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This is WEIRD... You guys are not creeped out.
Fade could probably tear this guy apart and have her way with him. hehe.. JK. |
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Isn't it sad that in our society a 23 yr old man who chooses celibacy (maybe even til marriage) is seen as the "odd man out" .. that it's looked at as 'weird' or 'strange' I have 3 nephews who all waited until marriage to have relations with their wives. I am very proud of them. My older son is planning on doing the same. He is saving intimacy for the one he wants to spend the rest of his life with. He doesn't want to be in a 'relationship' until he is serious about someone. Your guy sounds like he's got it together, is compassionate and caring. That should never be a negative.  I completley agree. It is a rare thing anymore. If I miss even opening a door for a woman, I am waiting for my pops (even though he is gone now)to pop me in the head and tell me to go apologize. Gentleman are a dyin breed anymore!!!  You don't look dead to me  I take a breath every once in a while. Plus the 2nd tuesday of every week. I get let out of my cage to play. Sure does take a long time to get here tho. 
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He also has told me that he's done more with me than any other girl he hangs out with. He never cuddles with him, holds hands, hugs, etc. The most we've done is I've given him handjobs and he's played with my boobs.
I also met his dad last weekend when I went to his house for the first time. I live in my own apartment and he usualyl just comes to my place. He always tells me I'm pretty, or hot and things like that. I went to his bball games the past 2 weeks. All of his friends think I'm his girlfriend and they think I'm a good catch for him and he should go for it. But I'm not really sure thats what he's thinking. He also said that he has dated a few girls recently but always finds flaws in them that are deals breakers - like an ex heroin addict, and a girl who got depressed adn dropped off the face of the earth. So I asked him what the flaw was in me taht he found and he said there isn't any. When we're together I feel like his gf alot of the tiem - he pays for me. We hold hands if we're out and about, etc. And its nice that he pays for me because I know he doesn't have a lot of money - he's having trouble finding a job in broadcasting which is what he went to school for. |
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Edited by
clltx
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Thu 08/07/08 12:14 PM
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He also has told me that he's done more with me than any other girl he hangs out with. He never cuddles with him, holds hands, hugs, etc. The most we've done is I've given him handjobs and he's played with my boobs. I also met his dad last weekend when I went to his house for the first time. I live in my own apartment and he usualyl just comes to my place. He always tells me I'm pretty, or hot and things like that. I went to his bball games the past 2 weeks. All of his friends think I'm his girlfriend and they think I'm a good catch for him and he should go for it. But I'm not really sure thats what he's thinking. He also said that he has dated a few girls recently but always finds flaws in them that are deals breakers - like an ex heroin addict, and a girl who got depressed adn dropped off the face of the earth. So I asked him what the flaw was in me taht he found and he said there isn't any. When we're together I feel like his gf alot of the tiem - he pays for me. We hold hands if we're out and about, etc. And its nice that he pays for me because I know he doesn't have a lot of money - he's having trouble finding a job in broadcasting which is what he went to school for. Wow...I think he must trust you and feel comfortable with you, since he's done more with you. Don't take advantage of that, treasure it. And he hasn't found a flaw in you? Well, that might seem a little naive...but treasure that, as well. I've met plenty of guys that are more than willing to point out everything they think is wrong with me...including my ex. I think he sounds like a keeper. Why are you scared or concerned? I understand the confusion with mixed signals, but I think most of us are guilty of sending those out. You might want to give him some time and a chance. What have you got to lose? |
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He also has told me that he's done more with me than any other girl he hangs out with. He never cuddles with him, holds hands, hugs, etc. The most we've done is I've given him handjobs and he's played with my boobs. Oh... wow... he does have some sexual urges.. |
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So let me get this straight. You hardly kiss, but he let's you touch his package?
 And he's messed with your girls? In a nutshell that's not the purity I was envisioning. And this is NOT what my nephews or sons idea of keeping pure is all about either. Geesh, kissing is step one. Your talking a # of steps further .. He doesn't sound very affectionate to me. Cuddling and holding hands is a huge way to express interest and attraction without getting in too deep. I'm thinkin this guy has other issues. BUT ............ I still hold to celibacy as being incredibly STRONG as a man. It's much more the 'BRAVEHEART' stance than getting in bed with a woman. The wedding I'm off to this weekend is one of my nephews I spoke of earlier. He and his girl have waited. They are actually EXCITED and in EAGER ANTICIPATION for their wedding night. What a concept. LOL One of his brothers got married last year. Yep virgins too. And the bride was all but bouncing off the altar in pure raw excitement. It's a beautiful thing to be innocent. It's also rare, and we should stand in awe and reverence when we encounter it. |
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This is WEIRD... You guys are not creeped out. Fade could probably tear this guy apart and have her way with him. hehe.. JK.  Mrs. Robinson I'm not babe. My thread is DEMI/ASHTON yanno? Last thing I would ever do is ruin a guy's committment to purity. THAT'S just wrong on so many levels ... but thanks for the vote of confidence.
