See? everyone is different...! one gentleman here doesn't like 'clingy' partners.... whereas i on the other hand want them to be clingy. we all have different emotional needs. some men are more independent and don't have the desire or patience to be around their partner 24/7. some guys disappear down to the bar to discuss their concerns with their friends instead of their wives, and visa versa.

Us guys are more fragile than we'd like to admit.... :) i know that i am. :( of course, whenever someone says that it's not me that's the problem when they want to take a break - that will obviously stir up feelings of rejection! instead of disappearing, wouldn't the grown up thing be to talk about any issue's, problems and concerns, instead of going into your shell and vegetating? it screams of that person having either emotional issues or simply having emotional ties to someone else....

I'm slightly confused here? :) who exactly is taking time out? you or your partner.... if you choose to grab some thinking time and he then decides not to call you, then he's simply telling you that he's had time to think to and perhaps both of you have had a lucky escape??? it's normal to have doubts in a relationship but when you ask someone to get lost for a while - sometimes they take your request too literally or they think you're looking to cheat on them! :( but then is it still cheating if you're not together??? questions... questions...

I think that alarm bells should be going off in your head whenever a partner asks to be given time out in a relationship!? that leaves him, in his mind at least, totally free to see anyone else he chooses and also to sleep with them - then, once he's gotten that out of his system - he casually comes running back to you to take up where he left off? personally, i'd be worried if a partner of mine wanted some time to think...!? i'd get slightly neurotic.... :(

When someone actually loves you, they don't want to spend a second away from you! to brush you off with that old line that he needs space or time to 'sort things out' is his way of explaining that he's either interested and has feelings for another woman or that he's not sure and has doubts about committing fully to you in this one sided relationship? is he seeing someone else? an x maybe? someone at work he's developed feelings for or is he just too immature and can't make up his man sized brain...? :)

OK... SO THEY ASPIRE TO ACTUALLY DO THESE THINGS, LIKE CAMPING, HIKING, FISHING, ETC. THE SPIRIT IS WILLING - BUT THE BODY IS WEAK! :) SOME OF US LIKE TO DELUDE OURSELVES WITH THOSE LITTLE FANTASTY'S THAT WE TRY TO FULFILL - BUT LIFE JUST HAS A HABIT OF GETTING IN THE WAY... WE ALL WANT TO DO THINGS, SOME OF US GET THE CHANCE TO - WHILST OTHERS CONTINUE TO DREAM THEIR DREAMS!

YOU'VE ANSWERED YOUR OWN QUESTION...!!! YOU CAN'T HAVE THEM... THEY BELONG TO SOMEONE ELSE, WHO MAY ALREADY THINK THAT THEY ARE THEIR SOUL MATE TOO!!! MAYBE THEY HAVE A TWIN? :) YOU'LL NEVER TELL THE DIFFERENCE! ALL SOUL MATES LOOK ALIKE..! ;) THEY'RE TAKEN. NOT A LOT YOU CAN DO ABOUT THAT. YOU HAVE TO SETTLE FOR SOMEONE LESS SOULFUL.... :) X

A SOUL MATE... IS A PERCEIVED IDEA THAT THIS PERSON IS COMPLETELY RIGHT FOR YOU IN EVERY WAY!? YOUR PROBLEM IS HE'S NOT YOUR SOUL MATE... BUT SOMEONE ELSE'S.... HAVE YOU GOT A BIT OF PAPER GUARANTEEING YOU THAT HE IS YOUR REAL 1OO% GENUINE SOUL MATE? NO...? SO, HOW CAN YOU BE SO SURE? 'BECAUSE YOU HEART TELLS YOU SO!?' YOUR HEAD SHOULD BE RULING YOUR HEART - NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND! SOUL MATES ARE TWO A PENNY.... ;)

TRUE AND LASTING LOVE... REQUIRES EFFORT ON THE PART OF BOTH PEOPLE! IT'S NOT VERY TRUE OR LASTING IF ONE OF YOU DECIDES TO UNCOMMIT FROM THE RELATIONSHIP... BY DISAPPEARING WITH SOMEONE THEY ASSUME WILL OFFER THEM A BETTER TYPE OF 'TRUE AND LASTING' LOVE...! LOVE SHOULDN'T BE AN UPHILL STRUGGLE - BUT IT IS...! AT LEAST FOR SOME FOLKS....

