After six months of constant bickering and point scoring, can you blame her for not changing her mind? it's your arguing that's just compeling her to go!? you should've said, 'fine, if that's what you want to do?' and just let her go!!! it's pointless to even try to stop them once their mind is made up. trying to convince her to stay is a mistake. she'd only stay because you want her to and not because she wants, some people assume its the one and the same thing!? :) has your behaviour contributed to this situation or has she simply decided she wants a life?

Yes and no! :) it depends... some people can make a little knowledge go a long way and seem to appear to be smarter than they really are, whilst others can be academically smarter but still end up being pretty socially retarded.

You're obviously a sympathetic employer, and being a woman can empathise with this young lady using artificial insemination. was this her only choice or was this simply her preferred choice, hoping to have a genius child or world famous musician? :) lets just hope her inseminate wasn't a congenital circus dwarf... that may not be spelled correctly, my apology's. :) what matters more is what you decide. do you do the moral thing and let her continue in her new job, or do you put the interest of your business first?

The biological urge to have a baby is one of the most intense emotions you can have. Each woman is different, some not feeling that maternal instinct kicking in so readily. Some employers wouldn't allow a pregnant woman into a new job, even though women have baby's... they're the only side of the human race who can - but not on their new employers time. some people are more desperate to have a child in their life, feeling that 'need' to nurture a child. each side has a valid argument...!? which do you put first? that's up the individuals conscience...

But after three years with your long distance lover, is there any indication from him that he'd like you permanently in his life and not just as a flyby....? :( do you envision spending the rest of your life with this guy, or is he simply a stopgap until somebody else comes walking by? and if someone else does catch your attention closer to home and who also isn't a strain on your pocketbook... what happens to your distant friend? thrown to the kerb...??? :(

You're a beautiful woman and for the life of me can't understand why you don't have guys falling over themselves closer to home!? you're worried about one swedish guy, and there must be about a zillion equally good looking guys where you live who would be more than happy to marry your cute behind!? you must have a very long queue outside your front door of love hungry guys all desperate to steal your heart and gaze into those baby blues of yours!? :p

of course i work! i'm on a break and so able to write my comments to you. do you work??? :)

No, you'll find that i am in the right topic... i was just quoting from your profile that love conquers all... thats what you wrote! ;)

you said in your profile that 'love conquers...' ? sometimes it doesn't and you have to accept that. he lives in sweden!? is that not the sex capital of the world? :p lots of blonde, drop dead gorgeous, legs up to their armpits women who are sex mad and looking it twenty four hours of the day from some swedish hunk - possibly like your boyfriend?:) who could resist that temptation....? have you ever thought of going blonde? he may like that.....

Too many times i've seen women falling for some latin lover type from another country. these guys have a different sense of whats right and whats wrong, customs may also be different and both their value and view of women in their society!? you could be taken for a ride by some unscroupulous individual who will promise you the moon and the stars, all to get a passsort and free entry into your country, then disappear like a rat down a sewer. what do you know about him? do you even really kno anything? words can be shallow....

Isn't your meeting more like a holiday romance? we want what we can't have.... that becomes more intense, but is it really just your mind playing tricks on you? is there any point trying to continue what romance you experienced with this person? he may as well be living on mars...!? is it really love or just mere infatuation as you would get in a holiday romance. it's rarely genuine love. more like lust.... with a little love thrown in. :) but its not really love if you've both never spent enough time getting to really know each other? real love takes a little time to develope.

How can you possibly keep a long distance relationship going? You can't touch this person, kiss them or even simply hold their hand. How is this then a relationship? Yes, you may have this urge to be with them, just as many women want to be with brad pitt after meeting him in the flesh, but can't then claim they've got a relationship with him..!? if either of you aren't able to meet at least half way depending where you live, how else can you possibly keep this relationship on track? it's hard to make love to someone through a computer screen.... :(

NO.... LEAVE THE POOR THING ALONE! :) WHY IS IT THAT EVERYTHING WE DON'T LIKE - WE HAVE TO KILL IT??? IT'S ONLY A SPIDER.... IT'S PROBABLY JUST A HOUSE SPIDER? THEY'RE HARMLESS... IT'S NOT A FUNNEL WEB SPIDER LURKING BEHIND YOUR TOILET JUST WAITING TO SINK ITS FANGS INTO YOUR AMPLE BOTTOM...!!! :(

I'm amazed that they even had 'real' toilet tissue back in the 8o's??? :) I don't mean the nice, soft delicately fragranced toilet paper you get these days...!? The stuff I'm talking about when I was a child was smooth as glass on one side and like sandpaper on the other... not the most thrilling stuff to use? Yes, people today just don't know that they've got it easy...! But then, when they too grow up - they'll be screaming about their awfully hard deprived lives only having the internet, apple iphones, Jacuzzis and 2d playboy magazines.... no 3d yet..... sadly.

The usual stroke of genius... :)

Is doesn't matter what age you are - you'll still have those same feelins of love, lust, rejection, embarrassment, caution, etc... they'll always be with you! :) being an adult and not a spotty teenager should make you slightly more wary...? often it doesn't. it depends what your attitude is on the day! tomorrow you may wake up with a different perspective on things and want to take things further or not? we're only human... we make mistakes no matter what age we are. sometimes... huge one's? ;)

Usually with age comes wisdom... but not always!? :( yes, we can all develope crushes... it's only natural. but, if taken too far where it's not reciprocated especially when they or you are married or with a partner, can lead to all kinds of trouble... some people have a better check on their emotions than others. they can reign in their desire's and not let them take over. but, it's nice to have feelings for someone, but there's a fine line.... and you really shouldn't cross it unless invited to... only when you're single!? :)

If you don't confide in your partner any problems, concerns and change of circumstances.... :) how do you expect him to trust you? if you had talked to him, whether the problems concerned him or not, then perhaps he would see your behaviour as reasonable in the circumstances and give you the time and space in order to sort it out!? actions speak louder than words... next time - if there is a next time - talk to him!!! at least he'll know why you're doing what you're doing... and not have doubts? :)

You can wait for the world to end or you can get up and do something, anything to try to salvage the situation. sometimes it can't and shouldn't be salvaged.... but this is just another one of life's lessons!? the sun still shines tomorrow and it's just another day in your turbulant life of getting a partner - losing a partner! :) you'll survive and so will they...