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Topic: Lemme ask the women a question
JustAGuysBro's photo
Thu 10/23/08 09:36 PM
so I got to thinking today (shocking discovery)
and I Don't understand why women stay with men who treat them terribly


CAN SOMEONE F'N EXPLAIN THIS!?!?!?

no photo
Thu 10/23/08 09:37 PM
"Tell me what keeps her by his side
When she's treated just like dirt
The fear of the dark unknown
Appears to be much worse than the hurt
So she stays up nights and dreams
Of a knight in shining armour
Who will rescue her one day
While time keeps going against her "

-Sammy Hagar

itsmetina's photo
Thu 10/23/08 09:38 PM
sometimes it's because of the kids or finances.It could also be because the woman has been manipulated into thinking no one else will love her.

no photo
Thu 10/23/08 09:40 PM
i agree with tina...

ArtGurl's photo
Thu 10/23/08 09:44 PM
Because they don't GET that they deserve better ...

...way too much 'not good enough' floating around in the minds of people ...

IMAGR81's photo
Thu 10/23/08 09:46 PM
Because women sometimes in the mist of loving, and wanting to be loved can not see that love as being as bad as it really is.

Redsoxfan1's photo
Thu 10/23/08 09:47 PM
Well, in my situation, I was in an abusive marriage for 6 years, the reason I stayed was cuz he threatened my family and friends if I ever left him!! I finally could though, because he found himself in the hospital, so my mother and I packed my stuff up, and left!! I filed for divorce the next day!:tongue: happy I am so glad it's over now!:banana:

SoCalGoodGirl's photo
Thu 10/23/08 09:48 PM
Edited by SoCalGoodGirl on Thu 10/23/08 09:49 PM
Low self esteem and a degraded sense of self-worth... either that or the dude is a wildcat in bed.

Marie55's photo
Thu 10/23/08 09:48 PM

sometimes it's because of the kids or finances.It could also be because the woman has been manipulated into thinking no one else will love her.


And, because they have been beat down, stripped of their self esteem, told that they are worthless, etc., for so long that they just don't have the strength to try to leave. Many have no place to go, no family, etc. Also, many times they have been threatened with being killed if they do leave, or that he will kill their kids --- look at the news, how many times have women and/or their kids been killed by an abusing partner. It is real. Sorry, guess this hit a nerve.

no photo
Thu 10/23/08 09:52 PM
its frustrating for the "nice guys" out there to watch a woman get treated poorly by some guy that doesnt deserve her.

single "nice guys" that cant get a date i guess i should say. lol

Ruth34611's photo
Thu 10/23/08 09:53 PM
So many different circumstances, so many different reasons. It's impossible to generalize about this.

countrybelle6471's photo
Thu 10/23/08 09:55 PM
well some don't know any better,and also well love ..and leaving its all a process..that takess time to break free..and move on.and to stop caring ,loving,fearing,,ETC:cry:

Down2earthdebbie's photo
Thu 10/23/08 09:56 PM
I have more then one gfriend who are in that terriable situation! I do not understand it at all! Maybe they are codependant? They are inconfident? Guess some people are afraid to be alon1? :angry:

Winx's photo
Thu 10/23/08 09:56 PM
Maybe they are hoping that it will get better.

Down2earthdebbie's photo
Thu 10/23/08 09:59 PM

Maybe they are hoping that it will get better.
I think if they don't get some help it will only get worse!

Winx's photo
Thu 10/23/08 10:01 PM


Maybe they are hoping that it will get better.
I think if they don't get some help it will only get worse!



Oops. I was talking to the OP.

But..you are right.

writer_gurl's photo
Thu 10/23/08 10:02 PM

sometimes it's because of the kids or finances.It could also be because the woman has been manipulated into thinking no one else will love her.

I soooo agree with you there:thumbsup:

JasmineInglewood's photo
Thu 10/23/08 10:40 PM
As a girl who used to love that sort of fella i can say its the thrill of a challenge... most nice guys are too easy and lack excitement at an age and maturity level where the girl is just trying to find the excitement in life

Thomas27's photo
Thu 10/23/08 11:13 PM
Because the sex is good???ohwell

IMAGR81's photo
Thu 10/23/08 11:25 PM
Maybe she was in a terrible accident and lost her memory and doesn't know that he is a jerk

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