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Topic: Trust
TheShadow's photo
Mon 03/12/07 05:20 PM
I know this has been a topic before but it is always good to get fresh
opinions :smile:

I would think that all of us had been through bad relationships and been
hurt in certain ways So most of us tend to pull back on the trust when
we first meet someone

Knowing you been hurt and that trust is gone How do you? build that
trust back up What do you look for in a person that you don't know but
that might want to try to trust

BigGlenn's photo
Mon 03/12/07 05:29 PM
You got me man.

by the way, how ya doin'?

no photo
Mon 03/12/07 05:31 PM
Shadow, I try to keep in mind that everyone is different, and just
because the last 73 girls have been dishonest or untrustworthy or
possessed by Satan, doesn't mean the next one will be.

There's a law of averages at work somewhere in the universe (probably
the Crab Nebula) which means there must be at least one decent person
somewhere in existence. That's simple math, although probably totally
inaccurate.

But I am naive enough to believe that there are other people who are evn
more naive than me, which only goes to show how naive I REALLY am. That
doesn't answer your question, but it doesn't answer mine, either, so now
we're even.


no photo
Mon 03/12/07 05:35 PM
shadow i've been there..been hurt in the past and now im just getting
back into the dating scene..its hard. i want to really get to know the
person and not rush like i did b4 in past relationships..take your time,
man and it will happen. You will gain that trust back, there's lots of
good people out there..:wink: :smile:

TheShadow's photo
Mon 03/12/07 05:35 PM
Actually pretty good Glenn

I have been doing somethinking on things this last we and I'm seeing
what I like I all that and how it is making me feel good that by just
being me is helping someone out and is giving me a chance to look at
myself and what is going on in my life No that i through you off lmao
How you doing

BigGlenn's photo
Mon 03/12/07 05:37 PM
I'm good bro. Just hangin'. Waitin' for you're waitin' for...

TheShadow's photo
Mon 03/12/07 05:38 PM
Ops I better explain I was just wondering on the trust how you guys see
it I'm not going through anything right now lol :smile:

TheShadow's photo
Mon 03/12/07 05:40 PM
lmao I better slow down on my typing

buttons's photo
Mon 03/12/07 05:40 PM
shadow i think it takes the right person u date to finally move on...
when u are dating the wrong person u think u arent ready to date.. but
if it is the right person that really peaks your interest u will move
on.. so keep trying:smile: u seem like a very sweet gent..perhaps a bit
shy.. ya got good looks:smile: smooched

BigGlenn's photo
Mon 03/12/07 05:40 PM
LMAO... I'm gettin' a drink.drinker

herewego's photo
Mon 03/12/07 05:41 PM
hi shadow..

it is really hard at times to trust again.. when you've had your heart
ripped out and shredded. but in time you will begin to open your heart
again.. very slowly and that person will have to earn your trust. it
isn't an easy thing, but it will happen. just take it slow and easy.
don't rush into anything and you'll be fine. you are a wonderful guy and
i have really missed seeing you around and chatting with you. so glad
that you are coming back on again.

CATBW56's photo
Mon 03/12/07 05:43 PM
I agree with buttons, it just takes the right person to help you move
on. Hey, with BigGlen....gettin a drink.drinker drinker drinker

BillRoot's photo
Mon 03/12/07 05:48 PM
Hope your doing good shadow!
When I got over the last relationship I knew I have to just give trust
to the next.Im just taking the time to find the right one.I will feel
drawin to her like a magnet.Then I will give the trust.I will also watch
for potential trouble.The longer your together and doing good,the more
your guard drops.Am looking for someone with a different personality
than the ones in the past.Wish ya well there guy.drinker :smile:

julieluv's photo
Mon 03/12/07 05:55 PM
Shadow I feel ya pain brother. I Have been hurt so many times that I
can't even count.People playing games on the net pretending like they
are true blue. Men outside of the net wanting only one thing. Do I look
like a freaken store is what I am thinken. I am a country girl looking
for a plain old country guy without the lies games and drama.I don't
understand why people feel the need to hurt others. I feel your pain and
I hope that you never ever have to feel like that again.JSH family could
all of you raise your glasses and tip your hats to Shadow in honor of
him never haven that kind of pain again?drinker

Giggles73's photo
Mon 03/12/07 05:57 PM
I don't understand why people feel the need to lie...to tell you one
thing, then you never hear from them again...

TheShadow's photo
Mon 03/12/07 05:58 PM
Buttons I agree with you and where I satnd to day is a whole new world
My trust in people not just women is open it has been for a while I
guess you can say I learnd how to pay attention to the red flags if you
were to say which in the past I think most of us didn't as I because of
our on selfishness not wanting to let go afraid of loseing something
that really was never our in the first place Frendship or relationship
is something that is given feely and with open arms

As far as being shy Yes a little but it don't stop me from being me and
perhaps as you said :wink: Not seeing me on the forums as much as I use
to may of gave you that idea Hmm maybe is is one special person right
now that I'm interested in anyway I love hearing people opinions and
alot of you guys have good insites on things So I say to everyone take
what you can and learn from it

BigGlenn's photo
Mon 03/12/07 05:58 PM
yeah, PEOPLE SUCK!!!!! yeah, yeahgrumble

herewego's photo
Mon 03/12/07 06:02 PM
are you sure about that glenn?

jeanc200358's photo
Mon 03/12/07 06:05 PM
I have been hurt so much (both in dating relationships and in general by
other people) that I have a difficult time FULLY trusting anyone, off
the bat. What I do is pretty much give people the BOTD until or unless
they give me a reason not to.

So, I pretty much trust at the outset, but let me catch you in a lie
it's buh-bye time.drinker

Roxxxie5's photo
Mon 03/12/07 06:05 PM
Did u get ur drink yet Big Glenn??? Hmmm...red flags..they do need to
be paid attention to...i get them mixed up with just things i might need
to accept ..i dunno..i say that alot dont i??? hmm..im thinking in order
for God to put a trustworthy person is ones life one needs to be
Trustworthy..which means i gotta always look at myself and make sure im
being a good mommie..a good friend...a good watever...if that certain
special guy comes along..then its a bonus...hopefully my eyes will be
open..and my heart......

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