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Is it wrong for me to be goofy, and doing just about anything for laughs? I am told, that I am quite intelligent, by many people , from family, to doctors...(for my age-26 in september)... But I am not very often on the serious side, when it comes to general conversation, unless i am asked/told to be serious for the time being. I have been told by many that it is a sign that i am plenty secure with myself, and some have said I am , "immature"... I believe that acting serious all the time adds undue stress to an already stressful life, so I try to make light of every situation that I can... If a friend is slippin toward depression, I make it my place to try to make them laugh...to the point of being annoying sometimes, but I usually get my laugh. Or one of my favorites, is to say to someone I dont know, in a store, or even on the street, something like, " Excuse me, but this is a smile only zone, and I dont see one on you." CORNY! Very much so, but I say corny things on purpose, because they often make people smile or laugh....some have even said thank you, for me giving them a reason to smile. So, my question is, if I am pretty good at making people smile and laugh at my own expense, why does it seem I cant find a decent woman? Goofy, does not mean I am not serious about a relationship....after all, I believe a true heart will show through the jokes....it is just part of me. Peace, Rich Good natured, happy, easy going, spontaneous .all good things Immature and inappropriate - pass ... If you don't know the difference  All good things |
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Sorry about your luck, bro, but I AM here to meet women, to make friends and eventually maybe more,, so I guess it would stand to reason that I would direct most of my posts to females wouldn't it..... You are someone who wants to get lucky and "maybe more".Where did he say he wanted to get lucky? He says he wants to meet women, make friends, and maybe more. This is wrong? |
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The bottom line is that being one's self can be dangerous!  True, however, if I am not myself, when first meetting someone, then I have to constantly maintain the facade I have been putting up, so I find it much easier to just be who I am and keep it real...otherwise, the relationship started falsely, will only be shattered when the facade falls....and with me, it will...I can get testy sometimes, though I am almost always "Mr. Lover" we all have our testy times. |
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lovemeifyoucan26
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Mon 08/18/08 04:47 PM
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There is nothing wrong with being hilarious, Thats actually one thing I look for in a guy. If he can make me smile or laugh then its a good thing, you just have to wait for the right girl that will laugh at all your jokes, but its more like everyone has a goofy side to them, some like to show it others don't Well, said.....some people are scared of what someone will think of their goofy side, so they end up being uptight. True, Now I'm not afraid to show my goofy side, and if they don't like it then that means they don't like me for who I am. You couldn't be more right. Thank you for agreeing on that. It's hard to find someone to agree on something like this Use some caution Kristee. You are new here but realize that there are a ton of players on these sites. Picture someone who has a megaphone and goes into a single bar. After seeing someone who is responsive the sweet talking starts. This is why I hate these "women only" posts. They always seem to be done by new members to the site. This is for the dude that seems to like to run his mouth"DESTINYSDREAM." Be that as it may, I could be wrong, but I think that you are implicating me, when you talk of these players. You don't know me from the next joe, so, don't cast your seeds of self doubt my way. What the real problem is, is people like you who are so insecure that you have to do your best to cast shadows of doubt, even on the guys like me, who are true, and have heart. Your self doubt has only served to make you look like a fool. From this point on, you are dismissed from anything I post, without comment....if you ever decide to exibit some form of respectful intelligence, you may reply, until then keep your negitivity in reserve for those who ARE players,,, Don't disrespect me over the computer again. |
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I think most of us do like someone who can walk on the lighter side, but when there is need to address the serious issues joking them off can be taken as a sign that you're not serious about the relationship. It just depends on how far it's taken. Can you discuss matters of the heart with a woman, without sticking a finger down your throat and pretending to gag? I mean, really! How old ARE you? Oh sorry, I was having a flashback.   A relationship is one area that I am serious...I dont like games....being that I am the only bot out of 7 kids, I dont think my sisters would keep respect for me, if I was a player....not to mention, I would not be a Cappy- Hamper, if I caught someone playing one of them.....I am serious only when it is needed...I am just a real man, with a real heart, who is real playful. |
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I think most of us do like someone who can walk on the lighter side, but when there is need to address the serious issues joking them off can be taken as a sign that you're not serious about the relationship. It just depends on how far it's taken. Can you discuss matters of the heart with a woman, without sticking a finger down your throat and pretending to gag? I mean, really! How old ARE you? Oh sorry, I was having a flashback. A relationship is one area that I am serious...I dont like games....being that I am the only bot out of 7 kids, I dont think my sisters would keep respect for me, if I was a player....not to mention, I would not be a Cappy- Hamper, if I caught someone playing one of them.....I am serious only when it is needed...I am just a real man, with a real heart, who is real playful. Do you know a guy named Jimney Crickett? |
