I'm half Italian. I love to cook. What would you like to order?

Booty call, of course not, lol. I do want to have a long-term relationship, though its tough to see how people are out there. I've had 2 dates last year, but yeah.

Thanks everyone!

Is there more meaning to that question? I'm saying that the answer will always be the same if you were to ask this to anyone. Its like asking someone if they wanted a million dollars, they would take it of course, so there is no point in asking you know? I've had a few people ask me what I want in a relationship and it seems like I should give it more detail.

Don't mind me, lol. I didn't sleep last night and I'm at work. All nighters make me tired a bit.

As childish as this may seems, I have no idea how to answer this question for myself. I also don't get what it means. Before you assume I'm a depressed emo guy with long hair covering my face, hear me out.

When someone says, "What do you want out of a relationship?"

I answer, "An attractive, easy-going, smart, honest, fun, girl who has goals in life and a great personality...etc."

Doesn't everyone answer that? Of course they do, so why do people ask themselves (or others) this question? Nobody wants a relationship full of the opposite of course...

I'm asking here because I can have many inputs from people that know about dating. Kinda like I ask a Nissan forum about a technical question about my car. ;)

The people that have said, "They will come to you..." have been in relationships, but when I hear that from many, it sounds like "old saying." I'm good, just wondering why people say that, rofl @ them!

I have heard this many times from people. To be honest, I'm sick of hearing it. For now, I'm just chillin and not currently looking because I'm just having fun, living my own life. ;) Anyway, why do these people say, "They will come to you." Someone also said, "Don't try too hard." You know, I'm really not. I had 2 dates last year, and not hitting on everything that walks. Haha. I'm cofident, and what not, so I know I'm not lacking that. After what these people are saying, I have no clue why I'm even on this dating site if that's what people say. I have no idea why they say that. Guys contact girls on this dating site, not the other way around...so I just can't sit here.

This is not a pity thread, just wanting to know what this means and why people say it. Don't worry I feel great about myself and I'm currently happy as is! ;)

Anyway, do they mean by don't go looking for it, such as you will stumble upon it?

So, I've messaged roughly 30 girls on two dating sites. (This being one of them.) I did have one of them who I thought would be the last one to message me, actually replied to my message! She is on here, and she loves to dance!

I think I scare people from writing too much. Like, I will relate to their profile, but ends up being a paragraph. So as a forewarning to you guys out there, keep it simple! Lol

Anyway, after the 2nd reply, I'm sure my long reply threw her off. Let's just say I'm right, do you think they could ever change their mind about me?

Also this is generally speaking. I'm not hung up on this matter, lol.

I can think of one. She loved to dance too. I kinda blew it though! :p

My left hand seems to do the precise things, while my right does the stronger stuff...lol


Never realized this until I wrote this ;)

And thanks =)

We have people that are left-handed, and right-handed. Well what I'm about to say is really what I do, and I don't know what my situation could be named. Ambidextrious is the ability to use left or right on one thing.

I write with my left.
I eat with my left.
I played guitar with my right.
I use my iPod with my right.
My right arm is stronger.
When playing baseball, I bat right, and throw with right.
I use the mouse at a computer with my right.
I put my sunglasses on with one hand: my left.
I never used the right "shift" key on the keyboard.
When typing using one hand like a calculator or phone, I use my left.

If I use the opposite hand on anything mentioned above, its nearly impossible.

Ok, last thread for tonight, I'm sorry I'm clouding the forum! Lol.

I will try to make a long story short. I lived in a place called Palmdale. I lived in Palmdale for 8 years. I work in Santa Clarita. Its a 1 hour drive from Palmdale to Santa Clarita. Killer commute isn't it? Lol. I moved to Canyon Country, a place in Santa Clarita region, about 15 minutes away from work. I moved to Canyon Country November 7, 2009. (Yes I'm a newbie!)

