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Being treated with respect is the key to making good friends and maybe something more!!!!!
Have you been turned off by some people in your live who often don't know how to respect themselves let alone respect others???? Is it such a hard thing to learn in this day and age?? Is it something to do with our up bringing or is it that most today only listen and learn what they want to learn?? 
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Respect is something that, for the most part, should be taught at home by parents. Respect at home is a lost quality. While not all parents are guilty of it there are many who simply do not know how to teach respect to there kids if they themselves never learned it.
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It must be that some seem to think that no one else counts and their feelings don't matter. I now think it is old fashioned and learning to be more selfish and self centered seems to be the trend. Everyone for them selves maybe
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 Very thought provoking thread
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It's what todays society is teaching. Take care of number one first and take no prisoners. A person can't teachh to others what they themselves have not learned. So if qualities such as respect, love, compassion, kindness and so on have not been a part of their upbringing how can they in turn help others to learn those qualities?
Oh sure this time of year people will put on a form of these qualities but for many it is just a facade. Not saying everyone is like this but there are many who display this attitude. |
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It must be that some seem to think that no one else counts and their feelings don't matter. I now think it is old fashioned and learning to be more selfish and self centered seems to be the trend. Everyone for them selves maybe I think the world got off course, with those thoughts. Now we need to be fighting our way back. People have gotten to busy trying to for possessions, that they don't take the time to properly teach their children "RESPECT." My opinion. |
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It must be that some seem to think that no one else counts and their feelings don't matter. I now think it is old fashioned and learning to be more selfish and self centered seems to be the trend. Everyone for them selves maybe I think the world got off course, with those thoughts. Now we need to be fighting our way back. People have gotten to busy trying to for possessions, that they don't take the time to properly teach their children "RESPECT." My opinion. As long as the emphasis is placed on material wealth and self gratification things will not change. Those who try to teach values and morals are scoffed at. |
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Very thought provoking thread agreed.. |
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Agree w/all of you on this one. I find it rather sad that so few people these days seem to care about anyone other than themselves. Seems to me like the world would be a lot happier if we all took a moment to show a little respect for our fellow man.
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I`ve always thought that the Ten Commandments coud be replaced by one: Respect. After all, if you have respect, there would be no cheating, lying, killing, stealing, or any other problems related to the lack of respect. Does anyone else feel disgusted by the language, attitude, and general lack of moral fibre we see and hear every day. (my question mark has gone - shows this - É)
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Giving thought to your question I have to honestly say that I have ceased to be disgusted by these things since it seems to permeate most of todays society and I have just learned to accept things as they are.
I work in peoples homes everyday and sometimes I'm in several homes a month. I see so much disrespect that I have just learned to accept it. |
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Edited by
Redykeulous
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Sat 12/20/08 08:44 PM
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I think there has always been the same lack of respect, it's just we often mistakenly attribute a behavior to an attitude.
When I was young, I was taught to "respect" my elders by being reserved, speak when spoken to, and effectively, be so obscure that I would not be noticed in any other fashion. This was done in "fear" of retribution. I learned to behave, not to respect. That kind of fear is not inducive of self-efficacy. Today we often attribute "bad" behavior for a lack respect, when it is actually a lack of behavioral conditioning. Sometimes we have to look deeper into a person, behind the behavior, to see the lack of self-efficacy. This is not a solution to the problem; it is, however, a step in acceptance, and an opportunity to share what we have learned. Of course patience and, sometimes tolerance, is required if we are to be affective teachers. We don't learn respect from one source alone, we learn from those who have 'earned' our trust. We must stop blaming those who have failed to teach, and in turn WE must 'earn' the trust of others to bridge the gap. Dismissing a person based only on our perception of their behavior may be a weakness in ourselves. |
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I think there has always been the same lack of respect, it's just we often mistakenly attribute a behavior to an attitude. When I was young, I was taught to "respect" my elders by being reserved, speak when spoken to, and effectively, be so obscure that I would not be noticed in any other fashion. This was done in "fear" of retribution. I learned to behave, not to respect. That kind of fear is not inducive of self-efficacy. Today we often attribute "bad" behavior for a lack respect, when it is actually a lack of behavioral conditioning. Sometimes we have to look deeper into a person, behind the behavior, to see the lack of self-efficacy. This is not a solution to the problem; it is, however, a step in acceptance, and an opportunity to share what we have learned. Of course patience and, sometimes tolerance, is required if we are to be affective teachers. We don't learn respect from one source alone, we learn from those who have 'earned' our trust. We must stop blaming those who have failed to teach, and in turn WE must 'earn' the trust of others to bridge the gap. Dismissing a person based only on our perception of their behavior may be a weakness in ourselves. You have a very valid point. I am an ICU nurse. I see a lot of family dynamics. Occasionally I see behavior that "feels" like respect. Mostly I see behavior that obviously stems from unresolved issues of control. |
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I think the world got off course, with those thoughts. Now we need to be fighting our way back. People have gotten to busy trying to for possessions, that they don't take the time to properly teach their children "RESPECT." My opinion. Most mums go to work instead of just bringing up the children, not just part time these days but full time... The world seems to be all about money yes. But without it we would have very little. I did stay home with my kids, did a few hrs inbetween the school times but we had very little dosh to speak of. No holidays etc.. scrapped by in fact.. Even my 16 yr old shows me he has no respect sometimes,even though I have been there teaching him all the time. Like I said further up the thread, some don't want to be respectful and it is not that they don't know what it is... |
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I suppose we look for where it may have come from, with our kids. I can only think of one place and that was his dad, who he has moved in two years ago. I used to tell my x off for talking down to his mother all the time, but a lass he used to talk down to me too and this person had got away with being disrespectful to so many that he was never going to change.. This was the reason why I divorce him, as respect in my book is very important and no-one needs to be belittled or devalued.
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Ms. Brighteyes is a very wise lady.
Writes well also. another great addition to the family. Hope we see much more of you.  
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Ms. Brighteyes is a very wise lady. Writes well also. another great addition to the family. Hope we see much more of you. Thank you.. I will try not to bore you lol 
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I`ve always thought that the Ten Commandments coud be replaced by one: Respect. After all, if you have respect, there would be no cheating, lying, killing, stealing, or any other problems related to the lack of respect. Does anyone else feel disgusted by the language, attitude, and general lack of moral fibre we see and hear every day. (my question mark has gone - shows this - É) I agree with your words here about Using this word respect as a commandment. It would definitely cover most of gods rules. |
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It must be that some seem to think that no one else counts and their feelings don't matter. I now think it is old fashioned and learning to be more selfish and self centered seems to be the trend. Everyone for them selves maybe I think the world got off course, with those thoughts. Now we need to be fighting our way back. People have gotten to busy trying to for possessions, that they don't take the time to properly teach their children "RESPECT." My opinion. |
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