Topic: Ladies...Could you ever be the other woman?
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Sat 01/03/09 10:02 PM




noway noway noway noway noway
What if he told you he was separated....

You end it when the truth comes out that he's a liar.
But what if they truly were separated?devil

He is still technically married even if he is separated.

cityblues21's photo
Sat 01/03/09 10:04 PM


If he is cheating on her, with you... what makes you think that he wouldn't cheat on you eventually... a total going no where relationship to say the least... What goes around, comes around... so absolutely not!
Ok... what if he didn't tell you he was married. You have fallen deeply in love with this man. What would you do???devil


First of all, I would have asked way before I would let myself "fall deeply in love" if he was married or seeing anyone. If the answer at that time was a lie and things proceeded and I found out later that it was a lie... It would be over. No ifs, ands, or buts about it.

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Sat 01/03/09 10:06 PM



If he is cheating on her, with you... what makes you think that he wouldn't cheat on you eventually... a total going no where relationship to say the least... What goes around, comes around... so absolutely not!
Ok... what if he didn't tell you he was married. You have fallen deeply in love with this man. What would you do???devil


First of all, I would have asked way before I would let myself "fall deeply in love" if he was married or seeing anyone. If the answer at that time was a lie and things proceeded and I found out later that it was a lie... It would be over. No ifs, ands, or buts about it.
What if you were pregnant by him at the time of finding out???devil

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Sat 01/03/09 10:10 PM





noway noway noway noway noway
What if he told you he was separated....

You end it when the truth comes out that he's a liar.
But what if they truly were separated?devil

He is still technically married even if he is separated.
Some people have been separated for years....devil
What if she was with another man other then her husband?
You still wouldn't become involved with him?devil

njmom05's photo
Sat 01/03/09 10:13 PM






noway noway noway noway noway
What if he told you he was separated....

You end it when the truth comes out that he's a liar.
But what if they truly were separated?devil

He is still technically married even if he is separated.
Some people have been separated for years....devil
What if she was with another man other then her husband?
You still wouldn't become involved with him?devil

I was separated for 3 years before the loser granted me the divorce. I had several guys tell me that they wouldn't go out because I was technically still married. There was no chance for reconcilation, but they didn't feel comfortable because I hadn't officially gotten divorced yet.

cityblues21's photo
Sat 01/03/09 10:18 PM




If he is cheating on her, with you... what makes you think that he wouldn't cheat on you eventually... a total going no where relationship to say the least... What goes around, comes around... so absolutely not!
Ok... what if he didn't tell you he was married. You have fallen deeply in love with this man. What would you do???devil


First of all, I would have asked way before I would let myself "fall deeply in love" if he was married or seeing anyone. If the answer at that time was a lie and things proceeded and I found out later that it was a lie... It would be over. No ifs, ands, or buts about it.
What if you were pregnant by him at the time of finding out???devil


Sorry dude... not possible devil I am not a 17 yr old school girl who is that gullible. Whether in love or not... I have a lot of experience in finding stuff out about people. Enough said... :wink:

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Sat 01/03/09 10:20 PM







noway noway noway noway noway
What if he told you he was separated....

You end it when the truth comes out that he's a liar.
But what if they truly were separated?devil

He is still technically married even if he is separated.
Some people have been separated for years....devil
What if she was with another man other then her husband?
You still wouldn't become involved with him?devil

I was separated for 3 years before the loser granted me the divorce. I had several guys tell me that they wouldn't go out because I was technically still married. There was no chance for reconcilation, but they didn't feel comfortable because I hadn't officially gotten divorced yet.
So what if you had met a married man at the time that also had been separated for a few years...devil

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Sat 01/03/09 10:21 PM





If he is cheating on her, with you... what makes you think that he wouldn't cheat on you eventually... a total going no where relationship to say the least... What goes around, comes around... so absolutely not!
Ok... what if he didn't tell you he was married. You have fallen deeply in love with this man. What would you do???devil


First of all, I would have asked way before I would let myself "fall deeply in love" if he was married or seeing anyone. If the answer at that time was a lie and things proceeded and I found out later that it was a lie... It would be over. No ifs, ands, or buts about it.
What if you were pregnant by him at the time of finding out???devil


Sorry dude... not possible devil I am not a 17 yr old school girl who is that gullible. Whether in love or not... I have a lot of experience in finding stuff out about people. Enough said... :wink:
devil flowerforyou

cutelildevilsmom's photo
Sat 01/03/09 10:24 PM
I was the other woman.Dumb me fell in love,married the asshole and had a beautiful son and a ****ty marriage.I am divorced now.I got what I deserved for being stupid.
Never again.

njmom05's photo
Sat 01/03/09 10:24 PM








noway noway noway noway noway
What if he told you he was separated....

You end it when the truth comes out that he's a liar.
But what if they truly were separated?devil

He is still technically married even if he is separated.
Some people have been separated for years....devil
What if she was with another man other then her husband?
You still wouldn't become involved with him?devil

I was separated for 3 years before the loser granted me the divorce. I had several guys tell me that they wouldn't go out because I was technically still married. There was no chance for reconcilation, but they didn't feel comfortable because I hadn't officially gotten divorced yet.
So what if you had met a married man at the time that also had been separated for a few years...devil

I am ashamed to admit that I have dated a married man, but broke it off when he used every excuse in the book as to why he couldn't get a divorce. I got sick of his lies and his nonsense games. I dumped his sorry butt.

cityblues21's photo
Sat 01/03/09 10:28 PM









noway noway noway noway noway
What if he told you he was separated....