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Being that this is a question for women I won't read through all that crap in the first post. I do want to say that I am sick of these "Ladies only" types of posts. Most seem to be a cheap way to get the attention of females. Not saying this is one as I have no idea but it is an opportunity to vent and say something so I am. Sorry about your luck, bro, but I AM here to meet women, to make friends and eventually maybe more,, so I guess it would stand to reason that I would direct most of my posts to females wouldn't it..... I spent time on the forums talking to people. Men and women. That's what you should be doing too if you want someone meaningful to enter your life. I was real and showed who I am to others. You made a post and now have admitted it was to play women. You want them to make responses and then you will work your charm. That isn't being real in my book. I have some fantastic friends here. I love my friends. I didn't come here with "luck" in mind. It was about finding someone for the long term and I have been successful. You are someone who wants to get lucky and "maybe more". I have hung out with men who are jerks into using women and I hate most men as a result. Men like that make it hard for the nice guys out there. They make women question if there are any good guys left. You are correct in the players making it hard for us real guys, however, you assume my 26 years of age makes me a player. WRONG, I have been through alot of stuff most people my age will probably never see, and when you realize that a true relationship is something to be cherished, as if it is your last day, then you understand more about the uselessness of being a "player",,apply common sense, I want to know that I can be a friend with anyone who I may strike interest in, or who may strike interest in me....If she and I do not make good friends, then there is no point in starting anything more. A player takes whatever comes along...me, by choice, I have had only 3 sexual relationships, in my life. Last one in September of last year. I am not motivated by sex appeal, but instead attraction to a good heart, and affection, which I would take over sex any day. Sex is fun, feels good, etc, but sex cant touch the heart as true love can...affection shows more than anything... Push come to shove, actions speak louder than words...I can talk good all day, but my heart, and sisters will make me back it up. |
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I enjoy humor and tend to make light of almost everything myself. However, like everything else, it has its time and its place and should not always be used. Sometimes a depressed friend needs a shoulder to cry on more than a good laugh. I'm not saying that your humor is good or bad......I don't know you well enough to judge that. I just know that it's not always appropriate. And, I guess I have to add that I personally HATE IT when strangers tell me to smile. But, aside from that, I'm sure you are a very nice guy.
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Is it wrong for me to be goofy, and doing just about anything for laughs? I am told, that I am quite intelligent, by many people , from family, to doctors...(for my age-26 in september)... But I am not very often on the serious side, when it comes to general conversation, unless i am asked/told to be serious for the time being. I have been told by many that it is a sign that i am plenty secure with myself, and some have said I am , "immature"... I believe that acting serious all the time adds undue stress to an already stressful life, so I try to make light of every situation that I can... If a friend is slippin toward depression, I make it my place to try to make them laugh...to the point of being annoying sometimes, but I usually get my laugh. Or one of my favorites, is to say to someone I dont know, in a store, or even on the street, something like, " Excuse me, but this is a smile only zone, and I dont see one on you." CORNY! Very much so, but I say corny things on purpose, because they often make people smile or laugh....some have even said thank you, for me giving them a reason to smile. So, my question is, if I am pretty good at making people smile and laugh at my own expense, why does it seem I cant find a decent woman? Goofy, does not mean I am not serious about a relationship....after all, I believe a true heart will show through the jokes....it is just part of me. Peace, Rich Good natured, happy, easy going, spontaneous .all good things Immature and inappropriate - pass ... If you don't know the difference All good things I am a fun loving joker, so "inappropriate" would not be fun loving. I tell people to let me know if I cross their "comfort zone", if they keep laughing with me, then reasonably, I can't tell they are offended....I try to be respectful, and will stop, if told that I broke the zone. |
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I laugh at everything, most of the time...I get serious but in limited amounts, of course then again I suffer from ataraxia...so it is difficult for me to take anything with anything more then a grain of salt.
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I think most of us do like someone who can walk on the lighter side, but when there is need to address the serious issues joking them off can be taken as a sign that you're not serious about the relationship. It just depends on how far it's taken. Can you discuss matters of the heart with a woman, without sticking a finger down your throat and pretending to gag? I mean, really! How old ARE you? Oh sorry, I was having a flashback. A relationship is one area that I am serious...I dont like games....being that I am the only bot out of 7 kids, I dont think my sisters would keep respect for me, if I was a player....not to mention, I would not be a Cappy- Hamper, if I caught someone playing one of them.....I am serious only when it is needed...I am just a real man, with a real heart, who is real playful. Do you know a guy named Jimney Crickett? Could be true? or maybe i am an alien from venus, posing as a real man in hopes of taking captives back to my leaders? You never know with all the bush admin is hiding.LOL |
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