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And its nice that he pays for me because I know he doesn't have a lot of money - he's having trouble finding a job in broadcasting which is what he went to school for. Ok we are getting somewhere. What are his passions and goals in life? He is 23... how old are you? Do you know what you are looking for? |
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He doesn't sound very affectionate to me. Cuddling and holding hands is a huge way to express interest and attraction without getting in too deep. I'm thinkin this guy has other issues. I think so.. too... isn't it creepy. I was rised in an un-affecitonate family. I didn't even hug my parents or my brothers. But when I started dating, I unleashed my ... mmm... express my deep deep feelings onto my girlfriend. To the point she would say... you are going to rub my thighs raw. (with my hand and that was like 17 years ago.. now I know better.) |
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And its nice that he pays for me because I know he doesn't have a lot of money - he's having trouble finding a job in broadcasting which is what he went to school for. Ok we are getting somewhere. What are his passions and goals in life? He is 23... how old are you? Do you know what you are looking for? His passions are sports. And basically right now he's just trying to find a job. I will be turning 23 the end of this month. |
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The wedding I'm off to this weekend is one of my nephews I spoke of earlier. He and his girl have waited. They are actually EXCITED and in EAGER ANTICIPATION for their wedding night. What a concept. LOL One of his brothers got married last year. Yep virgins too. And the bride was all but bouncing off the altar in pure raw excitement. It's a beautiful thing to be innocent. It's also rare, and we should stand in awe and reverence when we encounter it. I photographed my Pastor's daughter's wedding. At one point we were doing the Garter belt shot... The bride was sitting on the chair and the Groom was on his knees in front of her. He lifted the dress and his hands reaching up for the garter and he turned his head and made a puky face.... HAHA.. He's a Virgin. About 3 months later, she had a big belly... looks like the virgin church boy got busy on wedding night. |
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Affection is HUGE in a relationship. At least in mine it has to be. No way will I date someone seriously who isn't into all kinds of touching, and PDA's ROCK!!!!!!!!!
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From what I've read, I tend to agree with some of the other posters. 1.) Is that he has some suppressed issues.and
2.) Is that he is probably gay, or at the least bi. Although I'm leaning toward #2. It could be #1.It's possible that he may have been molested as a child. This is just my opinion. If you want things to work. I hope that they do. 
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Affection is HUGE in a relationship. At least in mine it has to be. No way will I date someone seriously who isn't into all kinds of touching, and PDA's ROCK!!!!!!!!! Oooo yeah... How about soft music, Red wine and melted dark chocolate dip for strawberries, scented candle, low dim lights and warmed Massaging Oil. Yep, Master at work... All FIVE senses... not just one. |
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Very well put {{judy}} and where was a guy like this when I was growing up (hell I am still not grown up)
Isn't it sad that in our society a 23 yr old man who chooses celibacy (maybe even til marriage) is seen as the "odd man out" .. that it's looked at as 'weird' or 'strange' I have 3 nephews who all waited until marriage to have relations with their wives. I am very proud of them. My older son is planning on doing the same. He is saving intimacy for the one he wants to spend the rest of his life with. He doesn't want to be in a 'relationship' until he is serious about someone. Your guy sounds like he's got it together, is compassionate and caring. That should never be a negative. |
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Edited by
SVImager
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Thu 08/07/08 01:12 PM
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...where was a guy like this when I was growing up (hell I am still not grown up) That guy was trampled by the Reality of Life and Marriage. |
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Ok we are getting somewhere. What are his passions and goals in life? He is 23... how old are you? Do you know what you are looking for? His passions are sports. And basically right now he's just trying to find a job. I will be turning 23 the end of this month. Hey that is great. Do you love him? Can you picture yourself with him 20 years from now? Do you know what you don't want in life? uhhh... Heck... you are just dating him and won't be in trouble ... just have fun and enjoy your time learning about each other. |
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He also has told me that he's done more with me than any other girl he hangs out with. He never cuddles with him, holds hands, hugs, etc. The most we've done is I've given him handjobs and he's played with my boobs. I also met his dad last weekend when I went to his house for the first time. I live in my own apartment and he usualyl just comes to my place. He always tells me I'm pretty, or hot and things like that. I went to his bball games the past 2 weeks. All of his friends think I'm his girlfriend and they think I'm a good catch for him and he should go for it. But I'm not really sure thats what he's thinking. He also said that he has dated a few girls recently but always finds flaws in them that are deals breakers - like an ex heroin addict, and a girl who got depressed adn dropped off the face of the earth. So I asked him what the flaw was in me taht he found and he said there isn't any. When we're together I feel like his gf alot of the tiem - he pays for me. We hold hands if we're out and about, etc. And its nice that he pays for me because I know he doesn't have a lot of money - he's having trouble finding a job in broadcasting which is what he went to school for. You give him hand jobs and he plays with your boobs? If he was a real man he'd make sure that you were totally satisfied before he got his. He's gay |
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way to go celibates!
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Ok we are getting somewhere. What are his passions and goals in life? He is 23... how old are you? Do you know what you are looking for? His passions are sports. And basically right now he's just trying to find a job. I will be turning 23 the end of this month. Hey that is great. Do you love him? Can you picture yourself with him 20 years from now? Do you know what you don't want in life? uhhh... Heck... you are just dating him and won't be in trouble ... just have fun and enjoy your time learning about each other. 23 years old, love shouldn't even be a thought at that age...wait until your more settled down to start envisioning such things, or they will inevitably fail. Personally you know the guy better then us and we are taking cue's from you, if you like him go for it...if you are doubtful talk to him about it, if you want nothing to do with him then leave it be. Most of all watch out for yourself, cause we all die alone.
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