I guess I'm curious if I should continue the search for a mate. I am an
amputeed woman, full of life, but can't seem to find anyone. Am I
wasting my time? I'd appreciate constructive criticism. I am a secure,
loving person, should I not even mention that in my ad? Thanks for your
help

if bein disabled keeps ya from havein a heart the i say

yea wastein ya time

but i think it dont

love trust n understandin

is what a relationship is all about

ya full of life n i say go for the gold sug

besides with a MILLON DOLLOR SMILE like that

all the guys be after ya

party on...

One's Disability does not exclude you from being happy,,, Sweetie being
honest lets the world see you for who you are,,, When loves finds you he
will love you for your Soul for it is what makes you glow, be patient
Love will come,,, it may take time,,, but it is so worth the wait.

Nan,

One thing you can count on is our love for you. By putting up your post
you have allowed us to become your family. A family full of caring
people. We believe there is love for all who seek, and wish it. These
are not just words. We see the magic of love happen every day on JSH.
Let me tell you how I know about this magic. I was just about to go to
sleep, and something told me to look at the screen one more time. This
is when I saw your post.

You are now on my prayer list, as I'm sure you are in the thoughts of
many right at this very moment. While your waiting for your love to come
along I hope you can feel our love for you.

your new friend,

michael

{{{{{{{ Nancy }}}}}}}}}
It was a pleasure speaking with you this morning,, I hope your day is
filled with warmth and Love,,, Remember if you ever need me I am never
to far,,,

Nan,
Hi nice to meet you. This is a really tough question. So many people
are turned off right away by such things. Of course, if they are turned
off so easily then they weren't worth it anyway. I too have had issues
in my life. I am able to live a normal life so when I find people I
consider friends it becomes part of my story. I'm sure u understand
what I mean.

Hope to talk to you more sometime.

Nan, I don't think you are wasting your time. Your mate just hasn't
found you yet or vice versa. I admire you telling it just like it is on
your profile. Nothing wrong with that. I am an upfront person and
apreciate it when other's are the same to me. You've got a million
dollar smile hun so don't let this get you down. I have my own issues,
my size. So I can somewhat sympathise with you.

Hi (((Hun)))

Told you. There are lots of great people up here, and your one of them.
Thanks for the email.

BIG SMILE !!!

michael

((((Nan)))) Hey there! I apreciated the e-mail you sent.
Hope to see ya around more often.

I am a medically discharged vet . I can walk through everyday folks
just fine . My dissabilities are not easy to see . My left hand was
crushed severely and my lungs are damaged from prolonged exposure to
exast and paint chips . Needless to say , I can understand your pain .
Don't give up . NEVER ! It just takes some weeding out of your lifes
garden . Pull the judgemental weeds and let the flowers grow . Can take
a while , patience , everything takes time to grow . Look at me ! Still
growing !
Pat

I am facing the samw issue as you, while I am not a amputee I am in a
wheelchair and have been all my life. I know what your going through. In
my opinion if your wasting your time then so am I and I don't feel like
I am so your not either! lol does that make sense?

Hi Nan,

Just wanted to stop in and say hi.


michael

See it this way, people who dismiss you because of a disability have a
disability in their heart, and that's worse.

There are people out there with values and there is someone for
everyone. i believe that. Keep your head up high.

I believe there is someone for every one out there...
Don't give up! Someone very speical just for you is out
there... It just may take some time...

Hey men wont date me cause i have a fat butt.There's always a reason to
reject someone if a guy is negative and shallow.Just keep that smile and
self confidence and you will find that special guy.thanx for posting,
jax

As bad as it seems, this can be a god thing!

I have found with my own stuff going on, I can filter through the
Bullsh*t much better.

Be up front, and tell it like it is.
Anyone whom cannot deal with it can step aside, yes?

There are really very few who will even think about the less than Ideal
for themselves...and, we wish them luck in thier lifelong quest for
happiness...lol.

So, we are lucky. VERY!

My son who will be 26 on Friday was born with Spina Bifida and he has
had to use a wheelchair as his transportation throughout life. He is
small just 4'10" but he really can't straighten out completely.
However, he has met numerous girlfriends, even though sometimes he has
to be patient and wait in between, and had them over for a weekend or go
to their house as long as he had a ride (He doesn't drive). I've been
very impressed with how caring some of his girlfriends have been. Yes,
he has had his heart broken but it doesn't stop him from trying again.

I dont think your wasting your time you know things happen in life that
we cant control and dont want but in the end they all add up to be our
strenths and not weaknesses Im blind due to child abuse but I dont let
it hold me back but dont get me wrong I use to I just wanted to give up
but then I realized I was fixed on staying down and not on climbing
up.keep yor head up and be deturmend then one day the hard work will pay
off.

Wow such loving support and awsome stories.

Don't ever give up you have to big of a heart to let a disablilty keep
you from enjoying life.

I think being upfront about it is wonderful.