Remember most people do not have their priorities right anyway. In such a state life is confusing and unstable. Take a good look around at what is really going on, believe your eyes, forget what you have been told. It is reality. Get your ship in order, find someone who has their ship in order and you have something that could work out. Whatever happens that you have no control over, let it go. You must accept that things beyond your control which is almost everything are what they are. You really only have control of yourself and maybe not even that. Master thyself.

Nothing wrong. We all need to grow never stopping, wisdom answers all questions. Try going about your life doing the things you want to do. Don't go to places like bars to meet someone, both would be out of their zone, what a shock to realize that a few years down the road. Be yourself, find someone walking the same path as you and see what happens. The best relationships are the ones where you meet someone and then the next thing you know twenty years have passed. It all clicks. Never get ahead of yourself and or committed until, well maybe twenty years have passed and it occurs that you have over looked swearing an oath you can't keep and probably shouldn't even try and not even necessary. Just chill and live life the way you desire. What you seek is most likely doing the same.