there exotic life ,But at that point that's when the guy is tired of pretending to be fake and walks away or eventually you get married to him and realize actually he owns nothing that's why we see no many women stranded and stuck.men must also understand that women that are mature and real look for a vision, character, religious or spiritual connection, family mindset and what's your attitude when you are in error and how you will treat them,Above all a woman is looking for a father and a friend in a man ,and such women are the ones who will love you for you and nothing else , Majority of men have lost great relationships because they followed sex and not the heart ,when women know are just after sex they start to distance themselves,and the more she walks away the more beautiful she looks ,because men are blind when they have a Great woman and that's why a lot have become obsessed and abusive when they realize this cause there intention where all towards sex and not life and her true nature. But Love doesn't cost a thing when two people genuinely give 🤏themselves to being together,they learn to sacrifice, compromise, forgive and understand,love is free when two are decided because they are a as long as we are together mentality and help each other genuinely. especially career women,must under that being bossy to a man chases him away. 1. Great woman are not at fault for a guy becoming obsessed and abusive. That the insecurities of a week person. 2. A woman can be as bossy boss boss as she wants if the ***** cant handle it, it is a bonus he runs away. |
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this seems very plausible.. personally, I hear "NEXT" in my mind when men speak of their encounters/exploits online.. as if women are lined up in a queue just waiting for a man to simply show them the time of day.. then they move on without a backward glance or a note of empathy when things don't go their way.. although it can be said the same of some women, I don't seem to find them anywhere near openly as crass as men..
the "50's" way some men think of women OR, as you put it, their religions/cultures deem women as 2nd's is so far outdated, it's ludicrous.. many women today, whether men want to accept it or not, are far superior intellectually than them.. some women wear many more hats simultaineously, in many instances, than men do.. speaking strictly for myself.. I say what's on my mind, I don't really care what people think because they judge without truly getting to know the real me first (thus "NEXT" comes quicker for men I simply converse with, however, that said, when I hear disparaging comments, OR they talk about their many exploits/conquests, I tend to move on quickly myself as I refuse to tollerate such behaviour from anyone, regardless of their sex) nor am I here to find a man, let alone "The One".. I'm fully aware that that is highly unlikely to happen so in that regard, have zero expectations.. I'm simply here to enjoy some banter, chat with old friends and new, and at times, enjoy being engaged in some stimulating conversation.. so to your point above, being attacked by cowards and masogynists simply reminds me that the choices I've made to remain single, are truly valid and justified! The treatment of women as secondary to men has deep roots in historical religious and cultural systems. Even though modern society often claims to reject those ideas, generations of conditioning have left those beliefs embedded in our collective thinking, almost like an inherited psychological reflex. In modern spaces such as dating apps, this dynamic can become distorted. As traditional forms of male dominance or social power weaken, some men struggle to adapt to environments where success depends more on mutual interest and communication than control. That loss of direct influence can provoke frustration, and in the anonymous, low-accountability atmosphere of dating platforms, it sometimes manifests as antisocial behavior, hostility, or attempts to reassert dominance in unhealthy ways. You brought up the fact that woman are now at a point that intellectually they have over taken men, but this has always been true and woman can very easily move past the physical part the interaction and look for the more meaningful connection through conversation and true interest not conquest. This is what guys don't get. It also doesn't help that evey few profiles sexual content and more is for sale. Thanks to everyone that has engaged till this point. |
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The Dehumanizing Effect of Modern Dating Platforms: A Critical Overview
