Could you ever be the other woman?

As it should be done! Bravo! I always wonder WHY the women attack one another when its him who is clearly being the manipulative party and abusing BOTH women essentialy to satisfy his own ego.

once i was nominated to be the other man...
it was for a gift...

but i took a pass on that opportunity

And, it is interesting how there are some men out there that claim to know and agree with this, then continue womanizing. All I can say is, beware of wolves in sheep's clothing.

Some women enjoy being the other woman....
Some women can't let go even after finding out...
Some women may want the man to leave his wife....

And here's the real question for anyone who WOULD knowingly be the 'other woman' - how long before there's ANOTHER 'other woman.'

If he'll cheat for you he'll cheat on you, IMO.

In order to be fair, I have to say that the same goes for women who cheat with "another man."

You either practice fidelity or not and it takes two.

Well, not sure if its fair to lump all who cheat (as opposed to "all cheats") into the same category.

I think we are talking about habitual or compulsive cheats here.

Everyone is entitled to a mistake, for extreme reasons. Some folks will do it once in their life, but I'm not sure on what the statistics are on how many people do it compulsively. I would hope the numbers might be lower there.

Point taken...I interpreted the decision to be the "other woman" as more of a long-term affair sort of situation.

What if he told you he was separated....

i did that... he was a coworker... and his wife would call him all the time... and i would always be the one to answer the phone.. the guilt got to me, separated or not, and i couldn't do it anymore...

I think someone could get stuck in a cycle with just one predatory partner in their lives. Like the married women/primary partner who didn't accept/know that their spouse/partner was cheating compulsively and never divorced/ended.

Or, then we have marrieds or primary partners who know, on some level, but tolerate it or accept it and don't end. Aren't they (even if they are the "lawful partner" or primary partner) allowing the cheating to happen on the other women if they know about it and do nothing? its a personal choice whether to get involved in blowing the whistle, and I know many factors come into play. Not an easy decision and everyone is entitled to choose for themselves. No one can live your life for you after the choice is made. It comes down to what a person can tolerate/accept.

Perhaps the other women do or don't know. Hard to say.

Also, I do not believe it matters if the pattern is with several/consecutive partners over the course of a lifetime, or just one. Women tend to stay stuck in a pattern for reasons different than men do - most of the time, but not always.

Could you ever be the other woman?

i did that... he was a coworker... and his wife would call him all the time... and i would always be the one to answer the phone.. the guilt got to me, separated or not, and i couldn't do it anymore...

I couldn't.

What makes women accept or tolerate being the other woman or sharing their partner if the women are not polysexual or polyamorous? Curious.

Actually I was. Once. I just didn't know it. When I found out I was the "kept" woman in an apartment I was mortified & that was the end of the story.

For me.

His will go on into eternal hell though.