You end it when the truth comes out that he's a liar.
But what if they truly were separated?devil

He is still technically married even if he is separated.
Some people have been separated for years....devil
What if she was with another man other then her husband?
You still wouldn't become involved with him?devil

I was separated for 3 years before the loser granted me the divorce. I had several guys tell me that they wouldn't go out because I was technically still married. There was no chance for reconcilation, but they didn't feel comfortable because I hadn't officially gotten divorced yet.
So what if you had met a married man at the time that also had been separated for a few years...devil

I am ashamed to admit that I have dated a married man, but broke it off when he used every excuse in the book as to why he couldn't get a divorce. I got sick of his lies and his nonsense games. I dumped his sorry butt.


Awww... Don't be ashamed, you just wanted to be loved and he kept you dangling. flowerforyou You did the right thing and moved on. No shame in that at all.

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Sat 01/03/09 10:39 PM









noway noway noway noway noway
What if he told you he was separated....

You end it when the truth comes out that he's a liar.
But what if they truly were separated?devil

He is still technically married even if he is separated.
Some people have been separated for years....devil
What if she was with another man other then her husband?
You still wouldn't become involved with him?devil

I was separated for 3 years before the loser granted me the divorce. I had several guys tell me that they wouldn't go out because I was technically still married. There was no chance for reconcilation, but they didn't feel comfortable because I hadn't officially gotten divorced yet.
So what if you had met a married man at the time that also had been separated for a few years...devil

I am ashamed to admit that I have dated a married man, but broke it off when he used every excuse in the book as to why he couldn't get a divorce. I got sick of his lies and his nonsense games. I dumped his sorry butt.


Whats that song?? Stay??? LOL

njmom05's photo
Sat 01/03/09 10:41 PM










noway noway noway noway noway
What if he told you he was separated....

You end it when the truth comes out that he's a liar.
But what if they truly were separated?devil

He is still technically married even if he is separated.
Some people have been separated for years....devil
What if she was with another man other then her husband?
You still wouldn't become involved with him?devil

I was separated for 3 years before the loser granted me the divorce. I had several guys tell me that they wouldn't go out because I was technically still married. There was no chance for reconcilation, but they didn't feel comfortable because I hadn't officially gotten divorced yet.
So what if you had met a married man at the time that also had been separated for a few years...devil

I am ashamed to admit that I have dated a married man, but broke it off when he used every excuse in the book as to why he couldn't get a divorce. I got sick of his lies and his nonsense games. I dumped his sorry butt.


Awww... Don't be ashamed, you just wanted to be loved and he kept you dangling. flowerforyou You did the right thing and moved on. No shame in that at all.

Thanks for that. It sucked, but the more I thought about it, if he was cheating on her, what would he do to me in a few years. Once a cheat, always a cheat.
flowerforyou

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Sun 01/04/09 12:22 AM
I was the other woman once, and yes, I told her when I found out.

cityblues21's photo
Sun 01/04/09 12:32 AM











noway noway noway noway noway
What if he told you he was separated....

You end it when the truth comes out that he's a liar.
But what if they truly were separated?devil

He is still technically married even if he is separated.
Some people have been separated for years....devil
What if she was with another man other then her husband?
You still wouldn't become involved with him?devil

I was separated for 3 years before the loser granted me the divorce. I had several guys tell me that they wouldn't go out because I was technically still married. There was no chance for reconcilation, but they didn't feel comfortable because I hadn't officially gotten divorced yet.
So what if you had met a married man at the time that also had been separated for a few years...devil

I am ashamed to admit that I have dated a married man, but broke it off when he used every excuse in the book as to why he couldn't get a divorce. I got sick of his lies and his nonsense games. I dumped his sorry butt.


Awww... Don't be ashamed, you just wanted to be loved and he kept you dangling. flowerforyou You did the right thing and moved on. No shame in that at all.

Thanks for that. It sucked, but the more I thought about it, if he was cheating on her, what would he do to me in a few years. Once a cheat, always a cheat.
flowerforyou


Yes, we are always in a perpetual learning phase...:wink:

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Sun 01/04/09 05:56 AM











noway noway noway noway noway
What if he told you he was separated....

You end it when the truth comes out that he's a liar.
But what if they truly were separated?devil

He is still technically married even if he is separated.
Some people have been separated for years....devil
What if she was with another man other then her husband?
You still wouldn't become involved with him?devil

I was separated for 3 years before the loser granted me the divorce. I had several guys tell me that they wouldn't go out because I was technically still married. There was no chance for reconcilation, but they didn't feel comfortable because I hadn't officially gotten divorced yet.
So what if you had met a married man at the time that also had been separated for a few years...devil

I am ashamed to admit that I have dated a married man, but broke it off when he used every excuse in the book as to why he couldn't get a divorce. I got sick of his lies and his nonsense games. I dumped his sorry butt.


Awww... Don't be ashamed, you just wanted to be loved and he kept you dangling. flowerforyou You did the right thing and moved on. No shame in that at all.

Thanks for that. It sucked, but the more I thought about it, if he was cheating on her, what would he do to me in a few years. Once a cheat, always a cheat.
flowerforyou
So if he had gotten a divorce....what then?devil

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Sun 01/04/09 06:01 AM

I was the other woman once, and yes, I told her when I found out.
Did you have anything further to do with him?devil
How did she respond to the news?

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Sun 01/04/09 06:02 AM

I was the other woman.Dumb me fell in love,married the asshole and had a beautiful son and a ****ty marriage.I am divorced now.I got what I deserved for being stupid.
Never again.
devil flowerforyou

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Sun 01/04/09 06:23 AM
I've been the other woman...the wife...to the husband who cheated multiple times over, sometimes with women who dined in my home, I thought were my friends. I have always felt women should stick together, treat one another better than this. I would never be a part of putting another woman through the heartache.

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Sun 01/04/09 06:29 AM
This thread needs a theme song.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RA-4F6l-jr4