OK here is the low down. I was dating this guy since about March he has a great personality except for a few things that really bug me.. I am going to school parttime and work full time and he would sorta eat up alot of my time. I told him I needed to really get thru my schooling which I will be over in December.. We broke up 2x then got back together, but this third time about 2 weeks ago when I ditched the shore at the last minute saying I could not go, to much work, we have not spoken. I am really missing him..he is also very secure financially and I am 54 and getting tired looking. We got along for the most part, except he wanted more sex than I did and a few other things, I know he loved me, he told me often and I can just tell. Should I let it go, so as not to hurt him or text him and tell him I miss him...

if he really loved you he would come back he sounds a little insecure with his surroundings.. i wouldnt contact him

But he came back to me the other two times, he called me both times to get back together, so I guess he is tired of doing the calling...???

If you're not ready to give him what he needs, maybe you shouldn't call. You miss him, yes, but you're putting yourself first, which you should do. Calling him and working things out may mean you have to sacrifice the goals you're so close to achieving.

Yes that is what I felt like was happening..I was neglecting my school work cause he was always wanting my time....then I would get pissed at him and myself and the cycle would start all over again...we would break up cause I felt like I was trying to do too much....so hard to decide...

If he really loves you, he'll work with your time restraints. After all, it's only for 3 more months, then you'll have a lot more free time, right?

Are you willing to set aside 1 or 2 nights a week to be with him? The relationship is still new, and you both have some compromising to do. It's something that needs discussed without either of you getting pissed.

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There is only so many times a man will make the attempt and then they will give up. I don't know the particulars but the same is true for women. Put yourself in his shoes, how would you feel? What would you do?

I do not know what you should do but I will say G/L! I think you don't know either as your thoughts seem to be mixed. That usually means think about it more.

Well that is just it, I work FT days Mon-Fri and go to school night M-Thurs 5-10...only really have weekends free and I even have a parttime job every so often to help with the bills...we have worked things out...but he likes to go out alot and he likes the shore, it seems we end up in this place of me feeling overwhelmed...

Yes, you are right, I am a little wishy washy on this one...that is part of my personality....Pieces/Aquarius..I guess...I wish I knew for sure, does anyone??

Yes, my advice is not to ask us hon but ask yourself what you want. You know the man and yourself. It is your life. Personally, I would go to a place where I could think and be alone. You could go for a walk, go for a road trip, sit at a park, etc. Sometimes getting out of your environment where you are all the time helps tremendously. Anywho...I wish you can find the best answer for yourself.