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ok, their is this girl she is overseas. and i am not rascist but she is like indian, not native american the other. she is very pretty, and i think she is the right one because she is in my religion and loves the lord... but for some reason part of me thinks will like friends and stuff make fun of me because i am dating an indian girl...... i know this sounds immature but i know she is a good girl for me wholesome... and very pretty, and shes not muslim shes christian... what do you think? |
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If you are worried about what your friends will think of her than you are to immature to be in a serious relationship with anyone.
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Edited by
sandradee1961
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Tue 10/21/08 07:09 PM
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I have to agree with what Ruth said.
Besides that though, if she is truly the right one for you, wouldn't true friends be happy for you? |
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it would not matter to me. You got to go with what you belive in.
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well if you love her & she love you..what your friends or her friends think doesn't matter..follow your heart..If you both love the LORD..thats the 1st step in the right direction..of a great relationship..
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ok, their is this girl she is overseas. and i am not rascist but she is like indian, not native american the other. she is very pretty, and i think she is the right one because she is in my religion and loves the lord... but for some reason part of me thinks will like friends and stuff make fun of me because i am dating an indian girl...... i know this sounds immature but i know she is a good girl for me wholesome... and very pretty, and shes not muslim shes christian... what do you think? from one who has dated most cultures around the world - if your thoughts are such it will not work out. the mere fact your asking these things is proof of that, when your mature enough to know that your questions are foolish then you will be ready to be in such a relationship. otherwise it will end pretty much as you have already foreordained already in your mind. Not ONCE! - have i ever even had such thoughts or entertained them - the only difference between you and her is your immaturity in thing's of knowing what ought to be as to what is in your mind - not your friends minds. love, relationships,friendships have absolutely nothing to do with who one is outward but everything to do with whom one is inward. if the only draw this lady has for you is her beliefs and beauty, then your feelings are false and your deceiving yourself and will inturn deceive her also. |
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ok, their is this girl she is overseas. and i am not rascist but she is like indian, not native american the other. she is very pretty, and i think she is the right one because she is in my religion and loves the lord... but for some reason part of me thinks will like friends and stuff make fun of me because i am dating an indian girl...... i know this sounds immature but i know she is a good girl for me wholesome... and very pretty, and shes not muslim shes christian... what do you think? I don’t think that your concern is necessarily immature. The fact is that your friends are a part of your life. And your relationship with this girl is also a part of your life. How important those two parts are, relative to each other and all the other parts, is the decision you have to make. Completely dismissing the relationship of your friends to this girl will not make for a realistic evaluation of the best possible course. All the interrelationships of everything in your life must be considered. That would be the truly mature viewpoint.
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Edited by
dewdrew
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Tue 10/21/08 07:34 PM
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fantasies are fun, but the real question is: can she get the weed back here with out getting caught?
kidding |
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ok, their is this girl she is overseas.
???? How much money does she need to get here???? |
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 Ive dated religious chicks before. Reminded me too much of mom. LOL (Mom was a minister)
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... but for some reason part of me thinks will like friends and stuff make fun of me because i am dating an indian girl...... I have to agree with Ruth. You've got a long way to grow. First off, if your so-called friends would make fun of you because of your choices in life then are they even your "friends" to begin with? Secondly, why are you living your life based on what other people might think? Don't you have a mind of your own? What's your purpose in life? To go around trying to live out other people's predujudices? And finally, like Ruth says, if you are worried about what other people think you're not even ready for a serious relationship. Do the girl a favor and tell her to find someone who cares. It might break her heart but it will be the best advice you can give her. |
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Edited by
tribo
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Tue 10/21/08 08:12 PM
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as i said you'll be ready to date or get serious with someone of another culture when thoughts like this donot enter your head anymore - till then you've got alot of growing to do.
