oh thanks Mikey..
now I want to know the vice.. president .. I'm still waiting for the right update I get different updates on net......

welcome ,hey I would like to know when is the final counting of vote..??
I'm so positive that he's gonna make changes #cheers.

(Damn! Where are my knickers?)
Good idea! Thanks Mikey !

If he/she got away it just proves they weren't meant for you

I think too many people romanticize that part of the LDR journey instead of researching it as a couple and assessing the practicality of those realities in the long run.

I also don't see things working out if both parties are highly career driven during the long distance courtship period. I don't think you can mentally or emotionally half-azz an LDR. It requires a lot of focus because of all the added built in challenges, and a person with a high career drive is more likely to be giving their focus to mastering their career.

I also think that some people because of having been cheated on in the past or maybe even because of their own insecurities, are more prone to a suspicious/paranoid personality than others.

The last thing that I consider important whether it be a SDR or a LDR is the couple's ability to meet each others immediate family if possible and view the interaction style of that person in their home turf with their family. I think there are some crucial insights you gain into the person's character , lifestyle and personality that you cant learn from any context other than their family setting.

Yes true but when u do meet it's kinda hard to let go...at least for me lol

I have no experience with this whatsoever but here are my thoughts on some issues that are not always addressed.

While I do believe in LDRs, I do think that the further the distance in the globe, is the more you have to contend with alienating immigration laws, and possible cultural norms that clash against one's value systems. I think too many people romanticize that part of the LDR journey instead of researching it as a couple and assessing the practicality of those realities in the long run.

I also don't see things working out if both parties are highly career driven during the long distance courtship period. I don't think you can mentally or emotionally half-azz an LDR. It requires a lot of focus because of all the added built in challenges, and a person with a high career drive is more likely to be giving their focus to mastering their career.

I also think that some people because of having been cheated on in the past or maybe even because of their own insecurities, are more prone to a suspicious/paranoid personality than others. As a result of this, they put all their trust in the fears they have in their head as opposed to the actual truth, and they are perpetually in the mindset of accusation against infidelity. A person like that will not stand a chance in an LDR or any type of relationship for that matter because no amount of truth, love or reassurance can deliver them from that demon in my opinion.They require professional help.And LDRs only serve to poke at those even more .

The last thing that I consider important whether it be a SDR or a LDR is the couple's ability to meet each others immediate family if possible and view the interaction style of that person in their home turf with their family. I think there are some crucial insights you gain into the person's character , lifestyle and personality that you cant learn from any context other than their family setting.

Even with all of these sobering realities, what I love about the LDR is what people in this thread said about the unique opportunity it offers to get to know someone at slow and steady pace.

So many people I know , are in a rush to formalise a relationship without taking the time to know who they truly are, and then they rush just as quickly into the taking each other for granted phase.

I think a mature couple who consistently sustain that rich communication over a year or more in an LDR, show signs of TRULY caring about the person and wanting to be with that person, which many SDR's seem lack these days.

I also truly believe that because of the lack of physical access to the person, that LDR couples develop their communication to a much deeper level than SDR couples, and they become almost like a physically challenged person, whose other senses get highly developed and fine-tuned to compensate for the disability in question

Long distance relatiionships can tend to cause a lot of sexual frustration...i speak from my personal experience only

When somebody gives you a special attention it means you are important and precious to him, if not, he just want to have fun, so be prepared if you want to play his game or not.

A real man should always make the first move to make contact and not the lady, though it is not that a big deal if the lady communicates first

Is that an automatic deal breaker?

Hey I'm 40 now Mikey. I'm giving myself 5 more years to acquire some class.

Hope springs eternal