Sorry I'm just gettting back to you.

I figured you meant that - about talking to her.

In regards to the "meeting thing," that is exactly what I mean. Why rush to be in a deeply dependent relationship, needing and wanting contact so often, when you can't meet more than a few times a year? I could be wrong. Infrequent get-togethers works for some people..

I hope you had a good talk with her.

Best to you!

I haven't heard from her in several days now actually. She was online for a bit tonight, but didn't respond to an IM, nor did she read an email I sent. That concerns me a little bit, though I'm probably making a mountain out of a molehill.

Does she usually do the calling to you or you her? If you are the one, then maybe she was waiting for you to contact her. She most likely saw that you were online at the same time. If she did she also could be wondering the same thing about you.

Oh this part is so hard and does not really get any better as one gets's older. You think you can read a person when it seems that they love talking to you and you them. All is good. Then spoken and unspoken issues crop up and the usual communication or behavor patterns change and throw you for a loop. You can drive yourself crazy over analyzing what is happening.

I like the direct, just ask approach. But that can be scary to people that hold back their thoughts and emotions. If she is that way you may have to just wait it out.

I hope it's just a short wait for you.

I always have to this point, she hadn't been online for a few days though that I saw anyway before tonight, hence why I had not contacted her again till now. So I'm not sure what the deal is, might have just been busy though I suppose.

Take your time

Get to know each other

And go from there

Good luck bro

Of course I don't know why she is now not calling or answering your online IM's, but I agree with Romeo on this one. Just take your time to get to know her. Take your cues from her. Listen to her answers and how she reacts. Pay attention to what she says and especially what she asks. Slow and consistent is best. That is how trust is built.

Best wishes to you!

my parents celebrated their 50th anv last june.....they knew each other 6 weeks when they got married.....

you're thinking about it too much. letting it get in your head won't do the situation any good at all.

Still waiting to hear from her.......

I'm sorry to know that. I know how you feel.

People here will tell you that it happens more often than not where it seems to be going good and then poof, it's over. She may also be taking a break because of life. It could be any number of reasons. Try not to worry too much.

Think about this though, when you start out too fast and then it drops off drastically, someone winds up with hurt feelings. Remember that for the next times.

I'm still open to meeting others and you should be as well. I did not cut off contact from any potential matches while he was in constant contact with me. Not that I was cheating. There was not talk of committment that early in the game. It's just not realistic to put all my hopes and dreams into one basket, expecially with someone that lives 3K miles from me.

I guess I just have to pay attention to the signs. As in "Actions speak louder than words." I can't talk with somone that will not talk with me.

They may come back but we can't wait forever and not live our best life. Let's make a pact. You keep open to receiving REAL True Love. I will do the same. Deal?

It is right to have hope for love! That is from my heart.

Deal. (shakes on it)

No sense in putting it all in one basket as you said, at least till you're sure it's right anyway. Otherwise, you get kind of where we are now really, losing our minds over every little thing.

And hey if nothing else you make a bunch of new friends right?

Why are you in such a big hurry? Yes you are over thinking things.

Deal...shakes.

"...a bunch of new friends..." Absolutely!

Gotta start out that way with everyone and most especially those people we want in our lives. Just remember - SLOW!

I'm guilty of over-thinking things when it comes to relationships! When I catch myself doing it I go to these Forums and search for similar situations. Lot's of times I don't have to write anything and I find good suggestions from other's experiences. Sometimes I offer up my experiences for others to know they are not alone. I don't have any answers. I can only share what doesn't work for me. I can share what does. Maybe it will for someone else.

Chin up!

I'm terrible at that, I always tend to get myself involved too quickly, which only sets me up for heartbreak later when things don't work out for one reason or another. I need to learn to slow down and let the relationship build naturally, not just see them once or talk to them a few times, and think "Oh maybe this is a potential relationship....."

Would save me a lot of heartache to be sure, would be less likely to get myself involved with people who are taken this way too. That's another habit I often find myself falling into, becoming smitten with someone who is off the market if you will.

<=- grabs popcorn, high fat butter and throws popcornbag into microwave.

Please continue...

Time to end this thread. Evil is lurking in the halls.