why? why? do some kids NOT lisen and there has to be a fight every
morning to go to school and be lazy? Telling them 3, 4,5 times to do
somthing b4 they do..and u disapline, etc..and still they dont learn..im
so aggravated right now I told my son 3 times to get off the
goddamn phone and get going..he didnt lisen, so i left without him and
took my daughter to school..if he isnt going to be ready and be
responsible, this will happen..im so sick of playin maid, caretaker,
etc..he is going to be 12 and he just DOESNT want to learn
RESPONSIBLITY..!!! I think his friends come first in his life and this
is going to change..well, he just screwed his whole weekend up, cause
hes grounded now!!!

im so aggravated, im sorry i had to get this out and see if any other
parents go thru this too..thanks.

IF HE DID NOT GET OFF THE PHONE, WHY DIDN'T YOU JUST HANG UP THE PHONE
ON HIM?

because i was busy with my daughter..was filling out paper work for her
and i guess i didnt think about it..lol..duhhhh..i will next time
though..

I agree with Tigerman. I did that with my daughter several years ago,
and it worked beautifully. She was mad at me for a little while, but
she knew when to get off the phone after that.

well stupid me i didnt think about it..i was so occupied this morning
with other things

guess im not a good mother not thinkin of that...
lol

Another thing that worked with my kids pretty well, was if I'd ask them
to do something -- like dry the dishes, I could ask a hundred times,and
I would be ignored. But if I'd say " OK, please don't dry the dishes.
Under no circumstances do I want you to dry the dishes." They'd laugh
-- and then do it. I don't know what that worked, but it did.

lmao..i'll tell ya right now summerlady, that wont work..i already told
them, they dont want to do chores around her, dont dare ask me for $$$
for movies, etc..cause they arent going to get it and from now on when i
find all of theyre crap on the floor that shouldnt be there, its goin in
the garbage..i've done it b4, i'll do it again

Sweet, Don't say you're not a good mom!! It's just rough raising kids.

i know..just very aggravated right now and depressed

Unfortunately, I need to run and get ready for work. Need to leave in
20 min. and still sitting here in my nightgown! There's something else
I'd like to say on this subject of getting them to do stuff, but it'll
have to wait till I get home tonight. Have a real good day, Sweet!

ty summerlady..u too.. and ty for your advice

Yeah, one of the few things that really gets me down is when my kids are
so lazy (ages 13 and 17). I work from my home, so I get a whole 15
second break when I am done with work before I have to start dinner
(walking from my computer to the kitchen!) Then after dinner it's time
to clean up from dinner, then vacuum, on and on. I know that I did not
respect the amount of work my mother had to do (she had 8 kids!) until I
had kids of my own. I was not a tidy person until I lived on my own.
Hang in there! As a poster said, it is just not easy raising kids.

MY SON IS 11 ALSO SWEETS....I FEEL THE SAME WAY YOU DO SOMETIMES....WELL
MOST OF THE TIME!!! EVERYDAY ITS THE SAME OL SH*T....AND THEN THEY
EXPECT SOMETHING NICE EVEN WHEN THEY DONT DO WHAT THEY ARE SUPPOSED
TOO....

MY SON TOLD ME LAST NIGHT (AFTER I SMACKED HIM ON THE ARM) THAT IF THAT
LEFT A BRUISE HES TELL HIS TEACHER....OH I WENT OFF.....HE DOESNT EVEN
KNOW WHAT AN ASS WHOOPIN IS....BUT I TOLD HIM IF HE WANTED TO PLAY THAT
GAME WITH ME THEN BEFORE THEY CAME AND GOT ME I WOULD BEAT HIS
ASS......THEN I FELT BAD (JUST FOR A MINUTE)....IM AGGRAVATED TOO
SWEETS!!!

yeah i hear ya crazysilly..my son has threaden me too to tell someone
for spankin him..yeah i said spankin..and in todays world it is
considered child abuse..screw that..u dont teach your kids the right
thing and think they can walk all over u all the time, then u will have
a child that controls u and become very spoiled.. not in my
book..my kids r not spoiled and i dont ususally spank at all..but they
dont crawl all over me..and they dont want to lisen, grounded time!!! no
friends, no t.v, no computer, no phone..nothin..then maybe one day they
will reaize they dont like to live like that and will learn!!!

Hey sweet- I have two grown and one 16 yr old still at home.
If mine didnt want to get off the phone when asked then guess what?
NO MORE PHONE. Trust me it works.My kids use to count on me being
distracted with something else like I wasnt paying attention. It is a
good ploy of kids today because our lives are so busy.
I use natural consequences. My son ran up my phone bill by almost $200.
He begged and begged for a phone and for his 16th I got him one.As soon
as he wasnt responsible I took it back 2 weeks of no talking to g-friend
etc. He was taking out the trash and doing chores and I finally gave it
back to him.He's much more responsible now.There is no screaming no
arguing I just take action very calmly and sit back and wait for them to
see the benefits of responsible choices verses the consequences of bad
ones. So far I can say our home is much more peaceful. Being a single
parent hasnt been easy. But you learn as you go.
Trust me Ive been where you are its not fun. Im not so stressed now and
I take a dont care attitude if they dont want to listen its on them...

and im sorry ((crazysilly) about the other day..i hope u arent mad..im
on here to make friends, not fight..was just concerned bout kevin is
all..nothing more..im dating someone i really, really like right now..so
not even interested..

thank u greeneyed..well im tired of fighting, so..things r going to
change..would help if i got help from my ex..he doesnt disapline as much
as me, so..its very, very hard

anyways, i want to add u to myspace..remember? y wont it let me..y dont
u try to add me please?

crazylovinsxyklp is my i.d on there...thanks

Sweet you are a GOOD mom.
Toughest job I can think of single parent
Kids learn how to push your buttons
You have to make choices of which battles to fight.
Are there any Big Brother organizations close to you?
Just a thought, trying to get part of the load off you.
always here with a open ear kiddo

thanks sage and yes there is a bigbrother/bigsister organiszation
here..i thought of that b4..