you can't make somebody like you. shrug it off and move on. life isn't a movie (which give as unrealistic a view of love as they do body images). but i do understand how you feel. however, if she approached you in a few years i would bet you would no longer be interested in her. you will have grown and changed as a person and what you saw that was so attractive in her you may no longer find so appealing. listen to them ol country musicians: "some girls don't like boys like me, aw, but some girls do." put your effort into someone who digs you.

Chin up sweetheart. I assure you that is not the case. If they want material things they are material women. You need a romantic woman. If she's smart, she doesn't care about money. Or maybe I'm the one who isn't smart!

I have a cousin in the Military who just retired and did some investigating for me. There are a lot of men on here that say they are Us citizen deployed over seas and need to get home but don't have access, and need you to pay for them to come home, which is like $6000. This is a scam Ask questions the any US military personnel will know that that is not a possibility unless there is an emergency in their immediate family, then it doesn't cost them anything, and they have to return other wise it is a crime. If the person tells you that they have been deployed for like 2 years it is a load of crap. The longest our troops are being deployed is 9 months to 1 year. since we are really not at "war" we are just on a peace keeping mission. If the are over seas longer then they have been stationed at a base of their choice and that would be like Japan, Turkey those are permanent bases not the temporary ones in like Kuwait, Saudi, Afghanistan, Iraq. Ect... There are also other Nationals that are trying to get into the states through scams Nigerians are others that are scamming women. Stating they are Us citizens and received and inheritance so they had to go to Africa and the inheritance is from Gold mining and is in the form of solid gold so they need help getting it transferred into actual Us currency and then they need you to pay for them to get to the states with the promise of millions and such. Their are others out there too. You can usually tell by how the word things in their chats or emails whether they are us citizens or not. Please if any of you Gals have any questions about guys you are chatting with you can email me I would be happy to get you the information you need to verify whether or not the person is real or not. My cousin can look into all of these and get you the information. I would be happy to help. No one should be used.

If you are trying to make someone fall in love with you, then she is not the one for you. If you want a certain kind of lady to fall in love with you, then become that person. Don't look for someone to complete you or to fill in a gap. Love yourself and who you are before trying to find someone to love you. Think of things you can do (groups that you can get involved in) to be with the kind of women you are attracted to. If a woman really wants you for you, then a fat wallet or fast car should not be the attraction point. Let the woman know that you are interested in her. Believe it or not, but many women are not mind readers and most (not all) are waiting for the man to make the first move.

I'll concede that some women are after nothing but great sex and money, no doubt about it, but the same can be said of some men, not all. There are some women, although having had bad love experiences themselves, have chosen to still open their hearts to true love, not based on materialistic values, but with an honest, caring, truly loving character, one based in integrity, believing they can have a relationship which is founded on who a person is rather than on the things either person possesses. It's a risk trying to find such individuals, because you also come across the materialistic ones; however, if you have any insight at all, those should become pretty evident within a very short time. Keep risking and you stand a chance of finding....if you stop risking you will never find the one you for whom you search. Best wishes that you will keep risking and, in the end, find that one.

If you HAVE to buy her things to make her like you, she's not worth your time. Now you should be a gentleman in buying your woman gifts, especially if she's down and out, there's a difference between buying her gifts out of love and buying her love.

So please think before you start taking out your wallet. A true woman will love you for you alone whether you have means to buy her things or not!

(Just saying don't go down the keeping her with money route. Being yourself is the key. If she doesn't like who you are, move on.)

my boyfriend and I are moving to new york for a life there :) we'll be gettin married too in three yrs. Could anyone suggest the best things for a couple to do in new york?

.. dude that sounds like every woman on the planet.. could you be a little more. forthcoming with the details..lol..omg.jk..

He'd better sign up for health insurance.