ok im 28 now and i have stayed with my mom after my dad died so she
wouldnt be lonely, but all i know is florida, all my really good friends
are here and such, yet now she wants to move to the country and i tell
her i wont go, she is trying to make me feel bad by leaving her alone. i
swore when my dad died i'd be there for her always, yet, i don want to
leave i am happy hear, so do i give up my life here and move with her. i
dont want to be a bad daughter, but i also want to be an indivudual.
please advise.

Tell your Mom to go without you and tell her that you'll vist when you
can. Your duty as a child is not to be old and single just because your
Mom wants to move out of the City! Point it out to her and ask her if
she really wants you to be single all your life: I bet there's a lot of
guys out in the country...ya know.....

Well, another question comes to mind... just how far does she want to
move from her present location? If it is within 20 miles or so, then it
might not be as bad as you think, you will still be able to see your
friends easily enough, or commute to your job. I suggest finding out
more, and even going to see the area before you make your decision.

28 years old.Should be living your own life.Just because you do not live
with her dose not mean your not there for her.You have to spread your
wings too.

Jobs, friends, new experiences are all a part of life & growing up. At
28 you need to be making YOUR life, your way. So mom needs to let the
help the little bird leave the nest, not tie her to it. What really
needs to happen is YOU decide what you want & do it. Tell mom you love
her, but have to leave the nest & make a life for YOU.