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| Topic: Seperation is not always off limits! | |
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Oh, gosh, no! That's always been a non-issue. Why am I trying to determine whether that's sarcasm. 
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Nope, no sarcasm. Straight-up truth.
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This frustrated me as well, but I understood it and I don't blame anyone that passes on 'separated' (but still married). Here's a short list of very good reasons: Don't want to inhibit any chance to reconcile. Don't want to deal with your divorce in any way. Many people going through a divorce aren't emotionally well (or even newly divorced) Don't want to worry about being a 'rebound' person. Worried about appearances. Some people actually have 'morality clauses' with their jobs that specifically or implicitly do not allow it. Don't want to invest in someone only to find out they're not going to divorce after all. Not sure they are really over their ex. And, of course... there's that 'sanctity of marriage' issue, lol. Could not have said it any better 
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Nope, no sarcasm. Straight-up truth. Well, that's rare! 2002/3 was certainly a wild year for me. 
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Im shallow...............
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yeah i am separated and there is no effing way in HELL we will ever work it out. he's engaged to someone else already. the If you look close enough, even on this site, you'll see recent evidence that even claims of finality are short lived. There's one friend here locally I would never have as more than a friend, because it's much worse for her. One of her ex-boyfriends just got out of prison, a different one just went to jail, and she has a husband she's divorcing. All of them have some influence on her life and one of them recently beat her up. Now she's getting friendlier, and my overiding thought is, "Oh HELL NO! I'm NOT the guy." Looking at it from another person's perspective is always helpful on issues like this. I might know I'm done, especially since evidence suggests it, but it's really not up to me to decide for someone else if they believe it. This wasn't meant to be discouraging although right now, I might be a little. 
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Im shallow............... It's unanimous now.
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yeah i am separated and there is no effing way in HELL we will ever work it out. he's engaged to someone else already. the If you look close enough, even on this site, you'll see recent evidence that even claims of finality are short lived. There's one friend here locally I would never have as more than a friend, because it's much worse for her. One of her ex-boyfriends just got out of prison, a different one just went to jail, and she has a husband she's divorcing. All of them have some influence on her life and one of them recently beat her up. Now she's getting friendlier, and my overiding thought is, "Oh HELL NO! I'm NOT the guy." Looking at it from another person's perspective is always helpful on issues like this. I might know I'm done, especially since evidence suggests it, but it's really not up to me to decide for someone else if they believe it. This wasn't meant to be discouraging although right now, I might be a little. haha well i've been done since the day i found out he was banging someone else basically our entire marriage. and the funny thing is, im not even bitter about it. im like it's cool it just wasn't meant to be. i don't even hate him. he gave me the opportunity to stay home with my son for 2 years and i get all the furniture and my truck soooooo.... yeah i lost a lil self esteem and a husband but i gained some s*it that's going to help my life drastically in the long run. |
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damn joe...nice pool table...
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how about this..I disagree with the entire concept of divorce
years ago I would not have been alone in this thinking but I also do not agree with spousal or child abuse |
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i dont believe in divorce either...but sometimes< sometimes it for the best..for everyone..
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damn joe...nice pool table...  Yup, regulation size, and yes, size does matter when you're playing with sticks and balls.  Only one down side. That christmas tree needs relocating, and so does my computer arrangement. The table owns the main room now. good for social gatherings, but not yet broke in. Plenty of space to relocate to though. Life, single with 2 cats. Spoiled rotten!
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how about this..I disagree with the entire concept of divorce years ago I would not have been alone in this thinking but I also do not agree with spousal or child abuse Live with someone who hates you for 6 months straight or every winter. Then tell me how you disagree with divorce. I'm a lifer, but my choices to date would kill me if I stayed with them. |
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how about this..I disagree with the entire concept of divorce years ago I would not have been alone in this thinking but I also do not agree with spousal or child abuse Live with someone who hates you for 6 months straight or every winter. Then tell me how you disagree with divorce. I'm a lifer, but my choices to date would kill me if I stayed with them. I have..at least the six months part... |
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Live with someone who hates you for 6 months straight or every winter. Then tell me how you disagree with divorce. I'm a lifer, but my choices to date would kill me if I stayed with them. Its like "dying for love". Eventually, unhealthy love will do ya' in. |
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Live with someone who hates you for 6 months straight or every winter. Then tell me how you disagree with divorce. I'm a lifer, but my choices to date would kill me if I stayed with them. Its like "dying for love". Eventually, unhealthy love will do ya' in. Hmm. "To" vs "for" seems to be an ongoing theme for me tonight. I'd rather live to love than die for love. One gives, the other takes. |
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