Hi y'all. First post, but this looks like a good spot for it. I'm 32 yrs old with 3 kids. My ex and I got married right after she gave birth to our first child, 11 years ago. Money has always been tight, so it wasn't the perfect life, but we made due. A year and a half ago we got in an argument and I asked her if she really felt that way, did she want a divorce? She said yes, and moved out the next day. 1 week later, she started dating a mutual coworker. she now has a child by him. She sees our kids 1 sometimes 2 overnights a week, and pays NO child support. Divorce has not been filed, so I don't have a leg to stand on. I work for minimum wage, so coming up with legal fees for the divorce is tough. It won't be an easy one, as I want Full custody, since she left them and me. If we didn't live with my parents, there is now way I could survive by myself. The bright side of the story though - I have my kids 5 days a week :) Anyone in Springfield, IL that wants to apply for the job of present big sister, possible future second mom - let me know ;)