Here I am, saving money, living a heck of a lot closer to work and living in a nicer area. I have some friends in Palmdale, but not in Canyon Country. There are grocery stores, a mall, a theatre, bars, etc. There are no night clubs. The closest night club in in Hollywood. I discovered this when I was Googleing any kind of dance floor in Santa Clarita. I love to dance, its my favorite thing to do, so yeah. ;)

I can drive to Palmdale to hang with my friends, but its harsh on my car. (1999 Nissan Altima, 352,000 miles on it, all-original engine) I have gas money, its just a matter of if my car wants to keep going. It runs like a champ. If it breaks, I'm pretty much screwed. ;)

What's a good place to meet new people? I mean, not just for dating, but people in general. I also typed this story to prove that I have more valid points than excuses.

Thanks!

Regarding intelligence:

I'll be conceided for 5 mins. I'm really smart, and I've been told the same by my friends. People would be surprised. I'm not going into much detail, because I could write a novel about it.

Regarding looks:

The looks thing. Every relationship must have 2 people that are attracted to one another physically at some degree. It does matter, then again, so does personality.

Regarding humor:

I've made many people laugh with jokes that you wouldn't normally hear. I can do the "italian gangster accent" too...people usually laugh at that. =)

Regarding dating in real-life

I'm going to post a topic about that. ;)

I'll keep going and won't give up. There's always someone out there.

Plastic pancakes is a lie! And all this time I had a giant pink plastic pancake shrine I worshipped in my closet.

If "plastic pancakes" is a metaphor for a real friend, then its hard to tell. =/

Hence why I initially stated "people have standards, and I don't blame them for that..." lol. I think I am an ok looking guy. But man, like roughly 40 girls that deny me because of my looks is hard to believe. Yet, it could be true. :(

My bad. I fixed it. =)

This regards to literally messages. The ones that start the first meet-up, or date.

I have messaged many girls. Not much luck, lol. I will get there someday, it just takes time. I understand people have standards, and I don't blame them for that. :) The point of this is to see what kind of things you would like to see in a message you receive.

For example, when I message girls, I do take the time to read their profile. I tell them my name, what I work for and tell them I attend college. I don't say obnoxious things that are shallow or vulgar. I may crack a small joke or two. When I message someone, I relate to something that they have in their profile, such as a hobby, relationship views or the way they view life. Of course, if its someone who has totally different interest or views, I don't message them. The message topic isn't just "Hi" or "Hey there.."

So for you ladies out there, what would an ideal message be from someone on Mingle2?

Hmm. I think the way I message people is fine along with my profile...though, I could be wrong. Any advice? =)

EDIT: Sorry. I did post it here as well as another site. That thread was quickly deleted, though.

Also, I could try a test message on someone, if they are willing to help me out. :)

People work in mysterious ways. A broad question like that is impossible to answer. If you asked that individual, it would be tough to get the true answer from them. They could even lie about the lie...I do wonder that too though, OP.

I would of called her. I would rather leave a text than calling someone at work. I can say anything in a text and in real life too. She was driving to work. She has a 1 1/2 hour commute. She said last night she had to work today anyway. =) Otherwise, yes, I would of called her. Id rather talk on the phone than text...it has more emotion and meaning.

No, I think that she was thinking as she drove home. She said her car was old, a 2005 Lexus GS, lol. I told her mine is a 1999 Nissan Altima with 351,000 miles on it. I did have fun, but went home, and didn't really see myself with her. Seems like I am happy with the simple things in life, lol. I did enjoy the conversation, it did seem like when I thought about it at home, she was high maintanence. Oh well. =) We did discuss relationship stuff, but it isn't really relevant.

Two dates. The first one was coffee, last night was dinner at a returaunt of her choice. Seemed like we connected on many levels. I texted her and said, "I had a great time! :)..etc." She texted me back, "I did not. Please don't message me again." I replied, "Alright, no problem. Hope you find that special someone." Well, just gotta keep going. It bothered me for 10 seconds, but not any longer. That's life, I just brush it off my shoulder, lol.

For all you other people who take rejection so personally, don't! :)