Some people have had more traumatic lives and don't want to open up at all. you have to accept this. trauma does strange things to people, giving them a different slant and respective on life. they see things from an insecure viewpoint and often need professional help or councilling to unload their locked away feelings and emotions.

They do say that you have to give a little to get a little... maybe that's true in all things!? ;) don't push too hard. that's the wrong approach....

By being patient and understanding. realising that everyone may not be as emotionally secure as you are! with the right nurturing, love and attention, they will gradually open up like a flower.... but this can take time. forcing them into prematurely confide may actually send them even deeper into their own insecurities...!? what's the rush? just enjoy their friendship and let nature take it's course. when they feel secure, they'll tell you everything...

I don't recall why you need to contact them!? perhaps i missed that part...? if somebody doesn't want to be found - it's easy enough to disappear for quite some time.

The best way to find anybody is by chasing up their tax details - if they're working, and if not - then by their social security details. problem with this is that this information is likely to be under some data protection act... and any authority will consider it suspicious as to why you need to contact them unless they've just won a hundred million dollars on the state lottery or they've put too much butter on your toast....!? :)

Has anybody ever considered that the person you're looking for may actually not want to be found, either by you or anyone else?

POLITICIANS WILL INSIST THEY'RE NOT UP TO ANYTHING! WHO'S TO SAY IT WASN'T ONE AMERICAN AGENCY SPOOKING ANOTHER ONE? LET'S BLAME EVERYBODY BUT OURSELVES... I HEAR THEM CRY!? WHAT BETTER THAN TO BLAME YOUR NEIGHBOURS? IT'S EASY TO DO AND HARD FOR THEM TO DISPROVE!? THEY CAN TAKE A LOT OF BLAME FOR SOMETHING THEY DIDN'T DO... THE ONLY TIME A POLITICIAN TELLS THE TRUTH - IS WHEN THEY SAY NOTHING AT ALL! :)

CHINA INSISTS...!? :) LIKE ALL POLITICIANS, THEY CAN INSIST OR RATHER LIE, ALL THEY LIKE.... THEY ARE SIMPLY THE FACE OF THEIR GOVERNMENT. IT'S THE FINGERS YOU'VE GOT TO LOOK OUT FOR! THEY CAN BE CREEPING INTO ALL SORTS OF DELICATE AREA'S... HACKERS LOVE HACKING! :) IT'S A BUZZ THAT GETS THEM HIGHER THAN SEX! SOME DO IT FOR FUN WHEREAS OTHERS ARE DEADLY SERIOUS...

WHY DON'T THE GOVERMENT SIMPLY ENCRYPT THE INFORMATION USING ONE OF THE HIGH LEVELS OF ENCRYPTIAN CODES? THEREFORE, THEY'RE THE ONLY ONE'S WITH THE KEY.... ONLY DOWN SIDE TO THIS IS IF A MOLE IN THE GOVERNMENT 'ACCIDENTALLY' LOSES THAT KEY FOR A FEW BILLION DOLLARS... HOPEFULLY, NOT CHINESE DOLLARS!? ;)

PERHAPS WE'RE ALL BEING DECEIVED RIGHT NOW... AND WE'RE REALLY ALL JUST HUMAN BATTERY'S IN SOME 'MATRIX' JUST WAITING FOR KEEANU REEVES TO TURN UP AND UNPLUG US ALL...!? MAYBE THERE REALLY IS NO GOD, AND WE ARE ALL HURTLING THROUGH SPACE TO OUR DOOM...!? :) PERHAPS, SATAN HAS PLAYED THE GREATEST CON TRICK IN HISTORY, MAKING US BELIEVE THERE IS A GOD WHEN THERE REALLY ISN'T.... BUT THEN HE WOULDN'T EXIST, WOULD HE? ;)

PERHAPS WE'RE ALL BEING DECEIVED RIGHT NOW... AND WE'RE REALLY ALL JUST HUMAN BATTERY'S IN SOME 'MATRIX' JUST WAITING FOR KEEANU REEVES TO TURN UP AND UNPLUG US ALL...!? MAYBE THERE REALLY IS NO GOD, AND WE ARE ALL HURTLING THROUGH SPACE TO OUR DOOM...!? :) PERHAPS, SATAN HAS PLAYED THE GREATEST CON TRICK IN HISTORY, MAKING US BELIEVE THERE IS A GOD WHEN THERE REALLY ISN'T.... BUT THEN HE WOULDN'T EXIST, WOULD HE? ;)