Box of condoms, jumper cables, car battery, biggest bottle of lube available, and a happy aniversary card.

Well... having never had the problem of more than one love interest at once, I'm not quite sure what the correct answer is. I will say this, though...

The first one - the one who is too polite and doesn't drink much, yet doesn't seem to have motivation to better himself. Have you asked him what his goals are? Maybe he just needs some time to figure things out.

The second one... I automatically get a red flag when you say that he drinks 3 or 4 beers every day. I think that's called an alcoholic... or at least on the way to becoming one. Having dated - and deeply loved - an alcoholic before, it brings into the picture a HUGE amount of disappointment and heartbreak.

While sometimes a "challenge" is fun, sometimes all it ever really is is a challenge. And it gets old sometimes. I'm not sure why people have a tendency to choose the more difficult route, but there is a lot to be said for being dependable, loyal, sweet and thoughtful.

Date them both until you find the right one.........dont put your eggs in one basket...............find out their pros and cons and go from there...............who said you had to commit enjoy while it lasts most people dont get that so do what is best for you and keep them both your young and single................

That closing comment built my confidence in you more than ten books would do.
Just knowing that you aren't a collector of half-satisfactory half-fulfilling options is a good sign that you'll decide what is right for you.
When it's right for you, it's good for the whole future full of potentials.
Best wishes.

lol...thats wrong...lol

women

oops, did i say that out loud?

yeah sure why not

margaritas! chips and salsa with margaritas!!
or long island ice tea