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ok, their is this girl she is overseas. ???? How much money does she need to get here???? This is actually a legitimate question. I hope he reads it. |
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ok, their is this girl she is overseas. ???? How much money does she need to get here???? This is actually a legitimate question. I hope he reads it. i agree!! |
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ok, their is this girl she is overseas. and i am not rascist but she is like indian, not native american the other. she is very pretty, and i think she is the right one because she is in my religion and loves the lord... but for some reason part of me thinks will like friends and stuff make fun of me because i am dating an indian girl...... i know this sounds immature but i know she is a good girl for me wholesome... and very pretty, and shes not muslim shes christian... what do you think? from one who has dated most cultures around the world - if your thoughts are such it will not work out. the mere fact your asking these things is proof of that, when your mature enough to know that your questions are foolish then you will be ready to be in such a relationship. otherwise it will end pretty much as you have already foreordained already in your mind. Not ONCE! - have i ever even had such thoughts or entertained them - the only difference between you and her is your immaturity in thing's of knowing what ought to be as to what is in your mind - not your friends minds. love, relationships,friendships have absolutely nothing to do with who one is outward but everything to do with whom one is inward. if the only draw this lady has for you is her beliefs and beauty, then your feelings are false and your deceiving yourself and will inturn deceive her also. ok mister wise and wonderful, but its not a sin to say you wouldnt date an ugly girl... my girlfriend doesnt have to be beautiful but i feel she needs to be decent i know i am not the best looking man in the world... and by the fact that you think your soooo much much more mature than me and all (insult and you dont even know me, your judging me off of one statement) im not so much thinking of what my friends would say, its what i would think in the end, and all my friends would always help and remind me of it... ive come to a conclusion but defonetly not off of your one sided condemning |
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ok, their is this girl she is overseas. and i am not rascist but she is like indian, not native american the other. she is very pretty, and i think she is the right one because she is in my religion and loves the lord... but for some reason part of me thinks will like friends and stuff make fun of me because i am dating an indian girl...... i know this sounds immature but i know she is a good girl for me wholesome... and very pretty, and shes not muslim shes christian... what do you think? I don’t think that your concern is necessarily immature. The fact is that your friends are a part of your life. And your relationship with this girl is also a part of your life. How important those two parts are, relative to each other and all the other parts, is the decision you have to make. Completely dismissing the relationship of your friends to this girl will not make for a realistic evaluation of the best possible course. All the interrelationships of everything in your life must be considered. That would be the truly mature viewpoint. now this is a guy that actually heard what i was saying! you should be a counsler |
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ok, their is this girl she is overseas. ???? How much money does she need to get here???? believe me money is no object at this point |
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... but for some reason part of me thinks will like friends and stuff make fun of me because i am dating an indian girl...... I have to agree with Ruth. You've got a long way to grow. First off, if your so-called friends would make fun of you because of your choices in life then are they even your "friends" to begin with? Secondly, why are you living your life based on what other people might think? Don't you have a mind of your own? What's your purpose in life? To go around trying to live out other people's predujudices? And finally, like Ruth says, if you are worried about what other people think you're not even ready for a serious relationship. Do the girl a favor and tell her to find someone who cares. It might break her heart but it will be the best advice you can give her. theirs waayyy more to it than that... we are living in america... people are assholes my friends will support me, i wont know if its right... i question things alot they will just remind me of that... theirs more that co-exists than you know...friends platy a big roll in my life |
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as i said you'll be ready to date or get serious with someone of another culture when thoughts like this donot enter your head anymore - till then you've got alot of growing to do. you have no idea what your talking about ive been in serious relationships that wer successful for many years |
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theirs waayyy more to it than that... we are living in america... people are assholes my friends will support me, i wont know if its right... i question things alot they will just remind me of that... theirs more that co-exists than you know...friends platy a big roll in my life I was just responding to the words you actually posted. I pass no judgments on you. Perhaps it was just poor wording on your part and you meant it differently than what you actually typed. For me personally, my commitment to a life partner would be first and foremost on my list of concerns. This isn't true for everyone, and I'm not even suggesting that it should be. But you did say that you were concerned that your friends would 'make fun of you'. And so those were the words I was responding to. Perhaps you meant it differently than I took it. Again, I pass no judgments. I'm just commenting on what I thought I understood you to be saying. It's easy to miscommunicate on forum posts and often times we type in things briefly when in our own minds there's a whole lot more to it. Now that I can understand. |
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