Dating apps and sites were initially marketed as revolutionary tools to help people find love by expanding their reach beyond traditional spaces. The promise was compelling: algorithms would help us meet “the one,” bypassing awkward encounters and time-wasting mismatches. However, the reality for many—especially men—has turned out to be something far more troubling. Instead of fostering authentic connections, these platforms often reduce human interaction to gamified transactions, leading to a degradation of emotional engagement and, in some cases, a descent into deviant behavior. 1. The Marketplace Mentality Profiles on dating sites are designed to be quickly judged. Users are encouraged to swipe based on curated photos, basic stats, and lists of preferences—turning the act of choosing a partner into something closer to selecting products from a shelf or livestock at auction. It's no longer about getting to know someone; it's about ticking boxes. This fosters an objectifying mindset, where people— especially women—become consumable items, and men become aggressive buyers in a digital market. 2. The Casino Effect These apps mimic the psychological design of slot machines. Each match provides a dopamine hit, much like a winning spin. For men, especially those who may not receive consistent romantic attention offline, this can create an artificial ego boost. Suddenly, he’s chatting with three or four women at once. This perceived abundance can lead to shallow engagement, repetition in conversations, and ultimately burnout—turning meaningful interaction into a numbers game. The initial high crashes, and all connections fade. 3. Repetition and Risk The cycle begins again—new matches, new chats, same patterns. And amidst this repetition lies another trap: scammers. Many exploit the emotional vulnerability that arises in this disconnected system. They offer something rare in the app world—focused attention. That alone can feel intoxicating. But once trust is built and explicit exchanges occur, blackmail follows. It’s a cruel twist that exposes the emotional and moral cost of treating dating like a game. 4. From Hope to Hedonism For those seeking genuine connection, the constant failure to form anything lasting is demoralizing. After enough time, frustration takes over. Users stop seeing profiles as people and start interacting with them as faceless objects. At this point, the mask drops. Conversations grow crude. Empathy fades. And in many cases, especially among men, what emerges is not just detachment, but a permission to unleash the inner voyeur, the troll, or the predator. The platform becomes a stage where deviant behavior is rehearsed and refined Im working on the evolution of the behavior and reactions of what these apps have done in how woman interact with men. |
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The Dehumanizing Effect of Modern Dating Platforms: A Critical Overview
Dating apps and sites were initially marketed as revolutionary tools to help people find love by expanding their reach beyond traditional spaces. The promise was compelling: algorithms would help us meet “the one,” bypassing awkward encounters and time-wasting mismatches. However, the reality for many—especially men—has turned out to be something far more troubling. Instead of fostering authentic connections, these platforms often reduce human interaction to gamified transactions, leading to a degradation of emotional engagement and, in some cases, a descent into deviant behavior. 1. The Marketplace Mentality Profiles on dating sites are designed to be quickly judged. Users are encouraged to swipe based on curated photos, basic stats, and lists of preferences—turning the act of choosing a partner into something closer to selecting products from a shelf or livestock at auction. It's no longer about getting to know someone; it's about ticking boxes. This fosters an objectifying mindset, where people— especially women—become consumable items, and men become aggressive buyers in a digital market. 2. The Casino Effect These apps mimic the psychological design of slot machines. Each match provides a dopamine hit, much like a winning spin. For men, especially those who may not receive consistent romantic attention offline, this can create an artificial ego boost. Suddenly, he’s chatting with three or four women at once. This perceived abundance can lead to shallow engagement, repetition in conversations, and ultimately burnout—turning meaningful interaction into a numbers game. The initial high crashes, and all connections fade. 3. Repetition and Risk The cycle begins again—new matches, new chats, same patterns. And amidst this repetition lies another trap: scammers. Many exploit the emotional vulnerability that arises in this disconnected system. They offer something rare in the app world—focused attention. That alone can feel intoxicating. But once trust is built and explicit exchanges occur, blackmail follows. It’s a cruel twist that exposes the emotional and moral cost of treating dating like a game. 4. From Hope to Hedonism For those seeking genuine connection, the constant failure to form anything lasting is demoralizing. After enough time, frustration takes over. Users stop seeing profiles as people and start interacting with them as faceless objects. At this point, the mask drops. Conversations grow crude. Empathy fades. And in many cases, especially among men, what emerges is not just detachment, but a permission to unleash the inner voyeur, the troll, or the predator. The platform becomes a stage where deviant behavior is rehearsed and refined |
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